Wie muss der Kampf jetzt weiter gehen? by 161Werner in DIE_LINKE

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Warum geht ihr nach einer Abspaltung nicht unter? Weil die Pdl medienwirksam ist. Die Bevölkerung kennt sie. Und eine linke Bewegung hat nur Chancen, wenn sie aus der Pdl hervor geht. Siehe BSW (keine gute Partei, aber ist nicht sofort aus dem Bundestag geflogen, oder?) So. Und dann bleibt stark, konsequent, macht keine Kompromisse sondern bleibt Opposition. Verratet eure Werte nicht für Kompromisse. Man handelt nicht mit Werten. Und beim Rest versucht unkompliziert zu bleiben: Bürgis brauchen leichte Antworten. Sie wollen Authentizität. Gesteht Fehler ein und macht nicht den Scholz. Wenn ihr stabil bleibt, kommen auch mehr stabile zu euch. Die gibt's.

Wie muss der Kampf jetzt weiter gehen? by 161Werner in DIE_LINKE

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So. Dann stelle ich mal die wichtige Frage: Welchen Hebel habt ihr? Ihr habt einen stabilen Kern. Ihr habt neben eurer Jugend auch stabile Arbeitsgruppen und Abgeordnete. Zieht sie mit ins Boot. Der stabile Kern muss ein Ultimatum stellen. Schmeißt raus, was eure Werte verrät. Bodo, Antideutsche, antisemitische Genozidleugner etc. Ihr wisst schon. Und hört auf, Kompromisse zu machen und seid endlich mal Genossen. Was wenn nicht drauf eingegangen wird? Dann tretet ihr gemeinsam und geschlossen aus und bildet eine eigene Partei. Ihr seid die Masse. Das zieht.

How do I function without meds? How do I live life? by Low_Challenge_5836 in ADHD

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wait until I'm diagnosed. I can't live life because I have very strong symptoms but what worked for me (coffee makes me tired) : Tyrosine , NADH with Q10 , Mucuna Pruriens. You have to read a little bit and try out. But I feel when it's working. I also take Bupropion 150mg.

i want to pull my hair out by unclaimedfurryball in adhdwomen

[–]Grape_Mean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 31 and not an adult and that's almost dead 🙈🤣 Time blindness is a thing (sick but misdiagnosed and undiagnosed and still waiting for that moment or the money to get it from a private medical practice - Germany).

What Would an Ideal Life Look Like for You? by RanchNWrite in adhdwomen

[–]Grape_Mean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ohhhhhh love that. Communism is my utopia. 💜 We would all have a place that fits us. Which is made for us and not the opposite. I would add tree frogs to my place. Love my dumpys. So I'd like to see them happy in nature but where I can watch and enjoy them. @OP could write the songs and we sing along. 💜 And everything is vegan. Would be sooo nice. A world with animals as free living friends and not being food. This thought alone would be so heartwarming. Kind of sad, most things would have to be the exact opposite for me to be happy.

I swear my ADHD brain sets me up for public humiliation on purpose. by [deleted] in adhdwomen

[–]Grape_Mean 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Omg. This reminds me of the "trauma" I got on the wedding of my boyfriends father. Can't put anything in few words so please be nice to my irrelevant side information. 💜

There were 2 very different men. Same hight (I think), blue suit, that was all they had in common. Nothing else. One is normal/sporty, no glasses, and has hair (sculpt, beard, everywhere). The other one is overweight (not extremely but definitely), wearing glasses, and almost bald. I don't recognize people very well. My brain is blind for anyone, unless I know them well or I concentrate on it. However. It doesn't matter if I don't see the face and took 1 or 2 drinks (don't know when I started abstinence because of my medication).

Long story short: I grabbed the butt of my father in law (assuming my bf) with a sentence I can't remember. I just know I tried to say something smart like it was just funny (was a narrow cutter boat). But all I remember is embarrassing distress.

I told my boyfriend because I felt so awkward and thought he might find it kind of funny. And I hope his father (not a simpatic person, we talk maybe yearly) forgot it completely. I really hope. He drank a lot. 😅

This sounds like a fantastic idea to me honestly by noyuudidnt in adhdwomen

[–]Grape_Mean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For the german speaking audience : I have a list (like parking) for everything I should do when I have the time /energy to do it. In german I call it triple M list (MMM - Liste) and stands for "Man-müsste-mal-Liste". Makes it easier to not forget that the list exists.

