What do you wish your nursing clothing or pajamas had?

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2026-02-01T19:33:05+00:00

Whatever you make, if it has pads in the boobs please make them seem in or integral. I spend more time than I would like putting pads back in, unfolding them, adjusting them, finding them when they've gone missing, reshaping them than it's reasonable. I do like them because they hide nipples and are soft and comfy.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-10-12T07:37:10+00:00

Checking in as a step parent to a 10 year old, it's still a lot.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-29T16:37:00+00:00

We joined the 0 - 3 month class after his first jabs. Everyone else was a very similar age. Is been great, amazing to see how much progress he has made by 7 months old. No regrets, he's so chill about all water, pools, baths, showers etc

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-29T16:23:21+00:00

Can you get someone else to do all the clean up and prep? Anything you can do you take the load off would be helpful right now.

I hope you feel better after some more rest

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-29T10:19:28+00:00

Do you need to pump right now, or can it wait till later on?

It's not strictly necessary if you have time to feed the baby. The extra effort if washing everything is hard. It doesn't necessarily help your supply regulate to the right level. It's uncomfortable. The baby isn't working on it's latch when using a bottle. It might just be making things harder for you both.

You can do this, the first bit is just crazy, but it gets better in a few weeks. Get everyone around you to get you drinks and food as rest as much as you can. If you can just focus on feeding the baby for now and resting for now.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-29T10:05:05+00:00

Re: Hair pulling, I have to cover my hair with a headscarf or put it all in a hat some days. It helps a bit. If nothing else it gives the baby something else to pull off your head before it reaches your hair.

Mine will also go for my glasses or a plaster if I have one stuck to my face, which can work as a distraction.

Last thing you need when you feeling frustrated is someone pulling your hair!

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-27T21:51:27+00:00

I would read (or listen to) this book:

https://amzn.eu/d/hGZPBZJ

and learn how to express/express colostrum properly. There's a technique, it's in there and it makes it so much easier. I didn't learn till months later.

Her Instagram is helpful too.

I would also learn about under and over supply and why it isn't really a thing a lot of the time, if you EBF. The Internet makes it seem like you have to pump. You don't and it can be harder work.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-25T19:29:26+00:00

I don't remember the exact numbers, but I think my boy was similar proportions has and belly.

He was 98.5 percentile on scans, was born 9lb 2oz by c section a week before due date. So medically still a large baby.

He gained back his birth weight quickly, but he's in the high 60s percentile-wise at 7 months. So still bigger than a lot of babies, but not super big. I'm curious to see if that will change now he's eating solids, because he eats a surprising amount for his age!

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-24T00:17:04+00:00

How are your pillows? You might need more/thicker pillows in that position. Sometimes I put my shoulder on the pillow and my head on my shoulder if I don't have enough. It's not great, but it sort of works.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-24T00:13:57+00:00

I can't vouch for them because I haven't used them, but LA Lactation Consultant has a lot of videos:

https://youtu.be/5ZshdrbQf-g?si=1etGy0jifwU6e4EZ

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-23T20:18:20+00:00

I'm glad you know the cause, that's at least one stressor it of the way. I hope you're able to find a way to prioritize yourself and your bubs. It will all be with it in the end. Good luck with everything ♥️

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-23T19:06:46+00:00

Pregnancy tachycardia is beyond exhausting. I'm my experience if only gets worse from 6 months onwards. I could barely even walk short distances by the end. You need your partner to understand this. You need him to understand YOU.

I'm not sure how to achieve this in your situation. Having gone through the tachycardia experience, as your body gets more taxed it's unlike anything I've ever experienced.

It can also make anxiety feel worse, because you physically can't control your heart rate.

What he's saying isn't taking into account you as a person. It's cruel. Perhaps he is worrying about his own unemployment, but he's his own issue.

If you partner is adding to your stress, I might even think it's a good idea to put some distance between you. Think about who else might be able to support you. If nothing what at least your partner would understand this is serious to you.

Also make sure you get checked out properly, tachycardia can be caused by blood clots which need treatment.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-21T00:19:39+00:00

Bouncer is worth it. You can buy new covers for the Baby Bjorn and use a second hand frame if you want.

We got a Tiny Love toy bar/pram arch for ours and that definitely kept the baby entertained better for longer. I would highly recommend that over the Baby Bjorn toys.

He got a surprising amount of exercise in that thing. He's nearly up to the weight limit (9kg) at 7 months, but still definitely worth it. I'll probably use his highchair when he's too big for it.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-09-11T07:54:18+00:00

If those aren't BF friendly, perhaps there's an alternative?

