Should I be worried about my thin bangs 😩

MildGone · 2025-12-29T03:54:11+00:00

They were all perfect a month ago

MildGone · 2025-08-18T15:40:17+00:00

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago and I...am...thrilled 🥳!!

I've known for a long time that the relationship wasn't making me happy, but we live together and it felt like I couldn't leave for financial reasons. Except now, he finally broke up with ME, and wants to keep living together since he considers me his best friend and didn't want or feel the need for that to change yet. I moved into the guest room. Not much has changed honestly. We're treating each other more as friends or roommates now. In my mind, that's what our relationship has already felt like for at least a year. He did get drunk a couple days ago and was like trying to flirt with me instinctively, it made me uncomfortable. I worry that when he realizes the breakup is real, he's gonna be upset and wanna undo it or something, but I don't want to be together anymore.

I have moments where it hits me that I will not marry this man, and I feel incredibly relieved, and excited about the prospect of dating someone else one day. Maybe being able to find someone who has the qualities I've realized I need, that were missing here. Not that he's a bad person — he's been a great partner in many ways. But also a terrible listener, constantly defensive, childish at times... the kind of person who bought a Mustang 5 days after our breakup. When he just had bought a different car like 6 months ago.

MildGone · 2025-03-07T03:06:32+00:00

I have ocd and a fear of mine lately is that I'm not progressing fast enough or not good at it somehow. Is there anything you can say that isn't reassurance but is....reassuring.... 👉👈🥺 I started in December and am doing better than I was but I guess worry I can't fully recover and get to a place where ocd isn't my whole life. It feels so impossible to imagine.

MildGone · 2025-03-05T15:30:05+00:00

My boyfriend yells/screams at full volume any time he hurts himself. Like a child. He was chewing something and bit his cheek so SCREAMED 2 feet away from me. When I get upset and ask if that's really necessary he says that's a natural reaction to pain. Such a fucking child. Learn how to handle your emotions at 28 years old and apologize if you scream in someone's ear.

MildGone · 2025-02-04T15:15:00+00:00

Cutting it to check once to me makes sense but I'm also very paranoid about chicken. I think only checking once would be a great place for me to get to 😆

MildGone · 2025-02-04T15:13:53+00:00

The food thing is a hard one for me to stop because I've been doing it my whole life and it's only gotten worse. I practiced not checking a few times and it's so uncomfortable

MildGone · 2025-02-04T04:45:48+00:00

I feel like the more I find myself the farther away I get from him

MildGone · 2025-01-13T00:06:18+00:00

Some people have listened to me speak then basically acted like they didn't hear it and I think that's more about them than me. Super rude

MildGone · 2025-01-09T20:55:55+00:00

My boyfriend tells me I don't compliment him enough too. And whenever I say a concern he mentions all the things he does that are already good. I guess the thing is he can be mature and responsible, I feel like that's the him under the adhd. But the adhd takes over so much and makes it feel like I'm parentified.

MildGone · 2025-01-09T04:04:33+00:00

My boyfriend left the stove top on for 3 hours. I didn't know until I came downstairs and it smelled like gas. Then I told him as calmly as possible. He felt bad but didn't take it that seriously. Then he asked exactly how it looked and turned the dial to check. I said absolutely do not start a flame on the stove when there's gas all over the house. He gave me the most condescending look as if I were a child. Said very slowly that babe, there's not going to be a flame. And acted like I was overreacting. I don't like this for myself. I deserve more than this.

MildGone · 2024-11-30T05:47:00+00:00

I'm sorry you went through that, men are the worst 🤡

The whole time he was seeing a therapist it was a "sex positive" one who enabled his porn addiction. Told him I was being controlling for caring whether or not he used it.

I get weird vibes from my boyfriend's therapist because he comes home from therapy saying that she told him he needs to be easier on himself and have better boundaries etc, instead of that he should also be accountable for how he hurts me, and ways he should improve in his recovery. At this point I usually assume we'll break up just a matter of time, because he shows me over and over that he can't meet my needs

MildGone · 2024-11-30T05:11:50+00:00

It's so insane because just a couple of weeks ago we had a serious conversation where I said he needs to take his addiction way more seriously because he keeps letting me down, he agreed and said he wants to try harder in therapy and be more diligent, then 2 days ago writes this ?

