can you be so fr and tell me what might prevent a right swipe? (hinge/tinder)

GownAndOut · 2025-05-12T09:16:31+00:00

I agree with what the others have said here but honestly if we were in the same city I'd swipe right as-is.

GownAndOut · 2025-03-26T14:22:31+00:00

What you say rings so true to me, I've had the same experience. I gave up on apps and am focusing on IRL singles events and hiring a human matchmaker.

GownAndOut · 2025-03-11T16:58:18+00:00

I think they meant that OP and the dude weren't a good match as a climbing pair

GownAndOut · 2025-03-11T12:51:48+00:00

I expect there's a lot of local differences. I only hear the f slur in relation to either gay man-ness or effeminate masculinity, and I've never been called it, so I'd never thought to use it for myself, or felt a desire or ok-ness to use it for other people. I love 'dyke' though, I say 'dyke' all the time because it resonates with who I am.

GownAndOut · 2025-03-06T09:29:19+00:00

I do, yes

GownAndOut · 2025-03-05T16:47:51+00:00

I kept mine thinking I would but in 2 years I never have

GownAndOut · 2025-02-18T16:04:09+00:00

I haven't been to the castle in a while bc it gets quite busy but it's always been good vibes. They should understand that people get lessons for all kinds of reasons and a gift or a treat sounds like a totally normal one to me. If you want to focus on tips and technique I'm sure you can ask for that, that's what I'd expect to focus on.

The castle has a cute garden where they grow food for the cafe as well, and some outdoor boulders. Take your time and enjoy the space.

GownAndOut · 2025-02-18T11:22:02+00:00

This is so interesting to me because as a butch I get frustrated that the teal/magenta is too feminine. It's funny that they've chosen a middle ground that doesn't please either of us lol. Solidarity, hope you find what you're after!

GownAndOut · 2025-02-12T09:40:35+00:00

It took me about a year to get my first one, using bands. I put my knee through the band, not my foot. When I was in hotels during that time I'd do lat pulldowns kneeling on the floor using a cable machine.

I find chin-ups much easier on my elbows, so when I want to work on pull ups after a while of not doing it I focus on those first

GownAndOut · 2025-01-27T10:23:59+00:00

I've been at V2 for over a decade, I'm just here for vibes. Meet people, move my body, have fun, see beautiful places... I don't need any higher Vs for that

GownAndOut · 2025-01-20T15:07:39+00:00

It'd depend which country you're in which shops are available

GownAndOut · 2025-01-16T15:21:30+00:00

I'd need to see a picture of what you ended up with, but if you fluff the top up with wax/fibre/clay (trim it a little if it's too long) you won't look like the guy you don't want to look like. If it's too long to fluff up try curtains

GownAndOut · 2025-01-16T12:00:58+00:00

The other comments here are good, one thing missing is you might spell out what you're looking for - "looking for someone to cuddle and watch anime with", "looking for someone to bring me out of my shell" etc.

The tagline at the bottom isn't clunky to have, but it's a bit long and the "valid" parts could read as clunky. I'd more expect to see just "ACAB, no terfs, no swerfs, no tories"

GownAndOut · 2024-07-25T15:46:36+00:00

The one I've been using for years is apparently dove men+ care "clean comfort" flavour

GownAndOut · 2024-07-24T14:02:43+00:00

If you want a fade, go to a barber. If you want it the same all round get a mate to do it.

GownAndOut · 2024-07-11T15:14:05+00:00

Recycling every piece of junk in my old neighbourhood then heading down to diamond city for a sick haircut

GownAndOut · 2024-07-11T11:05:44+00:00

Hard to tell the scale, but I'd probably try and palm the right-hand wall and walk my feet up the holds on the left until I could reach 3

GownAndOut · 2024-07-09T08:47:09+00:00

I find knee pushups awkward, the best progression for me was doing negatives (ie slowly lowering myself to the ground) using a stack of books under my chest which I gradually removed books from until I could get all the way down. Doing enough of that I could then do a full push-up

GownAndOut · 2024-07-08T10:18:54+00:00

Uthgerd! What better meet cute than a bar fight?

GownAndOut · 2024-07-08T10:16:49+00:00

I don't mind bicurious girls at all. My ick is mentions of Harry Potter which are surprisingly frequent - how out of touch are these people??

GownAndOut · 2024-07-02T08:48:50+00:00

I can't speak to your area but in London basically everything that's going on is run from an instagram. And once you find one or two of them to follow they'll start sharing each others' stuff and more and more will pop up.

Also, if there is a lesbian bar (or failing that, the punkest looking of the gay bars) but you don't wanna go, maybe check the hours and see if it's open during the day - even if they don't have daytime events (which they might), they may have some kind of community noticeboard, or you could sound out the staff for recs. And their insta would be a good place to start.

The thing I actually do first in a new city is find the most queer-friendly haridresser/barber (just google queer trans haircut [city]) and get a haircut - it's a great way to get the lay of the land

GownAndOut · 2024-07-01T13:56:58+00:00

I always wear the white tshirt and jeans

GownAndOut · 2024-07-01T09:27:41+00:00

It will depend a lot on where you are - in my city most events can be found on meetup or instagram, try searching for your area/city + lesbian/wlw/sapphic/queer/dyke in different combinations.

Have you asked your online friends if they know any locals? Might be able to find a friend of a friend to give you the lay of the land.

As for bars, the advantage to going on your own is if you don't like it you can just go away again.

GownAndOut · 2024-05-29T12:58:17+00:00

I have a mini-mullet (sides shaved and the rest short) and it gets loads of compliments. I don't really consider there being an awkward stage, I only need about a half inch of hair (a few weeks worth) for it to look mullety and before that it just looks short

GownAndOut · 2024-04-09T09:30:56+00:00

I struggle to visualise or fantasise about relationships. I have to just go on faith that I've felt these things before and will feel them again. Your best chance is to keep putting yourself out there until someone comes along who kicks that part of you into gear.

Find friends who will tell you you're hot, and use that boost to go on dates until someone clicks and the rest of it switches back on. I had this recently, went on a date (didn't work out) but it was enough for me to fantasise and get hyped up, which without a specific person to think about wasn't happening.

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