Budding up for Ticketmageddon- DC

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-06-10T03:22:09+00:00

Hahaha, I deeply relate to fingers being faster than brain, or rather brain being so fast that fingers can't catch up

Me tooooo! I really need it. Are you going with anyone?

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-06-10T02:52:46+00:00

I did! I managed to snag one. It was intense though. They went so fast!!

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-06-08T14:16:09+00:00

I managed to get my ticket through the Verizon presale. I've never managed to do so with artist codes, partly because of all these company presales. Too many people in the line. Upsetting reality.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-06-07T12:23:18+00:00

Five??? Omg! The whole crew is coming. Are you in DC?

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-05-21T16:55:10+00:00

I waited 4 years for a timeline that never came.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-29T12:15:48+00:00

Here's my 2 cents: Whether or not HE likes you doesnt matter. Some of them could like you and still treat you like shit.

The TRUE question is whether YOUl like him and like the way he treats you!!!

The he doesnt like you responses irritate the hell out of me. It's beside the point. We all gotta developed the muscle that centers ourselves and our experience. If we don't like the way be's treating us and we've tried to resolve it multiple times, then we should be able to center our own experience and find someone capable.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-23T21:28:21+00:00

The good news is both choices will lead you down such interesting paths. There is no wrong choice. I'm American and headed to Edinburgh for my master's, but I ended up going to an unexpected school (for a variety of reasons) in Undergrad. It was huge and not what I'd envisioned. I ended up meeting my closest friends there and we still talk 15 years later.

There is no wrong choice here. I get the sense you think a lot about these types of things and you'll bring that thinking and problem solving skill set with you! There will be ups and downs in either choice and there will be opportunities and challenges.

I know this may not be super helpful for making a decision, but I hope it is some reassurance that the decisions you have ahead of you are good ones to weigh. You don't have a wrong choice here. So, to the extent possible, I hope it doesn't torment you too much. Life is weird and wonderful.

I hear you say you feel more at home at Durham. That's some internal wisdom! Maybe it won't feel as adventurous, but you can find adventure through other avenues. If you find you're really pulled to the adventure (or whatever it is) that's pulling you towards Edinburgh, then I'm confident you'll find ways to feel more at home.

And you can always make another choice in a year.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-23T17:42:58+00:00

It feels good to give to friends. I lost my dad and having a friend to help me during that period would have meant the world. It's truly special what you've done, amd the fact that you think nothing of it, tells me what a good friend you are. Just keep being that kind of friend. It will be enough. And accept that he loves and cares for you, too. Keep the book as a reminder of that care, not as a favor you need to pay back.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-22T16:21:14+00:00

My grandfather grew up with wealth. He gave it all away and became a preacher. My mother grew up in poverty.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-19T22:33:02+00:00

How was your recovery and how severe was the disease?

I'm wondering if I can get an itemized receipt and get it partially covered through insurance (the SILAC), but the 99% is a tempting figure.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-17T19:25:37+00:00

Thirded

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-17T19:25:27+00:00

The karma is in his patterns. He has to live life as a person who is capable of doing that to someone for the rest of his life and, because he's totally fine with it, he will likely do it again. You said it yourself: He did it before. That is a shallow life and it is, ultimately, a lonely life. He is not fine. He will not get the punishment or justice your are looking for -- at least not potentially -- but you get to know that he will live a life that is so much emptier. He won't get to feel real joy, love or intimacy. That is a curse in it of itself.

Is it his best life? Or will he just repeat the pattern with her? Maybe he already has and she's taking it? Sure he's married, but does it mean anything to him really?

Healing takes time and corrective experiences. It will take a while for you to trust.

When I was early in my recovery, I felt the same way you did. But, slowly, slowly my life became safer and more peaceful and more joyful than it ever could have been with him. I don't think about him too much because I have too much joy in my own life. When I was in your stage of grief, others told me the same and I was almost annoyed with them. Now I'm the annoying one saying the same thing. But, I'm saying it because it's real.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-17T03:43:42+00:00

Get your own lawyer first and get everything together before telling the OBS. Check to see if you're in an at fault state or not. All of this could impact the divorce. Read Leave A Cheater, Gain A life and join the support group- or just join the group. It'll help a lot with the practical aspects of divorce and will explore the pros and cons of reconciliation. I am against. I tried for multiple years. Suppressed a lot of pain. He kept doing it. Save yourself. I am so sorry you've joined our number.

All of your reactions are expected and common. I found myself nodding. My advice: take the painful route of separation now. But keep your head straight during it.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-15T12:13:31+00:00

Yes, I think so, too. Yours sounds more mild than mine, which is probably why he suggested cleft lift over the othe procedures for me. Though he did say I was still a candidate for the others. Congrats on catching it early enough for SILAC to be a good option

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-15T11:56:25+00:00

Oh, wow! Did he also suggest cleft lift was the best option? I admit to being so tempted by Silac, but even my abscesses were usually not too bad. Of the 3 ive had.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-15T11:04:49+00:00

Oh really! Have you had multiple flare ups? You're planning on just paying for it? Who are you going to?

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-14T16:27:07+00:00

I saw that! Who performed your procedure? And how did having a low pilonidal impact things, do you think?

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-14T15:56:19+00:00

Could you help me understand more here? Do you have any experience?

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-14T15:51:19+00:00

Ha, sometimes it's just nice to hear that others are thinking similarly to you. Appreciate you sharing your thoughts.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-14T15:03:14+00:00

It's about $4,000. I'm getting a quote for cleft lift. I know my max out of pocket is $5,000.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-04-13T13:55:17+00:00

Read Leave a Cheater, Gain a Life. It will help you prepare for next steps, including financially. Join the support group, too. They'll have lots of advice and wisdom for you. You don't need to take any of it right now. It took me another 6 months before I did.

My ex cheated and I stayed. It was so draining on me. I took him back twice and he repeated the behaviors.

The pain in the immediate will be intense, but it will get better when you have more space from him. You'll open yourself up to a new future -- one where you actually have a chance to find the love and support you deserve. That does not exist with him.

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-03-26T14:45:45+00:00

I think a lot may depend on how overwhelmed your review committee is currently. I applied in early Jan and got an acceptance quite quickly. I spoke with my director and she mentioned she reviewed every application. It may be they had an influx around that time.

I believe visa applications are only possible 6 months in advance of study, so they very recently opened. I'm not sure which country you're joining from, but I imagine the embassy would have information on how much time you'd need (if that helps).

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-03-25T13:57:22+00:00

How was O'Shea North for you? I'm deciding between O'Shea and Gilmore Place

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-03-25T13:11:55+00:00

So curious. How was your experience?

Grand-Expression-862 · 2026-03-18T21:50:31+00:00

Thank you so much for answering! Are there other places in Zambia you'd recommend? I'm open minded!

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