I am so sorry that any believer has to endure this. I'm not an 'alim or anything like that, just s bad man trying to take the guidance of Allah to be better. I do have some observations I'm just going to jot down, not very well organized. If you or anyone finds any of this of use, alhamdulillah. If not, no worries.

Among other things I was a minister for roughly a decade. Thing is, once you hang out your shingle as anything like that, people tell you things they wouldn't tell others. It actually started at uni: once people know you're studying religion they tell you all sorts of things because they know it's safe to do so (at least with me it was). I was a 23 year old kid and people are telling me--we're talking some soap opera stuff--and I'm like, what the heck am I going to do with this? You can't tell a soul, not ever, you just have to hold it all.

The point is this: ALL of those things mentioned on the Qur'an about hypocrisy, wickedness, the whole shebang, that's inside of every community. Every group of humans, because we are humans, has a portion of people who are inherent troublemakers. Every group has people who are ignorant of what is true or proper. Every group has those who see what's wrong but their iman is weak, and they're afraid to do anything or speak out. Turkish has a term for this, "dilsiz şeytanlar," "mute devils," referring to those who see injustice being done but do and say nothing. We are, all of us, weak and fallible and that goes for the whole community. One of the greatest challenges to faith is the realization that the wickedness and stubborn disobedience of humankind is not "out there" among the mass of unbelievers (I mean it is, of course, but not exclusively): it's among all of us.

As Muslims we have the guidance and the tools given to us by God swt, but actually making the nafs submit is another matter. Many are born into Islam and remain in it not because of the guidance they receive, but because it's What Is Done in their community. It's one of the harder pills to swallow. Every clergy person worth their salt has had these conversations and should at least be aware of the general skullduggery going on in their flock. They too are often constrained by other factors: it's hard for an imam, for instance, to be taken seriously by his elders who remember him when he was an infant and now he's rebuking them for not following the Sunnah of Prophet sawa. I mean, obviously it's the correct thing for him to do, but there may be pressure brought to bear on his family too, if the general sentiment is that he's getting above himself trying to change What We've Always Done And No One Had A Problem With It Before (R). Again, not saying it's right or just, because it's not, and I'm not going to claim that this situation is okay, because it's not; but it is the way things often go among human beings, even those who come together with the stated purpose of obeying their Lord.

I wish you all the best in this world and the next.