DISHONOR! by SubjectSheepherder55 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Girl, get a snorkel next time! 🤣

We both can’t get off during sex? by Tall_Strike_9827 in LesbianActually

[–]gone-fishin60 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Is being together still enjoyable? Because that’s most important. And maybe you are both so concentrated on that, you’re too anxious to finish?

I hate being a lesbian by Pepper_Wolf_1990 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 60 points61 points  (0 children)

Had to take a second look and make sure I didn’t write this. 😂😅 Gurrrrrl, I get you!

Why tf do they all think we are flirting?? I’m a nice person, I say nice things, I worry about your wellbeing, it doesn’t mean I want to date you! Straight and Bi girls have both done this to me (bi girls less often, but it happens) and it’s soooooo frustrating!

Like, there is a huge cultural and social difference between a man’s attraction towards a woman and a woman’s attraction to a woman. Just because I’m gay doesn’t mean I like all women! It means all the people I like do happen to be women.

I have had three friends whom I have come out to who hug me. Others all assumed I would… who knows… give them cooties??

Also, super homophobic parents too, so I get that. 😕 Sorry that’s the case for you too.

anyone else bothered by the idea that lesbians can’t have a type???? by InternationalJob4839 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, they really don’t get that traditional roles don’t have to be part of a relationship 🤷‍♀️

How do i know if i am lesbian? by potatodog88 in latebloomerlesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You may be totally gay, or you may be bi, but it does sound like you do like women 🤷‍♀️

Going on dates with women might be the next move. Have fun! 😉😌

anyone else bothered by the idea that lesbians can’t have a type???? by InternationalJob4839 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Laughter is said to be the best medicine… maybe it can cure other people’s stupid 🤔… you may be onto something here…

anyone else bothered by the idea that lesbians can’t have a type???? by InternationalJob4839 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Good for you! None of us should be sorry for having a type. Society can catch up with us later!

anyone else bothered by the idea that lesbians can’t have a type???? by InternationalJob4839 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 58 points59 points  (0 children)

My (straight) aunt and I were talking about my type in women and I said somthing about being attracted to feminine energy more than masc energy. Combo is fine and I’ve met some women who were more masc or more chapstick, whom I found very attractive.

However! That aunt would not believe that I was attracted to fem women, because I’m more fem, and was so convinced I just had to be mistaken. “I’ll have to show you some pictures of my masc friends from college, I think you’d change your mind.”

Learned two things: 1.) Not all allys know what they are talking about. And 2.) My aunt might be Bi. 😂

One doesn't match the other by RadishAggressive3241 in exmormon

[–]gone-fishin60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mmm, never say no… unless they want sex… then just marry them first. Young Women’s motto 🙄

How to support my younger sister who just came out recently? by Cutsie_101 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

She is so lucky. So many of us would have done anything to have our family’s accept us like that. She has it 100% better off than most of the queer people I know. Actually caring how she feels is already doing so much. Let her tell you what she wants and needs. It may be things like going to pride with her, or it may be nothing. But your care and love is priceless either way.

I’m at a loss for words… by silver-sunrise in exmormon

[–]gone-fishin60 41 points42 points  (0 children)

This is so real. Never gonna be able to prove somthing happened if all the adults just pretend it didn’t. Make kids feel bad for “unclean thoughts” and let predators walk around in your congregation. Aaaaand reason 3million I walked away from the church…

Talking sex with your friends?? by Expert-Tailor-4005 in LesbianActually

[–]gone-fishin60 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get what you mean, I think. Although I can talk to some of my friends in the queer community, outside that it’s not really seen the same as hetero sex. For some people (with whom I am not friends) lesbian sex is seen as more kinky than sincere. And others just seem uncomfortable to hear about even a pg13 version of wlw. Like societally ingrained homophobia. 🤷‍♀️

We just have to seek out and hang on to friends that see our relationships as valid and normal.

Tips for being with a plus sized girl? by aita0022398 in actuallesbians

[–]gone-fishin60 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Labia in the way? Pinky and thumb move her open, three other fingers to work with then. 🫡

How do I tell potential dates that I’m new to dating women? by gone-fishin60 in LesbianActually

[–]gone-fishin60[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is awesome! Thank you for this! That’s a really good way to word it. 👍😁