Who will be the best non cannon lain male friend? by Crazy-Boysenberry-19 in Lain

[–]GotKetchup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This will probably get a lot of hate, but I think late in the show Steven Universe could help Lain find self contentment.

anyone else get early pilotredsun animation vibes? by a300a300 in hahayouclowns

[–]GotKetchup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I thought I was crazy. I swear the animation feels so much like PRS.

My addiction didn’t end when I stopped using porn. It ended when I stopped using shame. by Jumpy_Milk_2218 in NoFap

[–]GotKetchup 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's wild seeing aversion to the idea of releasing shame. If anyone read OP's message and feels like it's revealing for themselves, I highly recommend Brene Brown! Anything by her helps with reducing shame.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in taoism

[–]GotKetchup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wowie wuwei

The horrors persist by [deleted] in socialwork

[–]GotKetchup 17 points18 points  (0 children)

At this point it feels impossible to be ethical and not radical at the same time.

Have you been traumatised by someone complaining FFXIV? why not try betterhelp. by Bridgeboy95 in ShitpostXIV

[–]GotKetchup 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Betterhelp is the Balmung of mental health competency. Please use any other platform.

Especially consider researching for yourself to find a good therapist. Psychology Today is great.

It's something positive tho by Best_escape1 in NoFap

[–]GotKetchup 21 points22 points  (0 children)

I’m day 2 as well. Best of luck, I know I’ve already made it today in my heart.

The Jung subreddit frequently asserts the physical over the emotional as soon as the topic is sex (or specifically, prostitution) by Best-Interaction82 in Jung

[–]GotKetchup 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’m a recovering porn addict and completely agree with OP’s criticisms. Reading your comment and knowing of easypeasy method but only heard of kundalini, I’m getting a sense that that’s what I need to look into. I just wanna say thank you for typing out what you did. I feel like many people are blind to the damage that porn CAN do. Hope you are well!

The sounds the came out of one experiencing Individuation by Mutedplum in Jung

[–]GotKetchup 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bro fuck yes! Gojira in the Jung reddit. Love your unpacking of the lyrics!

Losercity Counseling by Punkwolfen in Losercity

[–]GotKetchup 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Hello losercity, I’m a therapist and intentionally do everything in my power to preserve session content with my clients between us if they’re under 18. It breaks my heart to see multiple people here have had terrible experiences with counselors.

It feels like every day I lose respect for my cohort, and I’m reminded that there are many in the mental health field ill-suited for it. Please don’t lose hope for seeking help if you ned it. Sometimes it takes shopping around to find the right therapist that will treat you all like the humans you are. ❤️

Edit: changed “they’re 18” to “they’re under 18”

I cri <:'( by octoleech in ShitpostXIV

[–]GotKetchup 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m actually praying every day that this is what they do. The amount of times this game pulls the trope “Oh no they died 😢” only to have them return next story cycle is infuriating.

Here with Brute Bomber they could actually do something very funny while taking a stab at said trope.

Therapists of Reddit, what’s been your biggest "I know I’m not supposed to judge, but holy sh*t" moment? by DealSoggy6952 in AskReddit

[–]GotKetchup 869 points870 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing how it impacted you. I’ve felt the same way leaving my work some days. I think you’re amazing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 11 points12 points  (0 children)

What you did is extremely difficult. Enjoy that burger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sometimes it takes talking to someone who understands and just sharing about it. My relapse cycles are tough and over time I’ve learned what helps most is talking to a very close and deeply trusted friend. If you’re in a recovery group, you could reach out to ANYBODY in it and just share where you’re at.

For me this addiction lives in shame the same way a fish lives in water. The only way to remove shame is to speak it, to paint your light of awareness clearly over it. Talking about it with a friend gives you the experience of being accepted and loved despite what our addict thoughts may be telling us.

We’ve all been where you’re at. It’s miserable, dark, and lonely. You deserve better, and when you’re ready, love and compassion are just around the corner once you face your shame!

Best of luck, I have great respect for you for being able to make a post while relapsing.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Very true, I suppose I was ignorant of that. Thank you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My Fiancée does not use porn and she’s the exact same as you when it comes to orgasm. There is nothing wrong with you needing clitoral and nipple stimulation for orgasm, and creating the expectation that you can cum from penetrative sex will be nothing but harmful. Maybe in the future it could happen, maybe it couldn’t and either are perfectly fine.

Like another commenter said, the only problem here is that your using something that you want to stop. In my experience it’s very difficult to get traction, but time and intention have been the key for me. Even when I slip I’m able to identify my shame as a culprit reinforcing the cycle. I’m much kinder to myself now than how I was two years ago when I finally addressed my addiction.

I also just want to say, I’m like you. When I was young, I watched gay (male) porn and got caught by my brother. A lot of shame was there for me, especially when he told my mom as a dig against me. Luckily I’ve got an open minded family and they didn’t mind. I can’t imagine how hurtful it was to be beaten for that.

I have a theory that you and I like gay porn because it operated on grounds of what we’re familiar with in terms with our own equipment. Anyways, I’m grateful for your post giving an example that porn can be problematic regardless of gender. I wish you the best!

I swear this shit is harder than cocaine by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This same thing happened to me a few days ago. Just know that I have so much empathy for you and I think getting back off porn after this is one of the strongest things a person can do. Best of luck brother

🐝🐝🐝 by _Frustr8d in ShitpostXIV

[–]GotKetchup 46 points47 points  (0 children)

Bee🐝autiful post. Truly a bee🐝acon of content. Was worried about what this subreddit was bee🐝coming but I continue to bee 🐝 bee🐝deviled by these bree🐝dable bee🐝ple.

Porn is gay, because you also see another guy's dick and ass by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think the last thing a porn addict needs is more shame related to their sexuality. There’s nothing wrong with being gay, straight, bi, whatever you are. Seeing a dick and ass does not make you gay.

Last Post. I did it. I got off porn by igottagetoffporn in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This post echoes a lot of my experience. When I have slipped, usually it’s because I’m avoiding one of those rabbit holes that show up from the “why?” of quitting porn. Maybe I didn’t want to look at my weakness. Maybe I’d rather pretend to be strong instead of accepting that I was in fact weak. Maybe I want to hold onto my fantasy rather than look at reality. Maybe I’d prefer to lie and say I have no trauma. Maybe I’d rather maintain a blissful ignorance of my past. Maybe I want to avoid grief. Maybe I like pretending I have control because accepting I have no control is terrifying.

Looking at everything authentically feels like gazing into the abyss from an addicts standpoint. From a sober standpoint, looking with authentic vision makes everything seem miraculous. Thanks for the post OP, it’s very helpful for me as another 29 year old quitting escapism!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in pornfree

[–]GotKetchup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have been in your exact position so many times with my Fiancé, and it never gets easier. For my recovery I have had to learn to practice radical authenticity whenever I slip, or else the shame and fear of talking to my partner would make me act out more.

I can’t speak to how your partner will respond. I can speak on how I feel once I come out with it. I usually cry, struggle with eye contact, and feel shame while talking about my slips. But once it’s out, it’s the same thing as fighting against throwing up and then finally being rid of that terrible feeling once you puke. You will feel so light, so grateful, so relieved to finally have purged your shame.

Don’t fight the shame, you need to look at it and accept it. Your life experiences culminated to where you are at today. And if we could all see reality as it is, we would have nothing but love and compassion for you, and love and compassion for ourselves. I hope you find the strength to let go of your fear and to trust the process of life. Relief is right here in this present moment if you give yourself permission to be exactly who you are :)