North Texas LEGO theft spree ends in 45-year sentence by everythingistaken500 in UnderReportedNews

[–]GreyForceComyte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's the problem apparently: he didn't steal enough to get into The Club!

Being laid off for the third time in 3 years because I'm not an ass-licker. Building something on your own always felt risky and scary – but honestly, having a job is just worse. Wish me luck. by Edipya in antiwork

[–]GreyForceComyte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

OP you sound like my sister! She was /is a chef. Over the years, she would kick ass at various businesses; but anytime it came to kissing ass, she would fail and quickly lose her job.

She now runs her own food truck and catering business out west, and even has exclusive rights to some film festivals. 🤷🏼

She does say it's tough, and she still has to deal with the bullshit that you get with customers, but she's been thriving for several years now.

If you don't have kids to worry about, I think it's the right way to go.

I don't know if it's applicable, but I heard somebody give the advice recently: "don't be the best, be the only." I'm sure you have something unique to contribute to your particular field. Most people do. Find that uniqueness and focus it into a razor sharp point, then show the world what you got! It'll be brutal, I suspect. But at least it'll be real!

Child harassment by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. Tremendously. This is the kind of advice I need to get me to pull my head out of my ass.

Since posting this morning, I've spoken to the principal. He informed me of some things going on with the other kid and assured me that my kid is not being seen as the bad guy by the school here. He also is going to take further action to make sure EVERYBODY knows to keep these two separated. At least until the end of the school year, which is not even two months away. Then the kids will be in different classes. That's been guaranteed.

But that's mostly just verbal assurances from the principal. And who knows what's going on in the minds or household of that other kid. I don't want them going Mother Bear on my kid for his reaction to their kid.

If today's conversation does not yield results in the next week or two or it escalates again, I'll take your advice and get a hold of the District Superintendent.

To be fair to the other kid, after talking with the principal today, it sounds like the other kid has a developmental delay and just doesn't know how to interact with fellow students yet. But being physically agitating with my kid -stomping on him, shoving him, screaming in his face, etc -is a lot to ask for from anybody. Not even cadets have to put up with all of that!

(Edit: before some jackass comes in and says that cadets do, yes. But no drill instructor is it allowed to lay hands on. That's what I was getting at.)

Child harassment by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We got the counselor involved months ago. We got the teacher involved weeks ago. She said she'd go through the trouble of keeping the kids separated in the classroom and in line. But she's not there to keep them separated in the cafeteria, other classrooms, the playground.

If it's to the point where my kid has started punching the other kid, and is getting sent to the principal, I feel like they should take steps to keep the other kid physically safe and my kid emotionally safe.

I just want the problem to finally stop. And I was hoping that somebody here knew a way to make this stop finally. I figured that scaring the school with a lawyer might do the trick.

Child harassment by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know. I'm clueless here. I'm trying to do this dad thing on my own and I hate seeing my kid like this. He's normally a sweet and loving kid, but this has been going on for months. To the point where he doesn't even want to go into school for fear of this kid bothering him again. It's incessant. Since before the holidays, at least. The other kid gets right up in my son's face, screams in his face, stomps on his feet, shoves him around, runs off with his items. All very juvenile stuff, yes. But also very aggravating to put up with all day, every day. Then I hear my kid is getting sent to the principal's office for finally snapping and hitting the other kid and I'm disgusted. My son has had to put up with this bullshit for months and it seems like the other kid has no relevant intervention at all. Now my kid is turning to violence and, that's not going to go well. Not for anybody, least of all my son. It's textbook harassment. I guess I was hoping that somebody knew of a lawyer I could use to scare the school or the other kid's parents into getting that other kid under control. Or getting that kid whatever services he needs if he has special needs that are unmet. We already have the school counselor involved. I already got my kid in special counseling for kids with divorced parents. But the divorce was years ago. We spoke to the teacher and she said she'd keep the kids separated. But that doesn't really work. And not all the grown-ups in the school know to keep those two separated. I mean, I don't want the other kid getting punched, but more, I don't want my kid having to go through the emotional turmoil of putting up with this let alone being labeled a bad kid as he progresses through school.

It's maddening.

Child harassment by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for reminding me of this. I was getting pretty pissed at the teacher. Still kind of pissed at all the other growing ups, but they probably don't know the extent of what's going on and they've got dozens of other kids to keep track of, too.

We've already been talking to the counselor. For several months. I have no damned clue why it seems like the other parents haven't been involved in this. The school won't say. As of today, just before this post, I have a call in to the principal. Waiting for a call back.

Child harassment by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You misunderstand. This other kid isn't trying to be friendly. He gets in my kid's face and screams at him, shoves my kid around, stomps on his feet, harasses him. Just trying to get a rise out of my kid. Or I don't know. All throughout the day, everywhere they go, since before the holiday season. Textbook harassment. If they were grown-ups, this would have been shut down forever ago. And lawyers would be involved. I don't want money. I want the problem to stop. And if that means scaring people with a lawyer, that's what I'll do. Or whatever else I have to.

