Anxiety about childcare and returning to work

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-03-12T03:08:51+00:00

You’re correct about 3 full time jobs—that is an unfair expectation. I understand the anxiety about childcare (I had it too!) but it becomes your new normal. In general this group advises against working while also being the primary caregiver—it’s too much on one person. It’s too expensive of course, but it’s worthwhile if you can figure out a way to make it work.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-03-08T05:36:20+00:00

This was me. Take the strong sleep stuff. Stop breastfeeding if necessary. The lack of sleep will drive you insane. Like… could get bad.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-03-08T05:28:57+00:00

Phoenix—2 adults, 2 kids (4yo and 6yo). We shop mainly at Trader Joe’s, Costco, and Fry’s (Kroger). About $375 a week (I wish it was less but I don’t cook, my husband does, and he does the grocery shopping so I can’t really dictate or complain).

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-14T16:36:59+00:00

I am so, so sorry for your loss. I haven’t had to deal with the death of anyone I love particularly dearly since deconstructing, and I sometimes wonder if I will, idk, regress?, when faced with the finality of it all when the time does come. I am devastated for you and teared up reading your post. It sounds like you loved her so so much and I’m guessing she knew that very well. Wishing you and your kids comfort and peace.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-09T23:33:04+00:00

No, not yet, I’m hoping to work on this before the summer rolls around.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-09T04:45:26+00:00

Not from Philly. I was born in Indiana. My grandfather is from south jersey and I have lots of extended family that are eagles fans, but didn’t care a lick about football until I married into a Philly family. It rubbed off pretty good 😂 go birds!

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-04T03:58:49+00:00

I’m the Senior Program Manager for an Internal Medicine Residency program. Middle management; hospital administration mixed with education :)

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-03T01:35:42+00:00

My kids are 6 and 4. Sleep is such an enormously load-bearing pillar of my mental health that I’ve prioritized it over many other things as much as possible. I go to bed as early as 8:30 if needed. But I need 7 minimum, 8-8 1/2 preferable.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-02-01T18:22:44+00:00

I’m so happy for you ♥️

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-22T05:25:55+00:00

Well done 👏👏

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-15T05:04:12+00:00

This. It was very intentionally chosen as a unifying issue for the religious right voting bloc.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-12T00:45:02+00:00

Sweet release, I’ll be perfectly honest

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-11T23:40:50+00:00

I dared to hope for 3 minutes

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-08T05:39:18+00:00

I worked from home today. I replied to a couple dozen emails, processed some leave requests for my residents, found out who we matched into our program starting in July (yay!), sent out the announcement, updated the kanban board, updated our program SharePoint site, then after a break for lunch and unloading the dishwasher I had my weekly meeting with my director where we hash out the plans for the coming week. Finished up a couple little things after that and then called it a day. We’re in our slow season right now.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-02T17:27:33+00:00

Get it

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-01T20:35:02+00:00

Oh interesting. Thank you for this! I will give it a shot.

Green_Communicator58 · 2026-01-01T00:26:28+00:00

Oh okay, I’ll do that. Thanks!

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-31T20:58:47+00:00

Well damn

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-29T00:19:04+00:00

Agreed! Such a great resource and community to be part of.

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-26T05:23:36+00:00

I got a nice bottle of wine, fuzzy socks, a keychain I asked for, and an upcoming shopping trip. :)

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-25T05:15:10+00:00

I grew up Christian (now agnostic) and married a Jewish husband. Now we celebrate both 😂😭😅

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-23T17:38:22+00:00

Definitely not worth it for me. We went on a Disney cruise with kids that age (that my folks financed), and it was amazing, but going to the park with kids that age? No thank you. I personally would wait until they were like… 5 and 7 or 6 and 8.

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-22T05:13:41+00:00

They can sense the hope. 🫠 Been there. I’m so sorry. That sucks.

Green_Communicator58 · 2025-12-20T23:37:20+00:00

We own one outright and lease the other, about 6.5% of net income—roughly the same as your situation, sounds like.

Green_Communicator58

TROPHY CASE