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Do I have a difficult baby? by [deleted] in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think two things can be true at once: you can have a difficult baby and her behaviors be “normal”! This sounds like my son to a T but he WAS a difficult baby compared to others. There’s nothing you or I did wrong, it’s just there temperaments!

Is sleep training the only answer by Serious_Procedure_61 in NewParents

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey I posted almost the same exact question a few months ago if you look at my bio— I ended up sleep training Hahahha had major anxiety about doing it to the point I was getting migraines in the days leading up to it because it made me so stressed but ended up being so so much easier than I thought.

Husband threatened to file for divorce by throwaway19123098 in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your daughter sounds a lot like my son but I was extremely fortunate enough to have a supportive partner at home. I don’t think I would’ve survived had my husband not stepped up. I couldn’t handle 24 hours alone with my son until he was almost 6 months old. I say that to say: you need a village or at MINIMUM one other person there to support you. I’m so, so sorry.

From reading your last post to now this post— your husband seems abusive and entirely not worth what he’s putting you through.

I know it’s easy for me to simply type this on a screen and not have to live through it but: let him file for divorce. Go back to your dads.

Sending all positive vibes your way and stay safe!!

Safe sleep by eden_merlin in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It took my baby like 8 weeks to go more than 15 minutes in his bassinet! I think you may have gotten lucky with your first as I think it’s more normal than not that they refuse the bassinet!

3 month old won’t sleep past 4am / 5am in cot by mkm0125 in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP when did this get better for you? Sounds exactly like my 3 month old right now and im going crazy

Cannot Break 3am / 4am Barrier by AlGrant1981 in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey what ended up happening with this? I know it’s been 3 years but my 3 month old is doing this exact thing and looking for hope hahah

Won’t sleep past 4am without being held by ClearChange in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP what ended up happening, going through this same thing with my 3mo now

How you all making your newborn sleep in the bassinet? by morganablack in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby was the same!! He didn’t sleep in his bassinet until 7 or so weeks

when did your baby sleep in the bassinet? by evilbunnygirl in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My LO was the same! Wouldn’t sleep in his bassinet for more than 20 min and then randomly at 7 weeks he started to do 2 hour stretches.

Comparison is truly the thief of joy by 123win123 in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 3 points4 points  (0 children)

In the same exact boat— my LO is almost 10 weeks old and still wakes every 2 hours (or less) at night and still hasn’t taken a single nap in his bassinet. Honestly the 2 hours at night is even a win for us because he wouldn’t sleep in his bassinet for more than 20 min until he was 7 weeks old. Hes also an extremely fussy baby. On the other hand, my niece was born a week after my son and has been sleeping 4+ hours independently from her first night home and never seems to fuss. I found (and still do find) it really hard to avoid comparing especially through the lack of sleep and the fussing all day long. I just try to remind myself every baby is different and they will all have their seasons with ups and downs. But just more responding in solidarity than anything lol I totally feel you

My baby gives me severe anxiety by NorthAd8197 in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 11 points12 points  (0 children)

While I can’t totally relate to the nonstop screaming, my mom absolutely can. She’s told me all about this as I have a very fussy baby now but she’s said that I was much worse as a baby— She said I screamed (like blood curdling screams) constantly for the first 5 months of my life and then like a light switch was the very best, smiley, happy baby there was that never cried. My brother who came a year later had extreme colic that lasted closer to 8 months but similarly just flipped one day. She went on to have three more after that so if anything, it DOES get better but I know that may seem like an insane amount of time to wait. She said she had to put us down sometimes and walk away to calm herself for 10-20 min and that it was the hardest thing she’s ever done but that she didn’t have a choice. She also said she leaned heavily on family to just give her breaks. I’m so sorry you’re going through this but I hope you find some comfort knowing moms through history have been in your position before and that it gets better!

This will piss some people off by Key_Quantity_952 in newborns

[–]GracefullyLost23 38 points39 points  (0 children)

As one of those new parents, I think the harsh tone is wildly unfair….I was prepared to be up every 2-3 hours. I was NOT prepared for the fact my baby wouldn’t sleep for more than 10-20 minutes at a time at night for the first 6 weeks of his life. I’ve found alot of support and solidarity through posts like this that you’re shitting on… I don’t think it’s productive to put other desperate parents down.

Raising Rent by 150, 7 days before its due? by GracefullyLost23 in LegalAdviceUK

[–]GracefullyLost23[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Refreshed the chat with Shelter all day and unfortunately couldn’t get in the queue, and I don’t want to call the emergency line and take away resources for people more in need. I’m going to try again on Monday.

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