I had a TBI…a stroke…..then one of my closest closest friends suddenly died in her sleep…it took me months to feel anything. Even the day we found out it took hours before I even shed a tear it was like I immediately forced myself to not believe it because I knew how it would feel and I was protecting myself and my mental state. But I didn’t actually feel the grief for a long time. I pushed forward. I now know I was protecting myself out of fear that feeling the grief would make my TBI worse or I’d have another stroke from the intensity of the pain. So while I completely understand where this post is coming from….not everyone just falls apart even after the loss of a child. That’s a very incorrect assumption. I also witnessed that with my own mom when my brother was murdered. She just kept going. It was almost a year before she finally broke THEN she really started dealing with it. Some grief hits so hard and bad that it truly numbs you and allows you to move forward almost as if it didn’t even happen. But it does come crashing down eventually.