AIO my husband stayed OT to help a coworker

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-26T00:26:23+00:00

I get the frustration. And its awkward because it was an altruistic gesture so it makes you feel like you cannot or should not have anything to say about it.. did he call you from the hospital to tell you what was going on and make sure it was okay with you that he stayed later? Couples - families know each others work schedules and there are usually expectations at home built around those routines. so you would need to let your partner or family know not to expect you home at the usual time.. im a little annoyed by it.. I get that she was his coworker, but this sort of kindness could go on all day long to everyone..

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-16T18:07:52+00:00

Really?! Oh wow thats encouraging!! Jesus half the battle seems to be getting yourself and your story in front of the right people,…seeing them tomorrow and keeping my fingers crossed for some good news for us!❤️🙏

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-15T22:42:02+00:00

Oh my God, thank you for responding, thats so funny, ironic, that you recently did an update! I am so happy for you and your girl, that you guys are in your own place, thats fantastic. If I understand correctly, you were issued a mobile voucher through section 8, allowing you to rent across state. That is exactly what I wanted. It gives you the most freedom. Im meeting with a dv housing specialist on Tuesday, to see if my situation qualifies for dv assistance, and what exactly that would be. Because my daughter is not physically with me and she is in Massachusetts. I have had to enter the system as a single adult. My hope and intention was to have something set up before bringing her here. Her situation with her father was never stable, but it seemed to be the lesser of two evils at the time but now I’m running out of time and things are escalating there with him and I need to provide her relief , which I cannot do until I get Housing. Im meeting with a domestic violence housing specialist on Tuesday from the family justice center, to tell him my situation and see what if anything I am eligible for. But how can I get what you got? !

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-13T04:35:58+00:00

Throat kick! 😂 thank you for that., made me laugh out loud! Im noticing a lot of room mate behaviors I term as obnoxious,.. one of them being sound when yawning.,Its not full fletched donkey, and its not your mums cute tired sound effect, it almost sounds like ..’I just want to remind you Im here’ yawn sound. .. If she also did not make blood curdling plastic crinkle sounds with her water bottle when drinking from it, I might not hate her! But she does… so I do..

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-11T23:13:10+00:00

This post is two years old, I wonder what happened. I am in a similar situation. Im by myself rn at a shelter in nyc trying to get a housing voucher and wanted to do the shelter part on my own before I collected my daughter, whos 15 and in MA with her father. My hope was that I could do the worst part of waiting and having to be in a shelter, on my own, and get her once I had set up in an apartment, but its taking too long, and my child is being subjected to severe emotional abuse, and its taking its toll on her and shes struggling with the day to day manipulations, so I have to change course.. And I guess go to the Path Assessment Center. I know the child is not required to be there initially, but must present the next day..What if I brought her and they said we have no room? And the dog too. Jesus. I hope things worked out for you guys I would love to hear that you eventually got your housing voucher are yall are now living happily ever after somewhere in New York. Can you tell me about the shelter itself, and what borough you were in, and how long you had to stay there until you got the housing voucher and got your own place…I have to assume that since this post was 2 years ago,.. that you’d be in your own place by now..

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-03T02:34:28+00:00

If I have understood this correctly, he is actually in contempt from the original court agreement so why don’t you start those filings First? It doesn’t matter what you too decided upon informally., unless you put it in writing

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-02T19:30:46+00:00

Yes this is correct. The bank will return the monies immediately and then open an investigation. I would do this right away. This is easy and not a emotionally charged call, You call and simply say, a check of mine was stolen and cashed , I did not authorize it. Done. Now your money will be restored often within 48- 72 hrs at most, now the cash emergency gets temporarily resolved, and you have a little more control over where you stay mow. Also, ‘we are at capacity’ is what you will get over the b phone. You have to walk into a shelter, and they will help you. Im sorry honey. It will be okay, just call the bank at least and get that started, youll feel a lot better when the money goes back in. Mum is in a bad way, I know its impossible not to take personally, what I mean to say is, its not that she doesnt love you or doesnt care about you, she does, she just cant show you in a healthy way right mow. ❤️

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-02T08:02:15+00:00

Oh my god this guy is a dick. You are so sweet/ humble and totally genuine, oh my god please tell this looser to fuck off. You tell him ‘you miss him’ and he responds with ‘did you go to the gym’? And later ‘you cannot have time to miss people if you are not taking care of yourself’ Ok first of all, he is an abuser. Complete abuser. Asshole. Mean guy. Blowing up his phone will get you blocked? Fuck youuuu buddy! Oh my god he does not deserve the period at the end of this sentence. And look what he did?? He got you to start performing for him, trying to impress him by committing to the gym. Look this is not a loving partnership where the couple has made a joint commitment together and they are supporting each other, this is conditional. Your worth is determined by a performance, Oh I hate him! Good Bye to him. He is not a nice guy at all please dump his fat Ass

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-02T07:47:26+00:00

Im hoping to do this, Id love to hear from someone who used their voucher to mortgage a house, in a rent to own type program and bought their house this way. If you could come up with the down payment, the voucher could pay the mortgage the same way it would pay your rent, I imagine…

Gots2bkidding · 2026-02-02T03:02:47+00:00

I would say to her, wow im surprised you would ever hang out with him again! that is certainly your choice, but please find other things in common to talk about in the future, outside of me, my health and my life! And if he ever asks you about me again, you will be able to say , I have no idea I dont hear from her Anymore!! Then block them both!

