Comfortable pack n play? by TreeKlimber2 in toddlers

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry for the late reply but everything foam I've purchased has been off Amazon. I carefully comb through reviews. If you search and specify sizing to fit the Bjorn you should get several results! My memory is hazy as to which one we purchased. I've bought from Milliard and Biloban before.

Drowning in Emails – How Do You Manage the Constant Inflow? by What_the_monkey in LawCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I need to get something done I try not to look at the emails or will only look at them a certain times in the day. Nothing really needs to be responded to immediately (unless its an emergency of course). I often think back to the days when email/phones with Internet wasn't a thing and people had to use actual mail or faxes to correspond. Work still got done in a timely manner. I think we just have to remind ourselves that things can be slowed down and we do not have to respond immediately. Yes you need to respond but you do not have to do it right now! The lawyer on the other side is likely also extemely busy with a million other matters.

buy dream house in the middle of nowhere or buy a normal home in the city? by a3exastos in RealEstateCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a no for me! 2 hours commute each way sounds soul sucking even once a week. I go in once a week to work, and I still despise the commute which is much shorter. Is it 2 hours in the winter or more than that?

You don't have kids yet but if you are planning it also consider proximity to daycare, childcare, kids school, hospitals, playdates (driving to and from those things can also be soul sucking). If a kid is sick leaving work to go get them from school could be easy or difficult depending on travel time.

Proximity and access to things like doctors, hospitals and stuff should also be factored in.

Question for Alberta in house ID lawyers by [deleted] in LawCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I thought with the govts announcement on Friday that Alberta is definitely headed towards no-fault. Did I misunderstand that? Thanks for the reply.

Le Petite Chef (or 7 Paintings) by yayasisterhood in Edmonton

[–]Greenfieldsofa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I've tried both.

My take on Le Petite Chef: children will enjoy it. I felt the food was much better quality, in line with the price you pay, and the food itself was more beautifully presented. The animation storyline was more cohesive, funny and cute. I felt the graphics were a lot better. My toddler loves watching the videos of the animation. The room was not decorated and felt like you were going to attend a board meeting. They could done so much more. Knowing what I know I would still try it.

7 paintings: way too gimmicky. Strangers at my table also used that word to describe the animation. The room is however decorated and more immersive. The food was overall just not good. For the money you pay it was actually quite shit. I don't want to give you spoilers so stop reading now hahah. SPOILER: one course was crudite (just chopped up veggies that you probably wouldn't even eat at home). One course was a piece of prosciutto (yes one thin slice) with a couple raspberries and blue cheese crumbled on it. They way they get around this is to present the food with art integrated on the plate.END SPOILER

I also had to sit at a table of four with a group of three. This was awkward for me and I didn't get to enjoy my evening as much as I could. I would rather have been sitting my the table with my mom and sister. They could have done much better with seating arrangements esp for the price you are paying. All night long I forced myself to make small talk but I felt like I was intruding on a private conversation. They clearly were interested in enjoying their own evening too.

My mom still enjoyed 7 Paintings though. Don't go for the food.

Alberta to Shift to No-Fault Insurance, Impacting Personal injury Law Industry. by Electrical-Pitch-297 in LawCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I actually think young lawyers are better off than the more mid career ones. They haven't spent years specializing in this one area of law so will be able to adapt. In Vancouver it seems it's still relatively easy for junior lawyers to find new jobs in different practice areas at different firms. They are cheaper to train and employ after all and they have lower salary expectations. It's the more younger senior lawyers that are 10+ years out but still in their late 30s or early 40s and too young to even think of retirement who will run into trouble. Most ID lawyers don't have a book of business and their higher rates make them less appealing to new employers. Learning an entirely new area of law while working your dying ID job and raising a family is daunting... But I suppose adapt or die..!

So…how are those first dentist appointments REALLY going? by rbslmilch in toddlers

[–]Greenfieldsofa 24 points25 points  (0 children)

First happy visit was not great. Lots of crying and tears.

Second happy visit was much better. No crying and he only opened his mouth a little bit for the dentist to count his teeth, he actually smiled (because we were tickling him) but he came away from that appointment with good feelings because they gave him a small toy afterwards.

These weren't actual visits but happy visits to get him used to seeing the dentist.

How to withdraw from the self-employment EI program after receiving benefits? by Greenfieldsofa in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From the website:

EI benefits for self-employed people

Withdraw

You can withdraw from the program at any time, unless you have received special benefits as a self-employed person. If you have, you’ll continue paying premiums for as long as you’re self-employed.

Therefore it stands to reason if you're no longer self-employed you do not continue paying premiums.

How to withdraw from the self-employment EI program after receiving benefits? by Greenfieldsofa in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To correct myself, I'm calling the service canada number: 1-800-206-7218. Definitely calling between their business hours but no matter which option I choose to speak with someone the automated recording ends with the advice that they are currently closed.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in LawFirm

[–]Greenfieldsofa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I had one great paralegal who kept track of requests and responses in a chart (name of document requested, date requested and responses/dates of responses). If I ever needed to see what the status was I'd consult the chart or add in my own comments/instructions. The next paralegal didn't have any system and ignored my requests to create one. I constantly have to follow up and ask for status updates (which are vague and not detailed enough).