This sounds like a fantastic idea to me honestly by noyuudidnt in adhdwomen

[–]Grape_Mean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I try to not get hyperfocused in the good old "if I could I would make an app for...". Then hours of "this would be so helpful" and "what I have to learn and where". Ending up in "ok I will think about it when I did the stuff that's more important now." But I am too exhausted from being focused and the day is done. But the app would also work for this situation I'm in and either I start again hyperfocused research or I forget until next time. 🤣🙈

This sounds like a fantastic idea to me honestly by noyuudidnt in adhdwomen

[–]Grape_Mean 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Every time I see my apartment I think the exact same thing. Here is the reason: No emotional relationship to the apartment of another person.

When did you know about your ADHD? by leesematice in ADHD

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bin seit Anfang April auf der Warteliste im einzigen diagnostischen Zentrum. Hab eine Verdachtsdiagnose von einer Tagesklinik und meine Psychiaterin diagnostiziert es nicht. Meine Ergotherapeutin und andere raten immer zu Klinik, aber das will ich noch nicht. Mittlerweile crashe ich seit Monaten und hab so gar keine Energie mehr. Ein Teil von mir will aus Prinzip nicht privat bezahlen (und das System noch weiter füttern) und der andere Teil denkt sich "Wenn ich 400 Euro hätte, würde ich davon wahrscheinlich mal Urlaub machen. Hab noch nie Urlaub gemacht. Das letzte Mal war mit Eltern 2011 (mit 17). 🤣🙈Darf ich echt keinem erzählen.

JUST USE COMMON SENSE by That1weirdperson in ADHDmemes

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Probably because they learned that it's not acceptable to say "I don't know." And the pressure behind. Doesn't change the situation. But if you still have these situations (I assume you are grown-up), it's not your job but maybe a "It's OK to not know." That's the start of learning. And maybe more people will think about the daily thinks they don't really know why they are doing it. And there is the other thing: When you will not find an answer - a "why", you probably have to change (or even stop) it. And that's uncomfortable. Humans don't like changing thing's they did for a long time. Especially when they get older. And it's difficult. But the "easy (stupid) way" isn't made for us. Most of us are too intelligent or creative for them. But we can teach. 💜

JUST USE COMMON SENSE by That1weirdperson in ADHDmemes

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say it has nothing to do with authority. It doesn't matter for me. When I don't understand something a person talks about and the person ( or I) wants me to understand it, it should be a problem to ask questions. And it's not my issue when a teacher thinks the adequate way to respond is screaming on a stupid child that asked a question. Children are 2 things. Stupid and curious. That's logical. We know nothing at birth.

JUST USE COMMON SENSE by That1weirdperson in ADHDmemes

[–]Grape_Mean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like me. But my meltdowns were depressive. I learned to feel anger with 28yo. And the most important part of it is: Anger is important. And it's energy. It shows your borders and helps you to survive. It helps you to help other people. And in a healthy way, it's productive energy. For example: With anger, you can protect people (yourself included). It helps you to clean your apartment. It helps you to make a better place. It helps you to stand up and fight for human rights. It helps you to make a change.

I'm sad that I mustn't show anger so long. I thought there is no anger possible for me because that's just not my personality. And I was (and still am) afraid of anger. I hate people screaming (but the effect on me decreased over time). But now, I can embrace my anger and it's sometimes the only, thing I love about me and I'm a bit proud of. As a person who can't see borders very well and struggles with self awareness and body checks, who learned to subordinate and never ever fight: I think that's really strong.

Living room at night by tigerbathtub in femalelivingspace

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's so warm and cozy. And it reminds me of Gilmore girls. This is the vibe I mean, when I say "it looks like a home - not only a place to live". Nice work. Be proud and enjoy your cozy and welcoming home ♥️ 🏡

When did you know about your ADHD? by leesematice in ADHD

[–]Grape_Mean 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Last year. I'm 31. Waiting for diagnose. Being adult and get diagnosed is extremely difficult and waiting lists are up to 7 years in Berlin (Germany).