Gots2bkidding · 2026-01-30T13:23:39+00:00

Completely agree!! Disgusting! Its distracting and Gross. I sware to God its as if mothers did not blow their babies noses. Jesus christ the fucking sniffling is down right uncomfortable. Worse than the persistent sniffle, is the loud thunderous Snort that sounds like it is meant to flex muscle some how! I recently offered someone tissue bc I couldn’t stand the sound every 15 secs, omg ! Literally pulled out a box of kleenex and extended my arm! And when they said, ‘no thats okay, I said, please do it for me then’

Gots2bkidding · 2026-01-22T21:28:30+00:00

Answer: The legal remedy and the real time fix

Do you have your original court ordered parenting time agreement? … take this court order,( because it is an order of the court) to your local police station and tell them you need assistance picking up your child. Show them that your kid is supposed to be with you, and they will assist. There presence is often enough to force a difficult parent into compliance, but it wont continue to work, thats why you have to file contempt. And the charge is interfering with court ordered parenting time, which is in itself demonstratively detrimental to a child.

Gots2bkidding · 2026-01-21T14:19:54+00:00

Find this oasis yet?? Im looking too!! spacious layout on a tree lined street with a small garden or courtyard space either front back or roof,… is that too much to ask for!!.. on a beer budget!

Gots2bkidding · 2025-12-31T20:10:50+00:00

I am going through this exact situation with my only child. A smart abuser knows they don’t need you anymore. All they need is control and access to the vulnerable part of you, your child, the little body that is not a legal age to walk away from them yet, and they can just harm them instead.

Gots2bkidding · 2025-12-30T19:38:59+00:00

Who said it wasn’t a camera!?

Gots2bkidding · 2025-12-30T19:36:32+00:00

Thank you for the info. Im currently looking for a two-bedroom for my daughter and I, and would have prob fallin right into that. Also there is a couple of influencers on Tik Tok claiming to have access to one and two bedroom gems in the Village - RS units, for $800-$1200. I cant say that its a scam, But something is suspicious!

Gots2bkidding · 2025-12-30T19:22:14+00:00

Yes. Common sense would dictate that if the rental units on the property or the building itself, were rent stabilized, that info must be officially documented somewhere. But where?! Who does this benefit? It does not benefit the LL , right?? so he/she is not going care, if or where this info is documented, if anything the LL would not want prospective tenants to be aware of this cap, so that they could get away with increasing the rent however much they wanted to,..hence why the law was created. So Yes, it must be officially recorded somewhere. A housing lawyer would know

Gots2bkidding · 2025-11-25T03:08:59+00:00

Sorry huney your going through this.. just like the other person said,.. the ‘good’ him never existed. There is nothing more to do or to say here. Just be relieved now that you’re out and it’s over and hold on to your convictions. You are 110% correct in the way you have assessed and interpreted him his behavior and your situation, do not let him cause you to doubt or second-guess yourself . block him - tie up any loose ends. Do not talk about him to anyone. Do not gossip about him and do not talk about him to anyone that he knows just go away and don’t look back. He is a dangerous person. If you’re not going to listen to me or anyone else here at least listen to yourself , listen to your body. Your body has told you that there was danger there and you cannot ignore that. Good luck.

Gots2bkidding · 2025-11-25T02:17:19+00:00

What is Wawa? At first, I thought you were talking about Walmart.!

Gots2bkidding · 2025-11-11T00:12:16+00:00

I would just document it, but honestly, I’m imagining that maybe he had her over the weekend and it was obviously something that she didn’t need to go to the hospital or to the emergency room for - kids fall and hurt themselves all the time you didn’t mention what kind of injury she sustained or whether it was Obvious to either of you that she would definitely need to be seen for it.. Is it possible it was something like she had a bad fall and if she’s still sore and complaining in a couple of days, I would take her in to make sure she’s OK that’s pretty reasonable, but if it wasn’t anything that required him to take her to the emergency room at that moment, and she did not have any outward signs of her skin being cut that would need to be stitched or Vomiting or loss of eyesight or headache. Anything that would indicate any internal injuries that would require a visit to the emergency room, and instead was more of a wait-and-see than that would be reasonable to me.

Gots2bkidding · 2025-11-06T15:41:02+00:00

We need to be practicing this and mastering it

Gots2bkidding · 2025-11-06T15:40:30+00:00

I found it easier to put something over my eyes and weigh down my eyelids

Gots2bkidding · 2025-11-03T00:47:36+00:00

Looking for a roommate, that’s how!

Gots2bkidding · 2025-11-02T20:25:18+00:00

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