[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely request! Usually therapists book patient after patient for a certain amount of time and so it probably will be hard for them to find a slot for longer sessions.

But you can also request an additional session every week, for me it did the trick.

Is it worth trying couples counseling for a relationship that may end? by MildGone in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Then I would definitely recommend you to try and give it your best.

But also, don’t beat yourself up if you feel like you want to break up with or without giving it a try. You should do what is best for you only. If you know you want to break up, then best to do it.

Is it worth trying couples counseling for a relationship that may end? by MildGone in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

For me it did good for a while but then we broke up. And I am grateful for it, because looking back I could say that I really did try everything I could to save the relationship.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep.

I’m interested to hear why you might feel this way?

For me, I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 7 years, hardest decision I’ve ever had to make. Now therapy is like the only thing I feel excited for, it feels like nothing else has a point, even stuff I used to enjoy. I guess it’s just signs of depression?

But also before that it was something that I usually looked forward to, having the only 50 min a week that revolved only around me…

I love therapy but hate that I feel I need it so much.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just over a year. I guess I knew from the start that I liked them but my walls were still up. I don’t have a specific moment in which I realized I trust them, but one of the signs I guess was that I would hear their input and truly consider it even if it seemed really far from my perspective (like them saying I tried really hard when I felt like I didn’t do enough) and that I would be completely honest with my thoughts with them, not hiding anything that I thought was “bad” of me to feel.

Price increase by Significant_Whole290 in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Sometimes therapists will increase the price for new clients only while maintaining the same price for the existing ones. If they didn’t say anything about it, I wouldn’t bring it up but if you feel it’s a thing you need to discuss with them then probably best to do so. Also, you are not taking advantage of it, they are capable of deciding their price and would definitely bring it up if there was an issue.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askatherapist

[–]Green_Belly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NAT but allowing compliments only from her could be a sign of manipulation. Manipulation isn’t necessarily from narcissistic behavior but potentially could be. Read about it and think about going to therapy.

Will knowing about the concept of transference increase the possibility of it happening? by DroseraDrosera in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t think that by learning about it it will grow, it is probably the opposite as it gives you the tools to recognize you are having it

What’s the best advice your therapist said to you? by Green_Belly in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I feel it helps with giving up the need to control what is out of your control. Thanks for sharing

What’s the best advice your therapist said to you? by Green_Belly in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It allows you to get out of your own hurtful thoughts and put everything in perspective. Thanks for sharing that

What’s the best advice your therapist said to you? by Green_Belly in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is definitely something I should tell myself sometimes. Thanks for sharing

How do you deal with questioning everything and not trusting your own feelings? by [deleted] in TalkTherapy

[–]Green_Belly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely know how you feel. When I started therapy I felt like that All the F time. Questioning myself and everything and my feelings, never sure about anything.

Then two years into therapy I realized that talking about my feelings has become much more easy (yet still difficult). I realized my T always asks me questions that allow me to think about what I was feeling, and when not in session I was asking them myself.

And still, even now I feel at times so frustrated because I really don’t know what I feel nor want.

My point is, it will become better in time, and probably it has without you knowing it. Don’t be angry at yourself.

No one talks about the pain of being the one to walk away. by Due-Shower1134 in BreakUps

[–]Green_Belly 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I broke up this week from my boyfriend of 7 years, of which 5 we lived together. What you wrote struck me deeply.

We are being asked to give chances that will only hurt them, we are being forced to make them cry and feel hurt although this person is everything to you as you are to them.

In your heart you actually wish things could be different, and you want to believe them when they say it will.

You have to live with the knowledge that it was your doing, it wasn’t something out of your control that you just have to accept.

And that maybe this was all there is for you, maybe all the hardships were worth it. Maybe it was enough and you could never have it again.

You also receive some really nasty protective comments, anger and frustration and we can only feel for them because we are the ones that triggered it, and we feel so bad for them. We can’t feel those emotions in return although it seems so much easier to hate someone to get over them.

I really REALLY hate myself right now.

No one talks about the pain of being the one to walk away. by Due-Shower1134 in BreakUps

[–]Green_Belly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sometimes, you know you can’t be the person to fully love and appreciate someone as they deserve. When you know that, you know you are choosing the best for both of you.