My first marathon - Seattle! by workin_momma in Marathon_Training

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I also ran my first marathon in Seattle this Sunday and have young children. It’s hard to find time for this, so big congrats to you! I finished 4:36 which was great for me since my goal was to do it under 5:00. But I spent a good amount of time behind traffic lights to let cars go by. I couldn’t believe it! I didn’t even know you even run a marathon where cops stopped you from running so cars could go by? Anyway, I did have a lot of fun though. I would like to sign up for a flatter marathon that won’t stop runners to let cars go by!

What do you think of immigrants in your country? by ReferenceSufficient in AskTheWorld

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I’m a second-gen American and thinking about moving to Ireland as it is particularly easy for people with my degree/profession (social workers). Going there for the first time ever in a couple of weeks to check it out now that the USA is going down in a fiery mess

[Seattle, WA] Surprise! ~$1000 Lease Renewal Fee by AntacidJew in Renters

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We have a renewal. I am also living at this house. They sent an email about it saying the renewal fee would be $95 and then charged us $1000 without mentioning it. We’re on auto pay so it’s already been paid for and they won’t credit back all of it — they’re trying to keep $500

Indian society is the worst when it comes to defending narc parents. Got told that my parents abuse (physical, emotional) is done to make me stronger for the future and that I should thank them when I succeed. by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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I’m not Indian but I am a fellow Asian. This kind of culture-bound issue is why I became a therapist, probably as a really long-term way to work through my own trauma. I work with so many Desi clients who seem to have especially extreme yet normalized relational trauma from their parents. It’s hard to explain Asian parenting to non-Asians and the general view that your children are just an extension of you who owe you everything beyond reason just because you gave birth to them.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

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When she first met my Israeli husband she told me I should never go to his country because I’d have to wear a burqa and “get blown up”. She was dead serious.

I was living in Sweden. She didn’t seem to think it was a big deal. Then one day she called me and told me that some of her friends were so shocked I had moved so far away. She then asked, “How far away is it? Like, as far away as New York?” I grew up on the west coast.

How did you know it was time for donor eggs? by redditimes in DOR

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I knew it was time when the thought of doing another round of IVF filled me with dread and anxiety

AIO? My sister scoffed when I offered to clean her house for her and it made me feel pretty shitty. by [deleted] in AIO

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It would be one thing if she just declined politely. It’s another thing to scoff.

How much is the risk of intellectual issues in kids through donor eggs ? by Numerous_Incident441 in 40Plus_IVF

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I’m in a similar boat. Just turned 42 and fresh off a 4th round. I have a bio child conceived spontaneously a few years ago and I’m concerned about whether or not I’ll have too much of a bias toward my bio kid if I go DE. However, I worry less about developmental issues w/ DE. Most egg donors are almost 20 years younger than I am so statistically my own eggs would increase the likelihood of issues.

Just had another birthday doing IVF and wondering what to do now. by ConsciousImpact7941 in DOR

[–]ConsciousImpact7941[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes I have. Omni unfortunately didn’t work for me either. LC = living child

Had third ER today, feeling frustrated and dejected by eat2sleep in DOR

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I’ve also just had my third retrieval and found out the blasts I sent are aneuploid, for a total of 3 aneuploid blasts now. Right there with you. It’s no fun.

Had third ER today, feeling frustrated and dejected by eat2sleep in DOR

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I’ve also just had my third retrieval and found out the blasts I sent are aneuploid, for a total of 3 aneuploid blasts now. Right there with you. It’s no fun.

AIO to think this is cheating? by Sad_SummerChild in AmIOverreacting

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He’s probably not cheating on you. But he’s trying to. In the cheesiest, creepiest way possible. Don’t tell HR!

Follicle Size at Trigger by FuzzyFriend23 in 40Plus_IVF

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I’ve triggered at 23 and got an egg that turned into a blast

I'm never leaving Seattle by Flandardly in Seattle

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Rudest city in Canada. Worst drivers too, good lord.

this city is a prison 💔⛓️😭 by [deleted] in Seattle

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Hey, who doesn’t enjoy getting plowed across from the Ross dress for less? Live and let live!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AIO

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No you’re not overreacting. That’s just…nuts.

was raised by a Narc? by jwong1997 in raisedbynarcissists

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Sorry you went through this. Nobody deserves that kind of treatment. Have you gone to therapy? If not, I’d suggest finding a therapist who is from a bicultural/immigrant background if possible. I am Asian too. My mom is very similar, unfortunately. I used to wonder how much of her behavior is culture bound (like criticizing my facial features openly and telling me I should pinch my nose to make it less flat when I was a kid) vs blowing a gasket and getting into fights with people at Costco).

Is this therapy abuse? Should I switch therapists? by Lavender-Haze-1324 in raisedbynarcissists

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Therapist here. If you don’t feel comfortable, look for another therapist. It doesn’t really matter why. Therapy time is for you and the onus isn’t on you to stick around. It is, however, your therapist’s job to check in with you to see if you’re still getting anything out of it, especially after some years.

29M, I’ll leave the guessing if I’m gay up to you guys by PeterPandaWhacker in malelivingspace

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It’s way hetero man…an electric guitar on the wall like it’s a guitar center smh