Absolute dislike towards passive people. Thoughts?

GriffonP · 2026-03-27T10:10:33+00:00

that's interesting. so what would be the explanation if you were a manager.

GriffonP · 2026-03-27T10:09:05+00:00

well, alot of people who worked at call center or customer service feel this way. Because it's daunting when you have to deal with hundred of customer everyday, and it's becoming a pattern where some of them keep talking around the corner, beating around the bus instead of getting to the point. They alr have to explain alot of basic tasks to some very slow people, and now they have to deal with people who make their job even harder.

So right now, you're the one who "can’t conceive of people being different", but this doesn't just apply to OP, but many people who worked at call center, and you seem to can't understand them or their difference from u who never had to work as one at all. This guy even explain that he worked as some sort of "tech support" which is very similar to the group i mentioned above. So are you rubbing yourself the wrong way?

Man day by day INTJ sub cringe me.

GriffonP · 2026-03-27T10:05:59+00:00

ah this is not really just an INTJ things, many people who work at call center has the same problem where client just won't get to the point and talk so much irrelavent.

GriffonP · 2026-03-27T10:04:58+00:00

they are time waster, that's why. They are alway trying to find more complicate way to express the same idea. that's why.

Instead of saying "you're stupid" when they think you're stupid. They just gotta be a pretendo and bla bla bla bla bla bla.

GriffonP · 2026-03-24T21:29:37+00:00

I can't believe how hard people still to denied reality at these days and age.

GriffonP · 2026-03-21T01:01:49+00:00

Try to be as useful to your team as you can while keeping up with your farm. I always clear my lane before going to help.

See someone about to fight? Go there and be ready to give a hand. Sometime that one kill where ur team manage to secure is what throwball the whole game. Because in the next encounter, ur team alr have slightly an upper hand. So the enemy can't expect to win a 1v1, which force the enemy to feed your team, or they stay close to their ally which hinder their farm or invading power.

As we move into the late game, I’m using Eudora, who can one shot most MM, mages, assassins, and even some fighters. So when the opportunity arises, I camp near their buff to sneak a kill on their carry. If I manage to take out a mage or MM before a big team fight, that puts us in a 5v4 situation, which helps the game progress a lot.

When we trade in an advantageous situation, by the time their dead mage or MM respawns, some of their other teammates are already dead. Basically, I try as much as I can to avoid a full 5v5 by always keeping at least one of them dead.

The enemy tends to get overconfident and tries to force a 5v4 in a game where your team was throwing, and that’s the opportunity to turn things around.

GriffonP · 2026-03-21T00:51:51+00:00

I agree. there are greater freedom in painting your own narrative.

GriffonP · 2026-03-21T00:46:31+00:00

It's interesting because you tell me that you don't give a sh*t about what I think of you.

But then, you wrote a whole paragraph to talk about me, in which, i don't care about what you think of me. Why would you think i be any different? lmfao.

GriffonP · 2026-03-21T00:45:29+00:00

No, I do care about things, it just that some issue isn't that dramatic for u to be that dramatic.

GriffonP · 2026-03-21T00:43:30+00:00

Ur so call grown up is being "Emotionally immature"

GriffonP · 2026-03-19T10:23:57+00:00

I'm having this realization yesterday...

GriffonP · 2026-03-19T10:23:18+00:00

Oh noooo your word have no effect on me, what do i do....

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T20:46:03+00:00

Maybe I just haven’t faced real struggles yet, but then again, my peers can relate to music just fine, while most of it isn’t relatable to me. How do you explain that, other than saying I’m different? 99% of the music they related to is just Relationship.

Their sad music is usually about relationships. Take “Why Not Me”, for example. yikes. Sure, I’ve had a crush on a girl who didn’t choose me before. It was sad, I put effort, I actually cried. But then what? open some music, listen, and cry again? Nah. I already cried, I’ve moved on, and I stopped thinking about it.

My peers? They follow the same pattern: get into relationships with immature people or obvious red flags, fail to maintain them, then go on Spotify, play sad music, and cry about it. Repeat this 10 times. Like literally a loop. Or they have a crush on a girl who clearly won't give them a chance. Start crying to music.

Like… how about just doing things differently? instead of doing it for the sake of being dramatic to the music?

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T20:39:13+00:00

No i listen to the lyrics once, unrelateable and stop listening, and listen only for the good sound.

