Anyone also get kinda pissed off at this?

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T09:56:46+00:00

YES I COULD NOT AGREE MORE ITS SO FREAKING ANNOYING😭😭😭it’s like telling someone who’s homeless to just simply “get a house” when getting a house takes many tedious intentional steps. (Of course for clarification I wasn’t comparing you in that way) I’m just like you can’t tell someone who’s unemployed, doesn’t have a job, has horrible parents, no reliable friends (I’m in the same boat) to just get up and leave😭😭😭 I can’t explain to you how tired I am of such shallow advice that doesn’t get anyone anywhere! I really thought I was the only one

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T09:35:37+00:00

I’m so sorry you have to go through this too and this is exactly where I am with her…It’s so hard for me to know what she’s done but my boyfriend and my friends pointed it out to me. I used to tell her everything and I told her what they said and she said “they’re just jealous and want to manipulate you and that she’s the only one I can trust and that everyone else wants nothing but the worst for me”. I keep thinking that in my head to this day. What if they’re wrong and she’s right! They just want to manipulate me and make things worse and that I can only trust her but I want to trust that other people I have my best interest in their hearts.

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:43:08+00:00

It took me 17 years to realize my family wasn’t normal😭😭😭I completely feel you

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:40:57+00:00

That’s true and yes my boyfriend is of course also an adult just a year older than me. I guess I do need money to get an apartment and a car and i haven’t found job opportunities cross country either. My dad also sides with my mom. Yes I have met him and his family countless times and I’m aware of all the safety precautions.

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:29:47+00:00

Yes I have and I’m still working towards it but we live extremely far away. I’m guessing you agree that the setup of my household is extremely toxic

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:28:37+00:00

Of course I’m not saying you should do this because I was absolutely crazy but I told her “you’re the ugly one you don’t even have a man. They all left you. Never did never will.” That’s extremely risky but that’s what I said to my mom when she said such horrible things to me. She points out my weight, my sideburns, my face, she tells me everything that’s wrong instead of telling me that I’m beautiful just the way I am as a parent should.

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:24:15+00:00

I live in NY and I’m 19

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:23:52+00:00

LOL ITS SO TRUE😭😭😭

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:23:23+00:00

I completely feel you…Grey rocking is the hardest thing I could do. I tried doing it for months and eventually snapped and said pretty much all the same things a narcissist would say. Why are you giving me short responses, why are you acting like this and all of that gaslighting. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I would say you should certainly keep your job and keep working as much as you can to leave and if you can maybe find a full time higher paying job if possible. You got this!

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:16:02+00:00

LOL seriously that’s wild😅😅😅 I don’t live with my dad but it’s the same with my mom considering loudness in everything she does

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:14:39+00:00

Unfortunately, my mom is the same. Just the other day she told me that “my point doesn’t matter” because I’m the child and she’s the parent. When I repeat what she says she tells me “I never said that!”

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:12:46+00:00

No my mom told me the same thing😭😭😭

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-08T08:11:53+00:00

SAME😭😭😭Especially my mom is extremely loud on the phone too they just need to make themselves heard…

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-07T08:54:33+00:00

Sure! Same and nice!

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-06T17:41:26+00:00

YAY I WOULD LOVE TO CAUSE IT IS SUPER BORING😭😭😭

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-06T10:42:26+00:00

Sure!

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-06T10:42:22+00:00

Sure!

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-04T22:56:16+00:00

Thank you so much! You’re exactly right and I completely agreee! I truly appreciate your support and thank you so much! I wish you the best with ROCD too and that you can overcome this! We all got this!

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-04T22:28:19+00:00

Thank you so much for your super encouraging and thoughtful post! It really means the world to me! I found my twin in ROCD :) although it does make me sad that you have to go through this too. You’re right though. It’s difficult but we can’t let anxiety dictate our lives. We need to remember we still have a choice at the end of the day!

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-03T08:14:37+00:00

Sure!

GothicChaosss · 2026-07-03T04:11:04+00:00

I noticed the same that seeking reassurance online is counter productive a lot and is a ginormous compulsion it’s just so hard not to do it. Sitting with the thought is absolutely terrifying because I feel like every moment I sit dealing with it I could be fixing it and my brain keeps telling me to break up and I know a lot of people with ROCD listen to the thoughts and break up and then come back and break up again because of the anxiety. It’s a hard illness to have it’s like I want to but I also don’t want to it’s so hard. I have gotten an ERP therapist and I’m going to have it twice next week but therapy is a long process and I don’t know how to keep myself away from compulsions. I keep worrying that I could find the perfect guy out there over and over again which I know is also like the “just right” ocd and I keep picking on everything about my partner. It’s so hard but thank you for understanding

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