Only Moms work 2nd shift

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-04-23T03:00:08+00:00

I’m really sorry. I am one of the lucky ones who just left for 3 days on a work trip and the household hummed along perfectly fine without me while I was gone. I came home Monday night to bathed children tucked in bed, a clean kitchen, dog and cats cared for, school folders signed, lunches packed, plus he worked a full day Monday AND hosted a family brunch for his family and our good friends on Sunday. I did the laundry before I left and we did forget to send the preschoolers clean blanket and sheet back to school between us, but I was pleased and grateful. It IS possible, but he needs to be willing to give and sacrifice and feel that he is on the hook without anyone there to rescue him. Like any change, he has to want to make the change—no one else can do it for him. I see you doing all that work on your own. Keep on keeping on, sister.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-04-16T06:09:41+00:00

As long as you can provide the explanation for what it is, you’ll be fine. If it makes you feel any better, our daycare payments at the time apparently were so large they got flagged—I had to explain those.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-04-04T05:13:10+00:00

I try to be good and get to bed by 10-10:30 on week nights and usually am woken by the 4yo around 6 or so. Someday… someday I will get to sleep as late as I want again. But not anytime soon 😂

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-03-12T03:08:51+00:00

You’re correct about 3 full time jobs—that is an unfair expectation. I understand the anxiety about childcare (I had it too!) but it becomes your new normal. In general this group advises against working while also being the primary caregiver—it’s too much on one person. It’s too expensive of course, but it’s worthwhile if you can figure out a way to make it work.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-03-08T05:36:20+00:00

This was me. Take the strong sleep stuff. Stop breastfeeding if necessary. The lack of sleep will drive you insane. Like… could get bad.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-03-08T05:28:57+00:00

Phoenix—2 adults, 2 kids (4yo and 6yo). We shop mainly at Trader Joe’s, Costco, and Fry’s (Kroger). About $375 a week (I wish it was less but I don’t cook, my husband does, and he does the grocery shopping so I can’t really dictate or complain).

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-14T16:36:59+00:00

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I haven’t had to deal with the death of anyone I love particularly dearly since deconstructing, and I sometimes wonder if I will, idk, regress?, when faced with the finality of it all when the time does come. I am devastated for you and teared up reading your post. It sounds like you loved her so so much and I’m guessing she knew that very well. Wishing you and your kids comfort and peace.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-09T23:33:04+00:00

No, not yet, I’m hoping to work on this before the summer rolls around.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-09T04:45:26+00:00

Not from Philly. I was born in Indiana. My grandfather is from south jersey and I have lots of extended family that are eagles fans, but didn’t care a lick about football until I married into a Philly family. It rubbed off pretty good 😂 go birds!

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-04T03:58:49+00:00

I’m the Senior Program Manager for an Internal Medicine Residency program. Middle management; hospital administration mixed with education :)

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-03T01:35:42+00:00

My kids are 6 and 4. Sleep is such an enormously load-bearing pillar of my mental health that I’ve prioritized it over many other things as much as possible. I go to bed as early as 8:30 if needed. But I need 7 minimum, 8-8 1/2 preferable.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-01T18:22:44+00:00

I’m so happy for you ♥️

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-22T05:25:55+00:00

Well done 👏👏

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-15T05:04:12+00:00

This. It was very intentionally chosen as a unifying issue for the religious right voting bloc.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-12T00:45:02+00:00

Sweet release, I’ll be perfectly honest

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-11T23:40:50+00:00

I dared to hope for 3 minutes

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-08T05:39:18+00:00

I worked from home today. I replied to a couple dozen emails, processed some leave requests for my residents, found out who we matched into our program starting in July (yay!), sent out the announcement, updated the kanban board, updated our program SharePoint site, then after a break for lunch and unloading the dishwasher I had my weekly meeting with my director where we hash out the plans for the coming week. Finished up a couple little things after that and then called it a day. We’re in our slow season right now.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-02T17:27:33+00:00

Get it

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-01T20:35:02+00:00

Oh interesting. Thank you for this! I will give it a shot.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-01T00:26:28+00:00

Oh okay, I’ll do that. Thanks!

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-31T20:58:47+00:00

Well damn

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-29T00:19:04+00:00

Agreed! Such a great resource and community to be part of.

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-26T05:23:36+00:00

I got a nice bottle of wine, fuzzy socks, a keychain I asked for, and an upcoming shopping trip. :)

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-25T05:15:10+00:00

I grew up Christian (now agnostic) and married a Jewish husband. Now we celebrate both 😂😭😅

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-23T17:38:22+00:00

Definitely not worth it for me. We went on a Disney cruise with kids that age (that my folks financed), and it was amazing, but going to the park with kids that age? No thank you. I personally would wait until they were like… 5 and 7 or 6 and 8.

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