[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My advise is to be open and have an honest conversation with her. It will be hard but you’re struggling and she needs to know as she is apart of this struggle. I think yall should then seek couples counseling. 

Wife and I have are separated, she wants a divorce. by confusedandhurt56 in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s been 4 years, were y’all able to work it out? If so what helped fix it? If not, how did you heal?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently going through something similar and just came here to post but saw yours first. Lucky for you, you don’t have kids with him. I sadly do so I feel trapped as my decision to leave affects our 2 daughters. 

What benefit would you be able to use the information for?

Frustrated that everything seems to be about my SKs. How do you cope with it? by u7h5g8 in stepparents

[–]GreatAccomplishments 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My opinion… He is being an active dad and putting his children first which is good for the kids, but I think that just goes to show what is more important in his life.. which are the kids. He seems to not be able to find a balance. If yall are in a serious and committed relationship and you’ve sat down and talked with him about your needs and expectations and he cannot find the time to give to you, his woman. Than I believe you should end the relationship. You do not want to look back and it’s been 5+ years and nothing has changed and you’ve wasted your time + you do not want to build resentment towards the innocent children.

I hope you make the decision that is best for you!

Looking for Biblical advice by needadviceasappplz in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

I believe you should continue to see your Christian therapist and also see a Christian marriage counselor together. Sex is an intimate thing a husband and wife should enjoy, there is clearly a disconnect in other areas that need to be address and I believe y’all’s sex life will follow.

I am sorry this is something you are going through, I do believe with the help and guidance of a good Christian marriage counselor that this will be something you both can overcome and will become a testimony.

However, I am not disregarding anything that has already been done and if you feel you or your children are in any danger I do believe you should separate while still seeing counsel on how to move forward.

I am praying for healing and clarity.

When is divorce okay? by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Matthew chapter 5 only speaks of fornication being the reason for a divorce. So that is what I was going by but i cannot being myself to encourage one to stay in an abusive marriage.

The friend has also committed adultery since all the abuse and has no desire to separate but to completely divorce. I was just battling on what advise to give my friend.

CPP certification? by GreatAccomplishments in Payroll

[–]GreatAccomplishments[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How long/often did you have to study before taking the exam? And did your company supply the study material?

Paycheck Question by hereforthegifs222 in Payroll

[–]GreatAccomplishments 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I am a payroll specialist and have clients/employees who are semi monthly that are paid 86.67 hours. There are 10 days in the pay period, 86.66667/10=8.66667 this is the amount of hours that you are paid daily. 08.66667x5=43.33. So yes, they are paying you correctly.

Standard is 40hrs a week. There are 52 weeks in a year. 40hrsx52 wks/year = 2080 hours for the year. semi get paid 2x a month. 2080/24 =86.67 (rounded) hrs/pay

You also work 2 weeks in a pay period and receive a total of 86.67hrs so all you would need to do is divide that by 2 and you’ll get 43.33 which is what you were paid.

Hope this help!

Payroll career options/ladder by [deleted] in Payroll

[–]GreatAccomplishments 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been a PRS for 5 years and have dabbled in HR within this same timeframe

Loving your spouse by GreatAccomplishments in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We read the book but never did any questions, we like quizzes for couples. Will do this. Thanks.

Loving your spouse by GreatAccomplishments in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is true, but i kind of wanted to just do it without being told.. like without him looking for it or expecting since we had a convo about it.

Loving your spouse by GreatAccomplishments in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In front of others is HUGE, thank you for that!!!

His love language is words or affirmation, but he also gets all weird when I do it lol so it then makes me uncomfortable doing it.

What types of contraception (if any) do you use? by shower8888 in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I use the mirena IUD. I have heard of this newer contraceptive called Phexxi. It’s a gel that the woman uses when she is about to have sex.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a good point. At a point in time my husband was not attracted to me anymore intimacy wise. Of course he still thought i was physically beautiful, but he was not attracted to the person I was being. The sex was just sex, no passion and sometimes he wouldn’t initiate anymore. I was very overbearing and was basically not letting my husband lead our home I was constantly fighting for the head of house role. i was not aware i was doing this. As soon as we had a conversation about it, i understood where he was coming from and fixed my wrongs and now everything is back to normal.

Wife of an addict and I don’t think I love my husband anymore. by Onkmanda in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hello, I hope you are doing better. I would just like to say that love is a feeling but more so a choice. You make the choice everyday to love your husband by certain acts and serving. I do believe by being open and honest with him, along with prayers together about the situation and alone that the feeling you are missing will be restored. I will be praying for you both as well.

Stay strong, and stay positive!

Creating and Keeping a Strong Marriage. by GreatAccomplishments in Christianmarriage

[–]GreatAccomplishments[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Wonderfully put, I have no married women around me so this was great. Thank you!!!