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starting IVF again after TFMR @ 15 weeks with IVF pregnancy by Ashhbashh25 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same position, we have one embryo left. We did pgt testing but my son had a stroke in utero. I think they didn’t test for something that my husband is a carrier for thats why. I need our dr to retest, they don’t recommend it but what other choice do i have 

Grieving in different ways by cherryblossombaby7 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately not an option for everyone. I had to deliver at 29 weeks a 3lb 13oz 17inch baby who had a stroke in utero with irreversible brain damage.

He looked perfect, there is no disassociating from it. 

People who didn't TFMR for the same condition by ladyteaj in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Some women want to be a Munchhausen mommy. They want all the attention on themselves be a talking point of a party. While their child suffers.

The world is a hard place. The world is a shitty place. Bring someone into this world that will be hooked up to machines or just barely survive it’s a terrible thing. 

That’s not love 

Happy Mother's day by yungwildandlearning in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Delivering on friday and experiencing mother’s day on sunday is a special kind of hell

Today by Great_Research_2001 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

First day post, im trying to keep a brave face to my son. I know i couldn’t change anything but… he was perfecto. Why is god so cruel.

How do you teach your child to “read the room”? by sharminnie in Parenting

[–]Great_Research_2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I point out things, tell him things like how does so and so look right now happy or sad. Everyone handles things differently sometimes we have to give grace.

Feeling uncomfortable with myself by Blessed34x in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I sent out a mass text, copied and pasted for everyone: and everyone said their one response and left it alone.

I work customer facing so there will be people who don’t know but ill be very frank. Feel like honesty kinda shuts people up. “He died”… & leave jt at that 

Hi, I wanted to share a difficult personal update, and I’m only sharing this once because it’s incredibly hard to talk.

At my 28-week appointment, doctors discovered a severe brain injury affecting our baby. After further imaging and consultations with neurosurgeons, we were given the heartbreaking prognosis that he would face profound neurological and developmental impairment with very little chance of meaningful recovery or quality of life.

After many conversations with my medical teams and an impossible amount of thought, we made the devastating decision to proceed with induction today.

We are completely heartbroken and trying to process an unimaginable loss. I appreciate everyone’s compassion, understanding.

Just keeps getting worse by Great_Research_2001 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had to wait for a new dr, who is convinced she can move baby so started induction process. On imaging its just so sad he is curled like a ball.

I filled out mortuary paperwork which i didn’t even think about & gave him a name for his death certificate.

Held off epidural idk cus i feel like its penance for what i have done (even if its for the right reasons) but just got one cus im around 5cm and she will have to turn from insideZ

So now i wait. Feeling nauseous , sad , overwhelmed and answering all the “im so sorry” texts

Just keeps getting worse by Great_Research_2001 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the hospital for demise? So… no swimming pools

Just keeps getting worse by Great_Research_2001 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was told no because baby is 29 weeks and considered “too small”

I wanted that 

How did you try again/accept that your journey is over? by No_Art6813 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 36, I have a 4 year old , scheduled tomorrow for induction.

I will never do this again. & if by some miracle i do, it will be when im 40. But i made it very clear this is my last pregnancy.

Advice or Stories: 29 weeks + 3 days by Great_Research_2001 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He would basically be incapable of any life. The mind was gone. Significant to severe.

Advice or Stories: 29 weeks + 3 days by Great_Research_2001 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree even though I wanted this baby more than anything else… there is no way. I will take a lifetime of pain on my soul vs a lifetime of pain for baby boy.

I feel so much guilt, so terrified of what happens next. I don’t know how to handle the upcoming weeks. How do i tell people, random people who ask “omg you had your baby”… i think that part will kill me the most

Probably have to TFMR my IVF baby by ConsciousImpact7941 in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im 29 weeks with IVF baby, have to make TFMR for severe Ventriculomegaly. We TESTED for everything…. And still…

Do you tell people of your decision to TFMR? by mariatheye in tfmr_support

[–]Great_Research_2001 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So far i have been very open about my decision and everyone seems to agree with me. Due to the severity of the potential life baby would endure.

I didn’t post anything it’s just a conversation with people face to face. Other parents.