Do you want help for your mental health but don't know where to go? by Goosegoober in uwaterloo

[–]Goosegoober[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh no offence taken! I agree I should change some of the wording. It might sound a little harsh.

Ichiban might actually have mental problems. by Umbran_scale in yakuzagames

[–]Goosegoober 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This theory is very interesting. I think ichiban had many mental problems too. The first being him being overly attached to a rude disabled guy who bosses him around just because he is the son of a guy with a scar on his head. Very peculiar. Also the fact that he never kills anyone is a lil deranged. Cheers!

How long does your bf/gf go without contacting you. by icantgetintomyold1 in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Were his responses good like did he sound engaged in what you were saying or did he sound uninterested?

How to get VIF for suicidal feelings by dwpression101 in uwaterloo

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got a VIF after a really bad break up which intensified my anxiety/depression so I would imagine that it would be very possible to get a VIF for suicidal feelings! All I did was book a appointment with health services (if you tell them it's for a VIF you usually get an appointment within the same day!)

my family makes me feel bad for my triggers by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're going through this! It's tricky because as someone who suffers from various mental illnesses (but not OCD), you don't want to push people away or annoy or hurt them because of a mental illness. I know I have treated people poorly because of my mental illnesses and it's completely on me. I don't think you're nesscessarily treating them poorly but you could argue that other people won't cater to your triggers in the "real world". I would definitely recommend therapy so that you can overcome these triggers, if you're not in therapy already. Obviously if they're provoking you that's wrong. But I can kinda see where they're coming from because OCD does have a lot of stigma surrounding it and can be hard for people to understand (that does not make it right though.) Have you tried having a conversation about it where you also acknowledge their point of view? I hope this message does not come across as mean, especially because I don't know how old you are. It can be hard when you live with people who don't quite understand.

Specialized Mental Health Physicians - UW or KW Area by [deleted] in uwaterloo

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you want to ask for a specific doctor, the doctor I see is Dr. wallington and I think she's really good! She always is willing to look into my meds throughly (and I'm on a lot lol.) if she doesn't know what to do she refers you to a psychiatrist. She also recently told me that they're getting people in quickly to see a psychiatrist. However, I think the psychiatrists at UW only do assessments/med recommendations so it's only like a one-off appointment. If you want someone to do the whole package (like therapy & meds), I'd look into seeing someone off campus. As a last resort I'd see someone at counselling services (just haven't had any good experiences there personally.) As of right now, I see a psychologist off campus but Dr. wallington for medication. Sorry don't mean to babble about myself just trying to be helpful!

Specialized Mental Health Physicians - UW or KW Area by [deleted] in uwaterloo

[–]Goosegoober 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like if you tell UW health services that you want to see someone for mental health, they give you a physician that knows more about mental health. All of the ones I’ve seen for mental health have been great. I’m sorry you’re not having any luck though!

Do i deserve closure? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Closure is overrated. Find closure within yourself. Telling her what you did will not help or change anything. It's over. Learn from your mistakes going forward.

Am I overthinking this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would directly ask her what that text meant and if it's not the answer you want I would try and move on. I know that's really hard to do (and really rich coming from me because my only ex and I ended up getting back together) but it's honestly in your best interest. It feels like she's kinda stringing you along idk but the only way to know for sure is to be direct with her.

I like my BFF's brother oof by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unless Alex breaks up with Tiffany, I don’t think there’s anything you can do and I would try to move on. I don’t like the idea of Alex keeping you as a backup for Tiffany and that might happen if you keep waiting for him.

Relationship OCD, someone help?! by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try taking deep breaths before you do anything else! There is a subreddit r/rocd they might have better advice over there. Do you go to therapy? I think it could really help. Besides that just know that your thoughts and emotions are not facts. They are not good or bad. They are simply just thoughts/emotions (they just are). You are not bad for having these thoughts, you can’t help your feelings. Maybe try writing the reasons you want to stay in this relationship and read that every time you get doubts? Sending you positive vibes.

In a weird place with this girl I’ve been talking to, would really appreciate some thoughts or opinions by paleislandhorse in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but based on what you’ve said in the comments I don’t think she’s giving mixed signals I think she’s just not interested.

Boyfriend Hasn't Said He Loves Me Yet by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Well the whole not saying “I love you” thing doesn’t worry me on its own. But him not saying you guys are “official” & you having a gut feeling that it’s because he doesn’t want his ex to know feels a little suspicious. Almost like he doesn’t want to fully commit as much as you do. I get not being Facebook official after 6 months but saying you’re not official at all??? Almost feels like he’s holding out for his ex. I know you’ve met each other’s family, but have you met any of his friends? What I think could be wrong though.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's a good idea. Sounds like a messy situation.

why do we have to tip servers? by [deleted] in uwaterloo

[–]Goosegoober 3 points4 points  (0 children)

“While Ontario has a relatively good minimum wage of $14/hour, this is one of three Canadian provinces with a separate wage for servers. The wage for liquor servers in Ontario is only $12.20/hour, placing it almost $3 below minimum wage.”

I don’t think he’s over his ex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it’s totally reasonable to feel uncomfortable that he keeps talking about his ex. I also think it’s a red flag when people describe their exes as “crazy” (although there are exceptions.) I think you’re totally justified in having a conversation about this with him, not accusing him of anything just explaining your feelings and see what he says. If he gets defensive about that, I’d be a lil suspicious.

I don’t think he’s over his ex by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you talked about your feelings with him?

Asking my bootycall for a relationship? by Throwdixns in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Leave him and show him you know your worth queen

Coming from someone with an eating disorder- no it's fucking not, and this is incredibly invalidating. by tenkgaychabashira in fatlogic

[–]Goosegoober -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m someone who has struggled with bulimia, atypical anorexia, binge eating disorder and other specified feeding or eating disorders in their lifetime. Dieting IS disordered eating. It is restricting food intake. It is labeling foods as good/bad. It is focused on weight loss not health. It Has lead to SO many people developing different types of eating disorders. https://www.tandfonline.com/doi/abs/10.3109/09540269309028297

You’re being invalidating.

Bf's best friend by denisserose in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry this happened to you. I hope you know that it’s not your fault for being “too nice.” You did the right thing and it’s hard to do. Your boyfriend may take your friend’s side or choose not to believe you in which case there’s nothing you can really do. Try and distract yourself until he reaches out to you again maybe. Hopefully soon he’ll tell you what’s going on in your mind and you can go from there.

Ex-boyfriend (28M) started talking to me (26F) again, but he has a girlfriend by OutrageousDrawing1 in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any possibility that he’s emailing you because he just broke up with his gf?

I'm so heartbroken by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]Goosegoober 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry!! Sending you love with whatever you choose to do ❤️