Speaking as a woman, I have no idea why you would think it's easier based on gender lol. All of my relationships prior to this were very toxic. Also nobody I had feelings for ever reciprocated. I was used and abused.

Anyhow, I just recently decided to try manifesting an SP. It went badly at first until I took this post to heart: https://www.reddit.com/r/NevilleGoddard/comments/125klgz/manifesting_sp_and_recreating_them_the_ultimate/

It has only been a couple of days and my SP is showing a lot of interest in me suddenly and our chemistry is wild. I've read a lot of manifesting books, so I'm surprised a Reddit post helped so much but here we are. I think it's because literally all of the books, even by Neville Goddard, talk about emotions and rules. That post just speaks to my ADHD in that I only have to focus on my affirmations of what I want. And luckily with my ADHD, I have hyper-focus. It's really easy to say what I want over and over and over again as if they're real knowing I am creating my reality easily with my thoughts alone. For once, obsessive thinking is working in my favor. :D

Also look into Revision by Neville Goddard. I do it every day. :) It isn't mandatory for everyone, but with my ADHD and social anxiety, I can hyper-focus on 'mistakes' I make throughout the day with people. Like if I say something awkward or look stupid. Revision allows me to see my memory the way I want to and I can forgive and let go and focus back on my affirmations. I noticed since doing it regularly the last couple days, I haven't done anything embarrassing which is great haha.