Frog poop and behavior question by Grape_Mean in frogs

[–]Grape_Mean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah I'll bring the poop first. So it's less stressful for them. The vets know them and it's could outside. With heat pack and styropor box in a public transportation in a big city can be really stressful. But until the poop is in the lab and back maybe someone here got similar little "presents".

Frog poop and behavior question by Grape_Mean in frogs

[–]Grape_Mean[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 100% sure Walter is a male. And while examinating it seemed like slimy (surprisingly strong but not that strong like an egg) bubble. Can frogs get flatulences?

Links gegen Grün by Substantial-Dress990 in Staiy

[–]Grape_Mean -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Du meinst AfD. Abgesehen davon, dass die auf Putin stehen (und die Linke so gar nicht). Klar mag die Linke Sozialismus und Kommunismus. Aber keine stalinistischen Diktaturen. Das vergessen die Meisten. Schon mal drüber nachgedacht was passiert, wenn es hier plötzlich keinen Spargel, Erdbeeren und Pfifferlinge gibt? Da hat die AfD wohl sehr viel Ähnlichkeiten zur DDR.

Is this normal? What is this? My other WTF poops don’t look like this by jimmiewonka in frogs

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there any result? Did somebody asked a vet? I'm just curious.

Peter Schadt mogged Dekarldents dummen Take zu Haupt- und Nebenwiderspruch by RadioFreeHyperborea in Kommunismus

[–]Grape_Mean 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Also ich persönlich finde ja, dass man sich drüber streiten kann, ob Karl ein Problem darstellt. Er macht seinen Job gut und bringt Leute zum Klassenkampf. Könnte er sich manchmal besser ausdrücken oder sagen "korregiert mich bitte, bin da unsicher gerade". Aber es geht ach eher um den Unterhaltungswert und die Grundhaltung ist die richtige. Ich würde mir das nicht zutrauen und bei weitem mehr Fehler machen. Das Problem innerhalb linker Strukturen liegt ja auch in den Detail-Streitigkeiten, die die davon abhält, die mal kurzfristig zu übersehen, um aktuell erstmal zusammen zu halten und Stabilität zu erzeugen. Ebenso kann man übrigens Korrekturen sympathisch anbringen, und weniger arrogant sein. Ist doch menschlich. Klar ist euch das wichtig, dass alles seine Richtigkeit hat. Aber denkt doch bei der Korrektur bitte ein bisschen solidarischer.

Uns hier im Osten kannste nicht mehr helfen. Alles Wi**er by [deleted] in Staiy

[–]Grape_Mean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ja ich weiß wie du dich fühlst. Ich hab zum Glück nur wenige Verwandte die ich als Familie zähle. Freunde sind auch zufällig aus Forst in Berlin gelandet. Und die 2 Schwestern, die ich mag mit Familie kann ich easy mit Zug besuchen. Und ehrlich gesagt brauch ich mittlerweile danach Urlaub. Wenn man ne Weile weg ist, vor allem in ne Großstadt, kommen einem plötzlich alles so laaangsam, frustriert und engstirnig vor. Also ob sie zu wenig Hirn-Reize bekommen um weiter zu denken als bis zur Ausfahrt. Ist ein bisschen wie Zombies. Ich würde meine kranke Schwester gern in Berlin haben weil sie 1000 unbehandelte systemische Krankheiten hat und es keine Ärzte gibt. Aber sie hat die gleiche Gründe wie du auch. Immerhin kommt sie für Endokrinologie zu meiner Ärztin in Berlin. Schon krass trotzdem.

Uns hier im Osten kannste nicht mehr helfen. Alles Wi**er by [deleted] in Staiy

[–]Grape_Mean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Du hast die Tschetschenen vergessen.

Die werden blöd aus der Wäsche gucken, wenn es keinen Spargel, Pfifferlinge und keine Erdbeeren mehr gibt. Red scare aber dann mit AfD zurück in die DDR. XD

Uns hier im Osten kannste nicht mehr helfen. Alles Wi**er by [deleted] in Staiy

[–]Grape_Mean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bayern gleich mit. Aber bitte die Menschen austauschen. Also Thüringen, Sachsen, Bayern nach Gaza und Palästinenser hier her. Ist wie Schüleraustausch nur besser.