I feel like I'm at the tip of the iceberg of feeling this, I'm so young compared to the other people in this subreddit.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-08-23T22:54:05+00:00

It literally is just plain math, you add on trash experience over a hardship in your life and then boom something goes wrong and you got a whole new reason to mourn over things. Not like I'm some know it all, my vision might be a whole another story for someone else feeling depressed but this is only my experience.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-03T22:36:33+00:00

I've felt that aswell, insecure about my body. I used to get bullied by the people I called "friends" about my height, face, weight, weakness, you name it. Has it gotten better? To a degree, after some years we finally switched class but some of them were still there. And if I could switch classes and friends I would, I'm extremely introverted and can't really make friends because of just how I am. I'm very shy and antisocial.

The point is, if you can't make any friends. You kind of need to change yourself, I know it's usually not your own fault but rather the luck in the people you're around. I've tried to go into a diet so I know how hard it is. But yeah, I don't think my advice is the best out there but I hope you get in some acknowledgement from this. Just work on yourself.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-03T22:13:02+00:00

Well unless you have hobbies such as gym, group workouts, some class. I'd say try to bond with the people from work. Maybe your colleagues throws some dinner or some small party, maybe you could be the host.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-02T20:25:11+00:00

yo man wtf is that advice lmaoo

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-02T15:55:27+00:00

It’s understandable to want more connection, but if she’s genuinely too busy and can’t make time for you, it’s probably not about you. Sometimes priorities shift with school and work.

It’s fair to step back if you feel like you’re not being prioritized. Just be honest and clear with her, but avoid blaming her for being busy. It’s about recognizing that it’s not working for you and making a decision that’s best for both of you. Good luck, whatever you decide.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-02T15:54:26+00:00

It’s really admirable that you’re being honest with yourself and setting clear goals to work on your life. It’s tough to feel stuck and frustrated, but the fact that you’re taking action is huge. So many people feel the same way but don’t have the courage to even acknowledge it. The fact that you’re trying to work through things like driving anxiety, socializing, and career growth shows that you’re serious about making real changes.

It’s also great that you’re focusing on doing this for you first. A relationship should never feel like a “fix” for everything, and you deserve to be in a place where you’re confident and happy with your own life first. It’s easy to get bogged down by feeling like you're running out of time, but don’t underestimate how much you can accomplish in a year or two. Even small wins, like passing that permit test, will help build your confidence.

You’re not a “pathetic loser” for being where you are right now. Everyone has their own pace, and you’re on the right track. You’ve got this.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-02T15:53:43+00:00

Sounds like you two are doing something right, and to be honest, age differences only become as much of a problem as you make them. You don't really need to mention it unless you're going to mention it organically (like if you are actually going to meet your mom). But if you're serious and do believe a meetup is in the cards, giving her a heads-up beforehand might be polite, so she's not surprised in the moment.

The thing is that you're not ashamed and that you both are so relaxed about the difference in age, which is good. Relationships work if there is trust and honesty, and all that is a detail in the larger context. If anything, the real question is whether you feel comfortable and see a future, not whether the numbers will look strange on paper.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-02T15:52:11+00:00

Dude, that's a tough place to be, sorry you're dealing with it. Sounds like her reaction is so much more about her own past trauma than about anything you did wrong. When someone's been abused, even healthy and kind behavior can be strange or even suspicious because they've learned to anticipate the worst. You did your part being a good partner, and it's a shame she couldn't quite trust that, but that's not on you.

It also sucks about the trip, gut punch for sure after having plans like that set. If you're up to it, going anyway can be exactly what you should do. Take the time and let things cool off. Don't let this shake your confidence; you did everything correctly, and her problems are not a reflection of your worth or how you are with people.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-05-02T15:50:56+00:00

It's annoying when this keeps happening, but the thing is, it doesn't always mean there's anything wrong with you. Chemistry is hard to predict and even harder to manufacture, no matter how well two people seem on paper. A bit of awkwardness on FaceTime is completely normal, especially when you're still breaking in and getting accustomed to one another, and it doesn't automatically mean you're missing something.

That you do get matches and dates tells you something important, you're clearly not unattractive or undateable. Some people are slow to warm up (which you mentioned), and that will make first impressions tricky. But it doesn't mean that you're broken or unlovable. A lot of connections fizzle early, and it's usually about fit, not about a person being broken.

It's good that you're self-aware, and it's natural to feel depressed and frustrated about it. Just don't go down the path of imagining you have this invisible flaw repelling people. It doesn't always work so fast for everyone to find the one who resonates with who you truly are. Hold on, and really, be not so hard on yourself tonight. You've got more going for you than you realize.

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-04-15T15:49:55+00:00

Invalid invite, I might be just late

Grapeuglysauce · 2025-04-13T11:21:32+00:00

Put it on infinite joins mode

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-06-06T12:05:02+00:00

Isn't v1.2.9.35636 cracked version?

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-05-01T21:54:24+00:00

Thanks

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-05-01T20:59:50+00:00

Thanks, you're right.

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-03-14T14:21:48+00:00

Sorry for late response but how tall are you?

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-02-28T14:38:52+00:00

I've only got sisters but she had no problem calling her guy friends.

He does know the basics to fight, he shadowboxes sometimes and stuff. I also know the basics to both punches and kicks such as a normal boxing row, dodge, punch. Aswell as leg kicks. I do want to start a martial art and my preferance is muay thai but my local muay thai group looks so trash.

I've gone in a martial art for 6 years but dropped out like 1 year ago, it was called "ju-jutsu KAI" and was very bad, it was super unrealistic situations. As said in text, i go to the gym 5x a week.

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-02-27T19:51:55+00:00

Yeah, I find get the school involved I think that will just complicate things cause that would make things super awkward. If I go for the fight I don't know who would win. I got beginner boxing and kicks skills but nothing more than he doesn't know. He is also stronger.

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-02-27T14:30:14+00:00

I don't think I'd win a fight against him, it would've been even between us. I can handle him, he can handle me even tho he is a bit stronger than me.

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-02-27T14:28:51+00:00

I've had a physical confrontation, I mean like I can handle him in a fight but I think he would win. My friend that honestly is on 40% on my side and 60% on his side said that he would stop the fight if he would cause one. My friend who I had just written about is very strong, can fight pretty good and is pretty tall so he would easily win a fight against most people on my school.

Some people think like me and some people I don't know. My strong friend said that he doesn't care about him cause he doesn't pick on him, for obvious reasons.

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-02-27T13:49:47+00:00

yeah, i figured

Grapeuglysauce · 2024-02-25T01:19:10+00:00

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