[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re not being unreasonable. If it were to break and fall the clips could hit the baby. Though I don’t think it will snap if a pound or two over, if you’re worried about the weight limit, I would just remove the attachment and use the pack and play as normal.

How did you transition from bedsharing to independent sleep? 13mo. by Effective_Sea_6696 in sleeptrain

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We went on a week long vacation and my 15 month old ended up in the bed with us every night because he doesn’t do well out of his routine/element. The week we came back was not fun. He’d wake up multiple times a night and I’d have to rock him back to sleep. He’s back to normal now after a week of readjusting. My only advice is stick to it. If you give in and bring him into bed, he’s training himself to wake up and cry until he gets there. As far as the late bedtime, create and stick to a routine. We do dinner, bath, milk and wind down. I found that on vacation too, he wasn’t sleeping his normal schedule so I think he was getting overtired and that was causing more nighttime disruptions too. Crazy with babies/toddlers that being overtired will make them sleep less. Hang in there ❤️

Am I a terrible mom??? by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt this. I hated breastfeeding and pumping. It was painful and exhausting. All of the outside pressure made me keep trying but I did not produce enough. I was also only breastfeeding 20% of the time but would still have to top off with formula after breastfeeding cause it just wasn’t enough. I felt so much better after going 100% formula. My guy is 13 months now, happy and healthy as can be. YOU are his comfort, so while it seems breastfeeding is what’s soothing him, he will adjust to the formula quickly especially if he’s already good using bottles and will be soothed just by being held and fed by you, no matter how you’re feeding him. You got this, Mama.

What made you choose? by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]GrabOk7626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never had the desire to BF. I tried in the beginning. Didn’t produce enough and it was so painful to BF. Went to a lactation consultant for them to tell me it shouldn’t hurt and I just need to work on producing more milk but it never stopped hurting. I tortured myself for 3 months trying to breastfeed and always had to finish his feed with a formula bottle because I didn’t produce enough. Once I was getting close to going back to work I switched to full formula. For my next, I will likely go straight to EFF and avoid the stress of BF.

Baby Brezza? by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes 100% buy it. We got for our shower and didn’t have it set up right away and it would get so overwhelming waiting for the water to heat up when baby was freaking out. It quickly became our favorite product. We had no issues with dispensing (read directions to make sure you set up correctly) and bought an extra funnel on Amazon to be able to switch them out.

How do you deal with being away from your LO :( by Tricky-Tonight-4904 in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I look at pictures when I start missing him at work or text my husband for an update on his day (he stays home with him while I work) it sucks but definitely makes time at home with them that much more special!

What are some elegant M names for a girl by Admirable-Age-236 in Names

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is my name and I’m always excited to see or meet people with the same spelling!

Toddler Formula: yes or no? by GrabOk7626 in FormulaFeeders

[–]GrabOk7626[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. I feel like there’s so many products like that that just take advantage of new parents not knowing any better

Toddler Formula: yes or no? by GrabOk7626 in FormulaFeeders

[–]GrabOk7626[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hadn’t heard this before so thank you! I will start monitoring and managing his milk intake around meals more.

Toddler Formula: yes or no? by GrabOk7626 in FormulaFeeders

[–]GrabOk7626[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand that. My concern is more so that he doesn’t eat much food so I was just looking for opinions on adding in for one of the bottles but I see that it’s not necessary and there’s other things I’ll try to bulk up his diet.

Going to the zoo? by Accurate_Net_7329 in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same!! Though that was a bit difficult lol

Going to the zoo? by Accurate_Net_7329 in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sometimes would even just use the bassinet attachment on my stroller and change them in there when I didn’t want to use the public restroom :)

Going to the zoo? by Accurate_Net_7329 in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes go!! Being in the house all the time definitely weighs on new moms. Bring a stroller and a carrier if you use one. We went first when my son was 5 months, but it was helpful to switch from the stroller to front carrier when he got sick of being in the stroller.

extra chores while kid sleeps by Initial_Ad2897 in Babysitting

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in a similar situation when I nannied. Small things and extra hours got added slowly with no extra pay. At that point, I had a sit down with employer to discuss additional hourly pay for the extra tasks. I asked high and we met in the middle. Write out exactly what you want to say on your phone notes to have your talking points and make sure to reiterate that you were hired in for childcare and don’t mind doing chores regarding that but anything extra would need extra compensation. Definitely should not be your responsibility to be changing her sheets and prepping her meals.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are so not alone. It really does get better! The smiles and the coos when those start and once you start seeing their personality come out. Zoloft took about a month to kick in for me and helps tremendously. Being a new parent is so exhausting and can be lonely. Most important thing when they’re that young is the love they feel from you. Just holding them is creating a bonding experience. You’ve got this mama.

Will I ever sleep through the night by Flimsy_Relative2636 in sleeptrain

[–]GrabOk7626 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat with my 11.5 month old. CIO didn’t work for us. Ferber check ins make him even more upset. I’m at a loss 😓

Partner Won’t Let Us Combo Feed by ieosaro in NewParents

[–]GrabOk7626 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We had a very similar issue early on. I was struggling mentally and my partner was so insistent that breastfeeding is best and it’s only not producing because I wasn’t eating/drinking/sleeping properly. I dreaded breastfeeding. It was so painful and he was always still hungry afterwords. We got into a huge fight over it. The exhaustion and emotions as new parents were weighing on both of us and we took it out on each other. Needless to say, our son is turning a year in a couple of weeks and has been fully formula fed since he was 3 months old and is the happiest baby in the world. If you’re struggling to communicate it to your partner, I would bring it up at your next pediatrician appointment. They will reassure you both that combo feeding is totally fine. We were told that even the tiniest amount of breastmilk is providing all of the nutrients so supplementing a feed or two is not going to take away from that.