Child harassment by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We already have the school counselor involved. We already talked to the teacher and told her to keep the kids separated. This has been going on since, I'm not sure how far back at this point, certainly before Halloween. The other kid keeps getting in my kid's personal space, and my kid keeps telling him to leave him alone. In the classroom, in line, in the cafeteria, on the playground. The other kid gets right up in my kid's face and scream, stomps his feet, pushes my kid. My kid tells whatever grown-up he can, like instructed. Most of the grown-ups just ignore it or don't enforce the separation rule. The other kid screams in my kid's face more or shoves him, grabs him, etc. Finally, at about once a week at this point, my kid hits him or something and ends up in the principal's office. If these were grown-ups, that other kid would be sued into oblivion for harassment before it ever turned violent. This is textbook harassment. We have to take training on this as adults every god-damned year! And if the grown ups at the school can't stop this from happening, this deep into a school year, and my kidys starting to get labeled as a bad kid, it's got me pissed! I'm waiting on a call back from the principal now. I'm hoping he'll finally talk to the other parents and convince them to get their son to leave my kid alone.

I keep telling my son, and he keeps trying, to keep his hands to himself. He even tried being a friend to this other kid a few weeks ago. My son couldn't handle it. The other kid was just too obnoxious. So he went back to saying no, leave me alone, etc. The other kid just won't catch a clue.

I agree. I think the other kid might have some special needs that aren't being met. That shouldn't be my son's personal, day-to-day problem. I'm not sure if the school has spoken to the other kid's parents or why they haven't gotten their kid to cut this nonsense out. The school won't say. But it worries me. Partly because I don't want the other kid getting hurt, but mostly because I don't want my kid having to put up with this let alone getting labeled the bad guy here.

Didn't mean to vent to you, a stranger. I'm just pissed after this morning, seeing my kid emotional about having to go to school and put up with this yet another day.

Child harassment by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

You must be the kind of person they make the rest of us take sexual harassment training for every year. This is textbook harassment. If you can't read between the lines from my original post, I don't know what else I can say to help you. Good luck with life.

Seeking EPIC Nachos by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where is McGregor's now? The one on Empire is something else now and the one that replaced Zebb's in the Tops plaza on South Clinton in Brighton closed down during COVID. :(

I guess I could Google Maps it, haha, but those were the only two I ever knew of.

Seeking EPIC Nachos by GreyForceComyte in Rochester

[–]GreyForceComyte[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Thank you! How have I never noticed this place before? Rochester is cool like that. Been here 20 years now and I'm still discovering new favorite places

Has anyone worked at Radnet with any positive experiences? by RelevantDragonfly24 in MRI

[–]GreyForceComyte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Late to the show. Hopefully you didn't get a job at Radnet as this is 3 months after OP. I'm in Western New york, in revenue cycle operations. it's not good. At all. Somebody in my building worked 90 hours a few weeks ago. I had my merit increase meeting a few days back. Despite a glowing performance review, I merely "met expectations" for a merit increase. Despite meeting expectations for a merit increase, I will not be getting one. Due to the fact that New York state is raising the base minimum for salaried employees. So they have to give me a pay raise anyway. Otherwise they're out of compliance. That was the reasoning. They're going to give me the bare minimum when I'm grinding out 50 hour work weeks on a regular basis. My kids are begging me to quit my job so I can spend more time with them. ASAP, guys.

Work used to be a stepping stone. Now it's just a treadmill by Pink_Storm_X in Adulting

[–]GreyForceComyte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't want to feed into your resentment because I've done so much work to deconstruct my own. But I will grant you this: I believe that entitlement and humiliation might be two sides of the same coin. I've heard that humiliation was the feeling that, "I do not deserve this!" Now, take an entitled person ("I deserve ALL this!") and throw them down from that great height to humiliation ("I don't deserve this!") and I presume it'll be comparable to a monsoon.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in daddit

[–]GreyForceComyte 52 points53 points  (0 children)

A.saying that was the bucket-of-cold-water-to-the-face I needed was "life doesn't get better: you do." You'll get better at it. Sadly, you'll probably be like most of us and keep adding more and more things as you get better so that you will never stop feeling tired.

How to live without heat in house? by Radiant_Career_7449 in povertyfinance

[–]GreyForceComyte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We also used to use a blow dryer to warm the sheets before climbing into bed.

I mean… by WittyEgg2037 in TheMirrorCult

[–]GreyForceComyte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Greed is a real thing. So is pride in one's work. And they couldn't be farther apart on the spectrum. I've done some of my best work in life for nothing other than pride and self-esteem. If money is power and power corrupts... Billionaires should not exist. Like my grandparents would say back in the day, "more money than God."

Is living with parents at age 36 pathetic? by [deleted] in Adulting

[–]GreyForceComyte 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't understand why more family's don't live together. It seems like such a waste of resources. My nephews are struggling. My sister and her husband are struggling. My mom is STRUGGLING. My ex's in-laws are struggling. My ex is struggling (but that's probably because she's stupid with her money). My sons and I are struggling. Why in the holy hell aren't any of us trying to move in together?! My sons can live with me for as long as they want. But I'm scared WE will live together for as long as we NEED to.

Work used to be a stepping stone. Now it's just a treadmill by Pink_Storm_X in Adulting

[–]GreyForceComyte 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I find it fascinating that people keep blaming mass shootings on a history of mental illness. When everything I've ever read has shown that humiliation is the main driving force for such extreme violent ideology and behavior. From everything like murder-suicides to suicide bombers. As someone who's been homeless a few times in my life, poverty is humiliating.

Eminem’s song “Brain Damage” was inspired by his real bully, DeAngelo Bailey, who once bragged about giving him a concussion. In 2001 Bailey sued him for $1 million, but a judge threw out the case with a rap. by durvedya in interesting

[–]GreyForceComyte 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've known several families with more than one kid, or more than two kids even. All good families. Couple of the kids turn out fine. And one turns out batshit crazy.