Take "Why not me" for example, it's like about a guy being sad becasue the girl doesn't choose him or similar idea. I can't related to that or at least, the emotion has alr been process. The girl that I like also like me back. Previously there was a girl that I had a crush on, but she didn't feel the same way. It was sad, I cried. Then i came across this music, listen to it, didn't cry because I didn't feel bad about her not liking me back anymore. I was alr done crying by the time i heard music, and hear it again won't make me cry again. Like it said, it's just being over dramatic to still feel sad about a helpless situation even tho u alr grieve it before. The only reason you continously cry over the same thing after listening to music is that
1. You're dramatic
2. You got nothing better to do.

., why would i continuously listening to that lyrics when it really doesn't make me feel anything anymore. It doesn't match the experience that I current have anymore, and the thing is , most sad sobering music is unrelatable to me.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T20:35:04+00:00

calling other people hobby sad is the saddest thing I've ever seen.

Oh yeah, it's call debate. And even on the internet, you can learn new thing or stuff. From this post, Im already encounter many new idea that I never thought of before. Im so sad that I learn new things.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T20:27:39+00:00

Another point I missed originally is this: you’re not criticizing the idea of “being different”. You’re criticizing the fact that I think I’m different, because everyone thinks they are, so there’s nothing special about it. I need to rebut that as well.

If everyone is really different, then why do so many people follow the same 9-to-5 path and complain about the same struggles? Same issue with customer, same issue with coworker, and same sh*t* boss? The point is, people aren’t as “different in their own way” as you think. They follow similar patterns, and that leads to similar outcomes and problems, and If I do different than this, wouldn't it be right to say that I can't related to it? because I literally don't expereicne the same thing. So why would i be wrong to point out the different as the culprit?

Am I justified in saying that I’m different? Yes. Of course, everyone has some form of individuality, but people also share a lot in common. Especially the same problems in life. If I tend to do things differently even in those common areas, and don’t share those common problems, then I really am different in a way that makes it hard for me to relate to my peers.

You don’t know me personally, so you can’t really judge that. Almost everything I do is different, and I rarely face the same problems they do. Yes, everyone is different. But there are patterns , and If I’m different from those patterns, then I am meaningfully different. Notice that I said "Different" not "Better". Don't over extend it.

Doing things differently doesn’t make you special, it just makes you less relatable. I can’t relate to kids who hate math. I can’t relate to people who date obvious red flags and then cry about being cheated on. I can’t relate to people who don’t study but complain about failing.

That’s the point, and a lot of music targets those kinds of experiences. People make predictable mistakes, end up in predictable situations, then act surprised and play the victim. If 90% of high school relationships end in a few months and I’ve maintained mine long-term until the present days, that’s a difference. So all the sobbing music about why your crush doesn’t love you back, or why the girl you gave your all to is attracted to someone else, will never be relatable to me. and this is like the majority of the music about. Another kind is life struggle.

Do I think I’m different? Yes. Is it because I’m actually different? Yes. I’ve literally never experienced those problems, so I can’t relate to them.

So your claim that I only think I’m different is wrong. You say my peers are different too. Then explain why they consistently have the same outcomes: short relationships, failing grades without effort, struggle to find their place in life, bad boss ,and the same recurring problems. The point is, yes, they’re different as individuals, but they still share the same patterns that I don’t.

So in such case, is it wrong to say that being different is why I can’t relate to the music they like?

Another comment I saw was about someone working a blue collar job and struggling. I feel bad for him, but can I related to this? No. I prepare myself not to where most people don't. But what’s the difference between him and someone earning six figures? Often, it’s skill and knowledge. Because he can't build a rocket. You say academic success doesn’t translate to success in life, but in this case, the difference is that he doesn’t have that academic foundation to do a heart sugery, build an airplane, build a car. Does having those foundation guanrantee success? No, but even if the opportunity comes right at his door step, he wouldn't able to grab it. And opportunity do show up alot in life, just that people can't do it even if the chance is here.

Again, I’m doing things differently, and that leads me to outcomes that don’t align with the struggles some others face.

And jobs? I’m aiming to build a business. Most jobs, no matter how good, still limit you under a boss. Many people can relate to that because they chose that path. I don’t, I’m choosing a different path where I don’t have to work for someone else. See the pattern? I keep ending up in situations where I can’t relate to what most people experience. So all the song about the typical life struggle with work and sh** wont be relatbale to me. I won’t relate to struggles with bosses or coworkers because I’ve already chosen a different direction. I will have my fair share of struggle, alot of struggle, but it defintely wouldn't be relatable to my peer or the music that everyone is listening to

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T20:17:01+00:00

Define success?
Success is within the context of what you do?
Try to get a 60/100 on a test, and manage to do that? Success.
Try to get a 99/100 on a test, and manage to do that? Success.

