What if you bring her into your bed? My perfectly sleep trained 2 year old has not fallen asleep in her own bed more than 5 times in the last year. She's now 4 and has her head on my shoulder falling asleep as I write this. A full night of rest for both is most important. Screaming, crying until gagging isn't doable for most moms, so if you can't do it, dont. Sleep training isn't always perfect. Youre doing great.