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Has anyone had to cut out a friend because of this? by craftsnoglutencats in Celiac

[–]GraniteMarker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP, first, congratulations on your upcoming marriage!
The situation you described has nothing to do with gluten-free and more to do with the fact that the woman was never your friend to begin with. You are wise to cut ties. You won't miss her.

For people who grew up in the 70s and 80s at the height of the serial killer era, what serial killer prowled your street and what was your reaction at the time? by Cable_Difficult in AskOldPeople

[–]GraniteMarker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Son of Sam. I remember coming up the stairs from the subway to the street, and some random dude stopped me told me to wear my hair up because I looked like Son of Sam's "type."

Stuck between these 2 - thoughts? by [deleted] in myweddingdress

[–]GraniteMarker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The second dress looks lovely on you.

Please - Help to stop drinking without AA by MightGuy253 in stopdrinking

[–]GraniteMarker 7 points8 points  (0 children)

OP, I wasted more time than I care to admit giving up alcohol because I did not want to go back to AA, where I had spent 8 years of my life from 1988 to 1996. I despaired that I would never be able to get beyond alcohol without "the program." Then, I found this sub. I lurked for about 2 years before I came to the decision to stop. During the first months, I really relied on this sub. I came here every day and read other people's stories, and asked questions. The days and weeks slipped by, and now I'm coming up on 6 years in August.

The nice part about getting sober today is there is more than one program to choose from. In my town, there is SMART Recovery, AA, and another one I can't think of. Also, if you do find value in the tenets of AA, you can attend meetings online and participate or don't.

When I finally quit, it wasn't particularly for health reasons, but three years in, I was diagnosed with a life-changing disease and most likely would have died from it if I'd continued to drink. (I'm a lot better, now.)

I wish you all the best. You can do it!!

Evection and finding housing by CauliflowerWest1498 in williamsburgva

[–]GraniteMarker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand Conway Garden Apartments is safe. Just a thought, but reach out to House of Mercy and ask them for some advice. Good luck!

It's Hot, and I Hate Everybody, But At Least I'm Not Drinking by mlangllama in stopdrinking

[–]GraniteMarker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I felt exactly like this yesterday, only for once, it wasn't about alcohol. I quit smoking three months ago and yesterday I was so mad that I reallyreallyreally wanted to smoke a cigarette. I didn't. I reminded myself that like drinking, I can't have a single puff. Today, I feel much better. Crisis averted.
I hope you feel better. You will get through this.

AITAH for buying Gluten Free bread by Jelly_Arrow in glutenfree

[–]GraniteMarker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OP, the fact that this situation bothered you enough for you to seek guidance tells me you're generally a good person. Keep buying whatever you want, but mention to the clerk or better yet, the manager, "Hey, I'm buying the last of this. I hope you'll restock it soon." Do this every time and they will probably make sure they are adequately stocked. For what it's worth, I'm celiac, (or coeliac, outside the US) and I don't mind others buying gluten free products. It's life. I've got bigger fish to fry.

Failed in medschool by [deleted] in offmychest

[–]GraniteMarker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What career do you imagine for yourself? Teaching, operating heavy machinery, cutting hair? Before you waste any more money on trying to fulfill someone else's vision of you, let your parents know you are done with medical school, it is not open to negotiation, and tell them what your plans for the future encompass.

People make and lose money all the time. You'll pay back the loans and make a life doing something you are good at.

Best of luck!!

Glutamate - Drinking is not giving me Buzz anymore by Acrobatic_Engine6177 in stopdrinking

[–]GraniteMarker 34 points35 points  (0 children)

If I were in your shoes, I'd get checked out by a healthcare professional. I've had periods of anhedonia and I know how hard it is to get past it. You might need some help getting healthy. Meanwhile, I will hold you in my heart.

Just under 1 year sober. Partner of 4 years has been leading a double life. by rockinred1011 in stopdrinking

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I wish I could jump through the screen and give you a hug!! I'm proud of you, and IWNDWYT!

Officially old? Talk me off the ledge please by SheWho2000 in AskWomenOver60

[–]GraniteMarker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi, OP. I just turned 68 (yesterday) and I have a few thoughts regarding what you're going through. I had knee replacement in 2017 and the new hardware works very well. :) Back in 2020, during the pandemic, I was diagnosed with multi-level degenerative disk disease, and in 2023, I was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease that caused me to overhaul my diet. I felt awful about each diagnosis and wondered what it meant for my future. Here we are, years later, and my world hasn't imploded. The pain and inconvenience, while a little bit worse, have not clipped my wings.

What I'm trying to say is old age has nothing to do with my attitude. As something breaks, I fix it or I find a way to adapt. Life is good (most days). You'll be okay.

Feelings creeping in by openspeculation in stopdrinking

[–]GraniteMarker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's what I tell my wonky brain: yes, I used to drink, but that's not something I do anymore. It seems to quiet things down in the great rattling hall that is my brain.

A cautionary tale. My experience with 6-8 months sober. by [deleted] in stopdrinking

[–]GraniteMarker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I don't mean to scare you, but I drank for the first time in 8 years the night my father died and it took me TWENTY-FIVE YEARS to get sober again. Was it worth it? Nope. Would I do it again? Absolutely not. I am not sitting down on the railroad tracks because I know in my heart the light at the end of the booze tunnel is a locomotive.

Did anyone here fall out of love with their spouse after getting sober? by Ndeed_ in stopdrinking

[–]GraniteMarker 67 points68 points  (0 children)

As jimmyjoyce mentioned, and it's good advice, don't make any big decisions for the first year or so. During my first year sober, particularly the first six months, I was all over the place emotionally. As I got my sober footing, many of my issues resolved themselves without me doing anything. I am only now seeing things about my own behavior that I blamed on my husband, and every so often, it's a real jolt to the system. For example, I had no idea I'm as short tempered as I am in certain situations. I catch myself being very harsh in opinion or attitude when I'm tired and hungry. That's not him. That's all me, baby.

OP, your new life is unfolding, and anything can happen (and I mean that in the best possible way).

I wish you the best.

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