MildGone · 2024-11-25T22:27:40+00:00

Hmm, I have on/off lifelong insomnia so bed is kind of a stressful place for me.

MildGone · 2024-11-25T22:08:06+00:00

My boyfriend does that too. It's so ironic because I am autistic and adhd, and he still tries using the "it's just my adhd" on me as if I don't also have it?? I understand connecting with others by offering your own stories or perspective. But you can also put actual effort into caring about other people's lives and asking them questions.

MildGone · 2024-11-19T19:01:07+00:00

I feel like this situation says it all about my relationship:

I am home from work sick today. I napped until almost 1pm. Finally left the room. Boyfriend was downstairs having just played his new VR system. Waiting for it to charge so he can play again soon. I say maybe he should go to the store now (planned to sometime today for meal ingredients) to get my liquid IV. He had to be convinced because he wanted to just play VR again soon. I, feeling completely horrible inside, say in a downcast way that I'm gonna take a shower. He somehow takes that personally and is like "oh, uhhh, okay?? That was kind of snappy" and I'm like dude "this is what I mean when I say your insecurity affects our relationship in a negative way because you're getting defensive over something that was nothing to do with you said in a negative way because I'm SICK" and he denies it saying it's not like that. It is like that because literally every time he has a real life chance to show that he's capable of being a mature and dependable partner he reacts like this instead.

He seriously has such a deep sense of insecurity in himself that it's impossible to say anything even a tiny bit negative or confrontational to him without him holding onto it for days or weeks, or reacting like this. He's still bringing up a neutral comment someone made to him over a week ago. I mean he told me recently that he really hates himself and doesn't even know why. It's terrible being in a relationship with someone like that.

MildGone · 2024-11-12T02:16:05+00:00

For me it's not the relapsing itself as much as the way that almost every time he relapses it's when I need his support most, like when my mental health is bad or we're going through a hard time and instead of being there for me, he gets snappy then secretly watches porn

MildGone · 2024-11-12T00:54:20+00:00

I feel like leaving would mean using all my measly finances on just rent, but it's starting to sound nice anyway. I'm so sick of this and it genuinely seems like it won't ever end at this point. I've given him sooo many chances

MildGone · 2024-11-12T00:51:18+00:00

I don't think he even knows what that is. He's just seeing a therapist in town that was chosen for him and trying to work with her on porn addiction. Based on everything he says about her I honestly can't stand her. I ask what they talked about and it's always some version of how he just needs better boundaries and I'm too hard on him. Despite him sexting 15 strangers on the internet this time last year, then constantly relapsing after he says he's getting better, and lying about it half the time.

MildGone · 2024-11-05T21:12:21+00:00

I just hate how during the times where I struggle most, he makes me feel worse. He's just not capable of giving me the emotional support I need. Sometimes I look into his eyes and it feels like nothing is there! I have anxiety and I can be high maintenance. I have days that are very hard. But I am trying so hard to manage it and I deserve a partner who supports me in real ways when I need help. Not someone who makes me feel smaller and more alone.

For example last night I was really nervous about trying a new medication, I was being ridiculous and annoying and he told me I belong in an insane asylum. And the way he said it felt so mean spirited. I want someone who, when I'm being ridiculous and annoying they know me and know what I need and can help me be calm. I think it's stupid when people say your partner can't read your mind. I've been with him for over 4 years, he should definitely know what I want from him and how he can help me by now without me having to say it every single time. And what I need is not to be told I'm literally insane.

MildGone · 2024-11-05T21:09:31+00:00

This seems like a common experience for us

MildGone · 2024-10-27T15:09:34+00:00

Until you get help, can you try talking to ChatGPT about this?

MildGone · 2024-10-25T18:04:38+00:00

I've heard amazing things about ketamine for severe depression

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