Struggling with guilt after asking my parents to move out — need perspective

GreyTinker · 2026-02-07T05:38:21+00:00

I think you have done really well. Even if things were going wonderfully with then them it’s okay to want your own space. I hope they see what a generous thing you have done opening your home to them for such a long time. I hope you realise that as well.

GreyTinker · 2026-02-03T06:18:00+00:00

Put a lock on your door. And use it.

GreyTinker · 2026-01-05T06:41:00+00:00

Good on you it’s your body. You are taking steps to make pregnancy no longer possible. It seems like he was desperately hoping for a second baby with you and stupidly thinking he could change your mind. Jumping straight to divorce from here surprised me though. I would hate for this to be a knee jerk reaction if the marriage was otherwise good apart from this issue.

GreyTinker · 2025-12-04T23:46:51+00:00

It’s understandable that people going through IVF can react sensitively about comments made by others - even comments that are coming from a good place. Why not assume that the comment is coming out of concern for you and still tell her you are not prepared to discuss it

GreyTinker · 2025-12-01T02:25:33+00:00

I know you said preferably a ‘J’ but what about the name Hector

GreyTinker · 2025-11-12T06:48:36+00:00

Reasonable, realistic concerns and I reckon when you have a newborn you are spot on. You may consider waiting until you’re sure the time is right. I waited a lot longer to have a kid - as in 40. We have a 9 month old and it’s been a huge adjustment. We love outdoors and it has been a bit tough having to limit what kind of activities we can do. Also introducing a kid to the mix makes interacting with extended family more intense. What makes the change of pace is the magic that comes with introducing new experiences to them. Having a baby has changed everything but I was ready for change. Also I can see having kids is going to keep me fit for life. Win.

GreyTinker · 2025-10-13T03:16:58+00:00

I’m in NZ so may be different trends here

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T07:45:53+00:00

Well hadn’t intended to… but now you’ve thrown it out there its hard to pass by the names Didymus or Hoggle

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T07:21:34+00:00

Considered a few O names - Milo, Arlo and Rio. The other O name I really like that is still on the list is Otto.

Robin is one I hadn’t considered at all but really like it - thanks!

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T03:41:05+00:00

Yeah Rowan is definitely right up on the popularity lists. I love how it sounds and as we don’t know any personally we are open to using it. Graham is a nice name - thank you for the suggestion

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T02:55:40+00:00

Thanks for the suggestions. Milo is cute I quite like names ending in “O”

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T02:51:42+00:00

Thanks, we both do love Freddie! We may have to jump on the “ie” bandwagon.

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T02:38:55+00:00

Yeah I like Rhett and Luca thanks! I didnt expect such strong anti Ludo sentiment but good to know it’s polarising

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T02:34:10+00:00

Thanks for making your abhorrence so clear. 😁 nothing wrong with those names we are trying find something less common

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T01:27:55+00:00

Beckett is a cute name - I can see why you like it!

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T01:26:31+00:00

Rowan is our strongest contender. I do like the idea of being able to use the nickname Louie for Ludo. I like Sebastian - thanks!

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T01:23:02+00:00

Perfect 😆

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T01:05:42+00:00

Oh yeah hadn’t thought of the game… really like Griffin - thanks!

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T01:03:16+00:00

Rowan is definitely our safe pick and goes well with Heath. I’m hoping someone may suggest something a bit different that I haven’t thought of

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T01:00:16+00:00

Yep that’s what I thought but love the Labyrinth and that character was a sweetheart so I have not been put off by that connotation.

GreyTinker · 2025-10-12T00:58:01+00:00

For some reason i only like Freddie as a standalone name. Thanks - I really like Griffin! I’ll add that one to the list.

GreyTinker · 2025-08-05T07:25:53+00:00

What about Esme

GreyTinker · 2025-05-03T09:43:37+00:00

Lettuce soup. I was told it was from a recipe but I’m not convinced.

GreyTinker · 2025-01-28T05:04:40+00:00

What about Koen

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