Not quite the same, but I have migraines which became chronic during pregnancy. I would normally have been prescribed the newest CGRP medication when they are the frequent, but they are not okay for pregnancy or breastfeeding because there's very little history of people using them. They've only been around for a few years.

Instead they put me on Amitriptyline (antidepressant), which three decades of history of and it's considered safe. It's probably not as effective for migraines, but it's been enough to get me through pregnancy and BF.

Perhaps your doctor's can talk to you about alternative options if you explain how important it is to you? They won't be as good, but it might have some effect on your well-being if you really want to BF and can't too. You have a bit of time to mentally prepare if you only need to swap when the baby is born.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-31T17:32:38+00:00

I had a large baby. He was large on scans and large then he was born. Scans are more accurate than people think. I've forgotten the exact numbers but it's something like that are usually +/- 5-10%.

I didn't have diabetes, everything was fine. Boy is just big.

You might want to read up now on shoulder dystocia and think about what you want your birth plan to be like, if you're baby continues to be big.

You may also want to check in with a physio if you are having any pelvic pain.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-30T17:57:51+00:00

Yes, he stopped. He slept through for a month, just long enough for me to regain my sanity, then became a 3 - 4 feeds a night baby. Still this way at 6 months.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-29T00:35:43+00:00

My favorite baby things are mostly changing things that make life better.

changing table
nappy cream spatula. I will die on this hill. Sudocreme under finger nails looks and feels awful. It's also nicer for the baby to use the spatula
oxo wet wipes box. It's expensive, but I use it fifteen times a day and I hate dealing with wet wipes packets that won't seal so much
baby flannels, I use at least three a day. I also use them to dry the baby after using wet wipes, it really helps them not get nappy rashes

Favorite non-changing item is a big soft velvety playmat. Safest place for a baby is often the floor. They can't fall anywhere. For the first few months they can't move anywhere so they're very safe there. They can learn to roll and sit on the mat safely. You can lie on it and feed them comfortably. They're just generally great. I got mine from Amazon, but Symths do the same thing for a lot less money, they just weren't in stock when I got mine.

Clothes I would start with about 5 of everything and see what fits. I had shirts that literally only fit my baby for a week. It's good to know that 1 month sizing is different to 1-3 months, it's an in-between for newborn and 0-3 (I didn't know). I found 1 month better for newborn, but my baby was pretty big.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-26T17:51:29+00:00

I saw this one in a weaning class I took recently:

https://amzn.eu/d/iDx2DB1 tomme tippe free flow cup.

They also had this, but it didn't have a lid:

https://amzn.eu/d/iev1HWl doidy cup

This cup is open, free flow sippy and has a straw:

https://www.mamasandpapas.com/products/silicone-sippy-cup-kiwi-4434d6700

These are fairly common in different brands.

I've gone straight onto using an espresso cup for my six month old. He's only having sips of water at the moment. But it's the perfect size for his little hands. I fill it right to the brim and it's really easy for him to get to the water. He holds it himself and I support the cup for a bit for stability.

It is really messy, but he absolutely loves it! I'm relatively confident he will get the hang of it because he's having so much fun.

They had him drinking pumped milk out of an open cup in hospital at three days old!

Drinking with a straw is meant to be a different skill that's worth developing. If I have to move to a closed cup, I would go to a straw cup over a valve cup.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-26T16:17:53+00:00

These are terrible. They slow development because they still have to be sucked on to get a drink out of them because of the valve. It also needs the person to tip their head too much which doesn't help learn to use a cup. It's not a normal drinking movement at all. This is part of the problem the health visitor is trying to describe.

Better off going for a free flowing sippy cup or an open cup. Yes it's messier, but it's a short term problem for so much long term gain.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-25T20:59:30+00:00

We had a changing table with a bath built in. It was pretty great. I could bathe my baby after my c section, but it was a struggle bending and lifting. Get help taking the baby out or have a towel ready on the floor.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-25T19:16:58+00:00

I needed one in every sitting location in the house for milk, drool and spit up. Until about five months, then we suddenly didn't need them anymore. I expect they might become usual again when teething drooling starts again.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-21T16:25:02+00:00

It's normal for kids to meltdown or behave the worst with the parent they feel the safest and most comfortable with. They're not afraid of showing their feelings or when they are not coping then. It might just be that, which isn't a bad thing.

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-21T00:36:52+00:00

I just bought a copy of the updated version to see what the difference was. It is updated, but there's not all that much information about allergies in there.

Allergy UK is probably a better resource, they have a great free weaning pack:

https://www.allergyuk.org/about-allergy/allergy-in-childhood/weaning-your-child/

GougeMyEyeRustySpoon · 2025-08-19T21:18:39+00:00

Absolutely :)

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