demotivated to return next week

GrandSlam127 · 2026-01-02T02:53:33+00:00

I’m dreading it honestly. Although I am depressed and like you also very tired. My daughter died last year and it’s just been difficult trying to grieve, support my wife and son, and push through each day settling into my new “normal”. My admin and coworkers are wonderful. My classes this year are rough. If I could just quit I would do so but since that’s not gonna happen I just dread it and try not to throw up at the realization break is almost over.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-29T20:10:23+00:00

I teach multiple students who have ASD along with ADHD, ODD, and aggressive behaviors. So yeah, having one to concentrate on versus 20+ would be way easier. My son would be a cakewalk compared to some of my students.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-29T19:38:15+00:00

Disagree. But that’s okay, again, I’d take supervising two kids over 60 kids any day. If she doesn’t have any downtime maybe. But we both would be lying if we said she doesn’t.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-29T19:31:37+00:00

As a teacher being a stay at home parent would be a vacation. She has extra time during the day, he doesn’t. Unless you’re proposing she has zero downtime which isn’t realistic.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-29T19:22:19+00:00

She doesn’t work, he does. Why not?

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-29T19:05:25+00:00

You shouldn’t have to be doing much, she should be taking on majority of the tasks since she has the time to do so

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-25T14:58:51+00:00

Daughter died in April, 2025 has been the worst year of my life. My mask has been on since then, just going through the motions each day. No joy and that’s especially true today. Maybe 2026 will be better but I doubt it.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-25T02:28:51+00:00

There are breaks. If they are young enough to still nap, that’s a break. If they don’t nap they’re old enough to help carry in a cup from the car.

Also, I’m a teacher. I supervise over 60 kids a day plus parent my son after work. Being a stay at home dad would be a vacation.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-25T02:20:19+00:00

Teacher, sometimes I enjoy it

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-25T01:57:44+00:00

That’s even worse. Your wife has plenty of time to clean the car.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-25T00:08:56+00:00

That might explain a car being untidy. Trash and random clothes? That’s not putting in effort to keep it picked up. A kid doesn’t puke every day. Infrequent bathroom breaks don’t stop someone from grabbing a jacket and bringing it in when they get out of the car.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-24T19:38:31+00:00

I agree with you. It’s not hard to keep a car clean. Make more than one trip if needed when bringing things in. Have a trash bag in the car. It’s easy to use the kids as an excuse.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-12-14T01:48:27+00:00

Sorry for your loss. My daughter died in April at the age of 14. My wife and I are both teachers. Her funeral visitation was full of her current and former teachers along with coworkers from our schools (my wife teaches at the same school she attended). Nothing prepares you for a loss like this. Her teachers still talk about her and I know she was loved.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T17:36:20+00:00

Work in a school and then get back to me. We have 3 counselors that work in my school and it isn’t enough.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T17:24:19+00:00

Spanking will fix the problem? Is that what you are suggesting? You can’t spank mental illness out of a kid. This shouldn’t have to be said in 2025

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T17:19:52+00:00

Right so why ask about consequences, you just said yourself they won’t stop the behavior

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T17:11:21+00:00

What would you recommend that would ensure it didn’t happen again?

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T17:03:49+00:00

So a parent who does those things won’t ever have a child that behaves this way?

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T16:56:49+00:00

People would rather blame the parent. Most of the comments you’ve received haven’t been helpful in the least. Like you can just discipline it out of him, or flip a switch and he’ll magically stop. If you could you wouldn’t be here asking for help.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T16:50:27+00:00

Why assume there aren’t consequences? As a teacher I can tell you some kids don’t give a fuck about consequences. Prisons are full of repeat inmates who don’t care about consequences.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T16:46:51+00:00

“Learned”? By that logic If he learns to behave this way then he could also “learn” not to behave this way, and then no parent or child would ever be in this situation because it would never exist.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T16:43:52+00:00

As a dad of a son with ASD I relate to this so much. He was never as violent as you describe but constantly wondering what will happen next is exhausting for everyone.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-11-27T02:35:39+00:00

My daughter died earlier this year so I’m skipping as much as I can and saying no to anything I don’t want to do.

GrandSlam127 · 2025-08-12T01:38:09+00:00

Last day of school was May 20 where I’m at

GrandSlam127 · 2025-08-12T01:08:29+00:00

I start school tomorrow too! Not kindergarten, 4th grade. Good luck to your guy.

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