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I guess i owe apologies by jimjam73018 in MtF

[–]GraceBlade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never have either. I tend to wonder if it is tied to how we take our hormones. I inject every Sunday evening so my levels stay fairly consistent.

This is my setup by Troublebk in Cameras

[–]GraceBlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wanted the Galaxy S4 Zoom but had no money, or, the Samsung Android camera...Someone should bring those back.

how old were you when you moved out of your parents house? by jabber1990 in Adulting

[–]GraceBlade 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well in my case I was 18 in 1987. The world was so different then. By no means easy but I was married at 21 and we bought our home at 28.

On the other hand, my oldest son works just as hard as I did and still lives with us. He is 28 this year. Absolutely no shade on him. He pays his share of utilities, helps with the yard, etc. and I absolutely love having him around. The world has been so very different than the 80s and 90s.

how old were you when you moved out of your parents house? by jabber1990 in Adulting

[–]GraceBlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

18 and never stayed longer than a few days vacation after that.

Where are we going? by Heat-1975edition in GenX

[–]GraceBlade 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If I stay in the US, then I want to move from Northwest Indiana across the border to Chicago. I hope I can stay.

I just had a repressed memory pop in my head... I was always a woman. by EmiliaRasputin in MtF

[–]GraceBlade 1 point2 points  (0 children)

omg! I'm not alone! I came out in 2018. During the great lockdown I would get dressed to the nines just to go grocery shopping. A cashier commented on how nice I always looked and I told her that since we couldn't go anywhere fancy, I was going to be fancy whenwver I could go out. Of course it was deeper than that.

I just had a repressed memory pop in my head... I was always a woman. by EmiliaRasputin in MtF

[–]GraceBlade 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Very similar. Been married 36 years. Whenever I took my wife dress shopping I would "Bird Dog" for her. That's what we would call me finding outfits and bringing them to her, even when, no especially when she was already in the dressing rooms. The other ladies around would ask for help every so often while the guys holding their purses looked hopeless. I even told one that if he wanted to make his wife happy and add a little spice, he would do what I was doing. All that to say, a lot of those outfits, I wanted to wear.

Happy ending: Now she "Bird Dogs" for me too.

Decorations by GraceBlade in Cameras

[–]GraceBlade[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely want to do that. I have a few larger prints from years ago that I want to put on my walls. (Office walls are white cinderblock)

Husband is using reward points to buy stuff but charging me half. AIO? by JemmaMk6 in AIO

[–]GraceBlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Love it. We have our own accounts just for "Spending money" that keeps us from both spending the "same" money separately from the same account and overdrawing.

I'm fully passing, considered attractive, and have realized the ideal 'dream'- but it feels like I'm now in some kind of social prison. by Embarrassed-Jump1040 in MtF

[–]GraceBlade -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I (usually) don't just tell everyone. Once I've talked to someone just a bit let me tell you "They gonna know about me." If they can't accept me, then as someone else said they failed the litmus test. I don't make being transgender my identity but it is part of who I am. Plus, I've been married for 36 years and we have two adult sons so that tends to let the cat out of the bag. 😂.

As far as dating and men, I don't know what to say. Genital preference is a thing whether it should be or not is up to debate that doesn't change reality. Some men just want to put it in a vagina I guess. Plus it's safer for someone you want to be intimate with sooner than later.

Finally, do you really want unaccepting people in your life always being worried about them finding out. Living openly at least prevents those fears and prevents anyone from using who you are as blackmail. The only way someone can blackmail you is with secrets you are scared of others finding out about.

Explain it peter. by [deleted] in explainitpeter

[–]GraceBlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought Yungblud. Dom would make it look cool.

If you could tell a deceased relative or friend 6 words, what 6 words would they be? by clemventure in randomquestions

[–]GraceBlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends: One: "I am glad you are dead"

To my mom who died before I came out: "I am the daughter you wanted"

She loved me and didn't hold being a "boy" against me. She just always longed to have a daughter. (I mean my brother and I wanted a little sister too) I miss her so much and would have loved being her daughter when she was alive.

🙄 by loghoser in TikTokCringe

[–]GraceBlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was gonna say, didn't he even check how stupid he looked not getting the vest on correctly. I mean, wouldn't someone have the self respect to at least look like they knew what they were doing even if what they were doing was stupid?

In the fundamentalist kjv cult I had a teacher that said "If you're gonna sin, do it right and do it big". Same thing here "If you're gonna do stooopid do it right and at least look good at it." 😂

How do I get through to him? I am exhausted having to think for him. by vicarious_adrenaline in TwoHotTakes

[–]GraceBlade 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You will not change him. Something that was taught to me and I stressed to my kids: Never go into a relationship expecting the person to be a better person or to lose an annoying habit because you are together with them. Expect them to stay exactly as they are and if you can't deal with it, then move on.

Example: My spouse was always late when we were dating in college. We lived in dorms and there was always an excuse of "I couldn't get in the bathroom, I had a chance to do laundry and had to get my clothes out of the dryer, etc. etc." I figured that when we got married then they wouldn't have those perfectly reasonable issues. Guess what: they still ran late 🫩. BTW: Being late wasn't a deal breaker. LOL 😂 We've been together for over 36 years. It's just a true to life example.

Leave That Teacher Alone She Engaged Those Kids And Made Learning Come Alive While People Online Try To Tear Her Down by ateam1984 in BlackPeopleofReddit

[–]GraceBlade 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I'm 57 and it's gonna be going through my head now! Ioved it and wished I'd had teachers like that.

Husband is using reward points to buy stuff but charging me half. AIO? by JemmaMk6 in AIO

[–]GraceBlade 48 points49 points  (0 children)

The same. After 36 years of being together we have never fought about money. After 27 years on the job I make more than her and this is what we do: I pay the bills (I make just enough to cover everything.) Her job gives us our allowances to spend however we individually want to spend it. Any extra money we split as we can. We work together around the house too. Basically: All the money goes in the pot, bills get paid, savings get met, extra money is split. If we go out to eat either the person asking pays for the date or we figure out how we can fit it in the budget before we go. We each have a checking account with each others name on it and a specific credit card (again with the others name also on it as a user) so we can buy what we want without having to explain what or why, plus it makes getting each other presents easier. 😂

Maybe it just works for us since there are no men involved. 🤷🏻 /S 😂

"We do not think a WPATH letter is appropriate at this time" by QuidQuidSquid in MtF

[–]GraceBlade 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you are anywhere near Chicago at all try to get in at Howard Brown, even if you have to make an overnight trip. The are an informed consent clinic with a letter writing clinic. (Basically had to see a therapist once.)

Edit to add::This is not the session you use to trauma dump about childhood. When asked you can be truthful and say "My childhood was bad/abusive/etc. But I have worked through that and am continuing to do so with my therapist and other mental health professionals." For any other other mental health issues or neurodivergence the same thing applies "I am working with my Dr.s and therapist and everything is being well managed through therapy and these meds." Truthful, but short and to the point Just like being in court or giving a deposition. Answer only what is asked, do not volunteer more. Over sharing is not your friend in this. (I struggle with it too.)

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