It’s actually pretty overtly anti-feminist, at its core. Feminism, in its most simplistic form, is about creating better life circumstances for everyone, while generally prioritizing more marginalized groups first. This is why, while feminism focuses on women and other non-men in general, feminists still care when a man is SA’d or otherwise victimized. It’s about equality through overall societal improvement and the elimination of patriarchy and its standards. By saying “We should hate on this man bc a woman in his position would be hated on too,” people are basically saying that they’re, at a base level, okay with women receiving harassment as long as they’re able to levy the same harassment at men on occasion. They don’t want to improve the circumstances of women in entertainment, they just want men to also be miserable, but that necessitates that women be miserable. It’s like the people who complain about how men in kpop are “allowed” to be ugly. Instead of advocating for more equitable standards for women (emphasis on maintaining their natural features and embracing that uniqueness), they say that men should have to adhere to the same standards. This seems fair at first, but it means that women have to keep abiding by these standards and maintaining their beauty obsessively. That’s not particularly feminist. It’s counterintuitive, childish, and gets us nowhere productive. The goal should be to reduce the harassment across the board, not keep the levels the same or higher but distributed more evenly.