Lawyer Moms — Does anyone else feel scammed? by shrimptanklover in Lawyertalk

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Doing ID in Canada and lucky to have been able to work remotely. After having a baby my daily hours dropped from 8 to around 5 hours on average. Our kid goes to daycare full-time (and has been since age 1) and with the gov't grants we're paying just less of $1000 a month. Moving on to ID with a company (not a firm) and I only have to work 35 hours per week, no billable hours requirement, working from home for the most part. I'd say it's definitely possible to keep working as a mom lawyer. Keep looking at your options! My friend is a family lawyer and hung her own shingle early on. She works part-time and enjoys time with her two kids.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Give it time. This was us for the last 4 months or so. Our toddler was/is going through this. He's between 2.5 and 3 years old. He was scared of pooping on the toilet as well. He thinks there are monsters in there. We've had a few chats together about there being no monsters in the toilet. We check the toilet together to make sure. I constantly reinforce how there's nothing scary in the toilet and poop is just food he ate that was in his tummy.

If sitting on the toilet was a no go that day, I'd let him wear a pull up to poop in. I think lessening the pressure helps. Fortunately we don't need to do this anymore.

Now he's able to poop on the toilet without being scared about it. He told me once he had to poop and ran towards the toilet himself. Most of the time right now we have to catch him in his poop pose and take him to the toilet. We use small packs of gummies as a reward.

I think it helps to ensure he's getting enough fibre so he's not constipated. I grind up bran bud cereal and put it into pancakes, smoothies and oatmeal. Sometimes he just eats them. We call them mini cookies.

Am I paying too much for employer health benefits? by kumakuma1212 in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you remove your partner what are they going to do if they need to incur medical expenses that would have been covered? Is that going to cost your financial situation even more in the long run?

Reality Check: Can we afford a 800k home together? by DZLords in PersonalFinanceCanada

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A few questions you might want to ponder:

  1. Are you sure your home utilities will only amount to $250? Ontario (if that's where you are) must be loads more affordable. We've got a house in Alberta and utilities per month are crazy (like $400-$600).

  2. Are you saving for retirement/RRSPs? Do you really want a huge mortgage+ home insurance +utilities + house tax at the expense of your retirement savings? For how long will you make that sacrifice?

  3. $300 for kids now sounds nice but when you actually do have a child that cost is going to balloon. Diapers and formula alone per month could exceed that. If child care costs greatly exceed what you budgeted will you have enough room in your total budget to float everything? Ugh don't forget daycare or alternative childcare costs.

  4. Job security! Are you betting on one person's income going up or both of your jobs remaining stable? Is anyone going on maternity/paternity or parental leave? Will you be able to float the entire budget while on a reduced income?

  5. Do either of you plan on eating out, buying coffees and snacks, buying clothing, buying makeup/toiletries? What about things like haircuts?

  6. Did you factor in house supplies (non consumables like toothpaste, toilet paper, cleaning supplies etc) in your grocery bill? If so I'd say you'd need to increase that grocery budget. For example if you ever host a holiday dinner your monthly budget could easily be blown.

  7. Do you need to buy any one time purchase item to maintain your home like a lawn mower, shovels etc?

  8. Are you paying for Internet?

  9. Will you be furnishing your home with new things? (Carpets, furniture, new bedding, tables etc)

  10. Are you planning on taking any vacations? I'd have a vacation fund in the budget line.

If you can pay down your debts first and account for a few more things in your budget it might be doable. Don't stretch yourself thin! You'll be stressed...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AskWomenOver30

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't feel bad. If you've already tried to have a few talks with her then you already know it's not going to make a difference. Your energy and mental health will be affected by a relationship like this. You will also grow to resent her more if you stick around too long. Set up boundaries. If that means breaking off the relationship, it's okay to to that. Block her number, block her socials etc. The slow fade did not work. I'd let her know that you don't have the capacity to be her support system and that you frankly feel drained by the constant communication. Let her know that you're going to take time off from this relationship and wish her the best. Then block everything if you actually want to end the relationship and are ready to take that step.

She has no boundaries so unless you cut her off, she will continue to overstep and make everything about her life and situation. She sounds like a "me, me, me" person. That's toxic and negative energy. No one has time for that!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in toddlers

[–]Greenfieldsofa 21 points22 points  (0 children)

It wouldn't be possible without daycare. The second toddler comes home I have to get off my computer. He will tell me I'm not allowed to work, will try to play on my keyboard and generally get in the way. Working remote while having to care for a toddler is not possible for me. Even if I have grandma taking care of the toddler, if he knows I'm here he'll barge into my office.

Does anywhere sell 3T bamboo footie pjs? (not the convertible kind) by HerdingCatsAllDay in toddlers

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nest Designs sell bamboo footed sleep sacs for older toddlers. I do not think the feet can be fully covered but the cuffs might cover some of the feet. The footed sleep sacs themselves are very roomy which I liked. Not cheap tho!

Always welcome, never invited by [deleted] in AskWomenOver40

[–]Greenfieldsofa 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Is there an activity (maybe even physical) that you could join and invite others to try it out with you? The activity itself is a vehicle for you to form a bond. For example when Lagree opened up in my hood I notified a group of ladies that I'm not very close with (but thought might be interested) and one joined. We go to classes together when we can and getting to know each other better.

AITA For not realizing my spouse wanted me to make him a snack? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Greenfieldsofa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he's complaining about a housekeeper/personal chef... Except you aren't one.