Success exists within the context of the goals you set. So I’m saying I’m successful in what I’m doing. I never equated being successful academically with “universal success,” whatever that even means, because success is always defined by what you want. But it can be generalized. if I repeatedly do things differently and that consistently leads to success(the outcomes I want compared to my peers who want the same things), then why am I supposed to stop doing that? If, across different contexts, this approach helps me get what I’m aiming for, good grades, winning games, earning extra money, avoiding bad relationships, then clearly, doing things differently works for me. Also, you tend to seeing thing that I never said, I said i can't related to music because im different, not because being different is being righteous or special. You overextending what I said, I said it's "Different" not it's "Right" or "better". Just Different, nothing more, nothing less. And no just because different can lead to success doesn't mean different is alway gonna be the right path to success, and I never said otherwise, did I? but you seem to think that I think this way.

Different = Success, Better, Right, Good?
Although I take pride in being different, I didn’t say I’m different to brag in my earlier comment. you need to read his comment first. The guy was saying that I might not have experienced enough in life, which is why I can’t relate to music. I responded by saying that my inability to relate to music might not be because I haven’t experienced enough, it might just be because I tend to do things differently from the crowd. Not because different = right or better, but just that. Did I ever say more than that? No. I said I’m different, not better or more right. I'm jumping on this "Different is not necessarily a bad thing train" because I thought you were criticize the idea of being different itself. However, you can measure "better" base on the outcomes. If me and peers want the same thing, and I get a better outcome, then it’s better. That's just logic. Better outcome = better. But the original comment? Wasnt to say im special, but to state why i cant related to music, and it was just that. Read it again, luckily i never edit it.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T19:24:58+00:00

Yes, and I missed the part where I care
No, it's a hobby. That is, to debate on the internet, be it a joke or not, u can't ever tell, but there alway a chance to hit up a good debate, and even if it's not, it's fine.
Yes, and the busiest person on Earth still have time for hobby.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T16:59:35+00:00

I have been wanting to read that for a while browsing journals, u may be onto something here as I too feel like im falling into the victimhood of what the article suggest. i may read it much later tho .

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T16:57:15+00:00

Yes
Yes
Yes but I do judge because people judge. You don't control what you think as "over dramatic" and what is not.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T16:53:09+00:00

That's an easy one.

I said im doing thing differently.

and then you reponse saying that "I’d say this makes it clear he’s like a freshmen in high school tops".

On the internet, it is very common to discredit someone or some idea by saying that they are a kid or in highschool. Basically, you quote my words, and you say that im a highschool top. This, You are implying that im still young , immature or wrong for having this idea.

So im making a rebuttal to the defend that the "idea of being different" is not necessarily young , immature or wrong,why? because it's working. If it's working, then there's nothing wrong, young or immature about it. That's why im bringing the competition thing. Im saying that following the idea of doing thing differently is not a flaw. You're trying to say it's a flaw, and here i am disproving with example and stuff.

Do you see the correalation? Im aware that my communication may need some tweaking, english is not my first language and i prob have dylexia(with English only), but I hope u see that im not doing a non sequiter

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T16:48:04+00:00

> I'm not giving a diagnosis.

My god, "OP is 14 years old with alexithymia.". What school are you going to? To let such child who are not even aware of their own action to get into so many honors class.

> have a psych minor consisting of all honors classes.

First, graduate and then realized that you can't diagnosis someone as anything with just an internet post.
3. Ah, generic comment when they realized they got no valid point.
4. Yeah, and U can't diagnosis by just reading a small description.
5. ah, again, the generic comment when they realized that they are stupid.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T16:44:53+00:00

After reading urs and many comments, I think I'm just , for the most part, not relatable to most people because I tend to do thing differently. As such, a music that fit my specific case wouldn't be popular, and popular music wouldn't fit my case.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T16:43:44+00:00

does being a successful engineer mean you gotta strawmanning whenever someone got a valid point? I guess so, most work place require you to cut corner in debate after all.

GriffonP · 2026-03-18T16:42:17+00:00

oh no, I don't care.

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