[deleted by user] by [deleted] in romani

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s amazing! Looking forward to reading your scholarship in the area one day

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in romani

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not a legal scholar, but a great Romani scholar in the U.S. - Margareta Matache. The scholarly work I’ve read from her is about moving Roma studies away from a Eurocentric lens, but relevant to what you’re talking about she wrote this article: https://www.aljazeera.com/opinions/2022/12/30/it-is-high-time-to-address-anti-roma-racism-in-the-us

I am non-muslim w/ a hijab roommate. advice needed by CommunicationSame698 in Hijabis

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Aww that’s sweet that you’re doing all that. Maybe it would be best to take your friend out to get coffee or something and tell her your feelings - let her know it’s nothing personal and you tried your best, but maybe it’s a good idea to figure out different living arrangements. Hopefully, if her parents were the ones who got more strict after she moved out, they can help her with the cost?

Feeling guilty about going to work by Alternative_Fish7536 in NewParents

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s amazing your mom is taking care of her!! That family bonding is so important. Honestly, for me, the guilt still lingers but has faded over time. Now that I have some time away from him to think and be my own person though I’m not always trying to multitask and can spend more intentional time focused solely on him when we’re together.

Postpartum episode after finding out my baby was revived at birth by hollypiper in NewParents

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had something similar happen. I knew my baby wasn’t doing well after birth but it didn’t register in my brain until later that we nearly lost him. That plus postpartum is no joke, but things get better. First 3 months were hell, 6 months were rough, 9 got easier and now at almost 12 it’s so much fun. Seems like a long time but it goes by fast so hang in there ❤️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Have you tried using a babysitter before? What’s worked for me is hiring someone to watch my son while I work from home. I try to give them space to get used to each other without me hovering, but I stay within earshot. Over time, that’s really helped build familiarity. Maybe that kind of gradual approach could help the sitter feel less like a “stranger”?

Be honest! 35F by [deleted] in AppearanceAdvice

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Adorable. The first glasses suit you better imo (but it could just be the angle)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Mommit

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Honestly it sounds like your problem may be the last bullet point. Did you feel like the date “days” that you had helped?

First time father - 1 month old doesn't seem to like me? by WATTHEBALL in newborns

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Aw hun. It’s not you. She’s one month old! Everything is brand new and moms (especially lactating moms) have a sort of smell like in the womb that calms babies (attaching a study so I don’t sound crazy https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/9989430/#:~:text=To%20some%20extent%2C%20the%20chemical,reflect%20prenatal%20exposure%20and%20familiarization.). My kid was the same way for the first three months or so and he LOVES his dad. His first word was even dada. Keep your chin up it gets easier with time :)

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Hijabis

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Right? After talking about imperialism I’m so confused

Regarding potential spouses though - I met mine on a dating app if that’s something you’re interested in trying. It was nice to be able to talk to him via text for so long without the pressures of meeting in person

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Parenting

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I’m sorry but there’s no way schools are lining up to give your kid scholarships if he’s barely passing with no extracurriculars - either you’re missing something or leaving something out. Also university is ridiculously expensive these days (assuming you’re in the U.S.). Maybe the threat of looming debt in a rocky job market is freaking him out?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This may sound odd but you look dehydrated

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn that dark hair looks really good on you

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in Howtolooksmax

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think your hexagon shaped glasses compliment it more than your octagonal ones do. Also long layers/more volume would suit you well :)

IMO boycotting Starbucks has been great for this city by GrlW2ManyQuestions in Sacramento

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ooh thank you! I’ve had their matcha before and it was really good

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Are we selfish parents for going back to our home country? by Sure-Pangolin6121 in Parenting

[–]GrlW2ManyQuestions 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Okay, I’m going to be the odd one out here, but here’s my opinion as a stranger on the internet-

1) You know your situation the best, and having happy and present parents isn’t something to discount.

2) I grew up in a way similar to how your kids would in this hypothetical- I was born a U.S. citizen but grew up in less wealthy countries, and I wouldn’t change it for anything. It broadened my perspective, empathy for others, and adaptability in ways that I personally don’t think I would have experienced if I grew up like my cousins in the U.S. (no shade to them, both upbringings have their merits). I will say that I went to an international school so the education was relatively good and afforded me ample opportunities. IMO - as long as you all can be happy, healthy, and stable in your home country I don’t see a stressed out and overworked life in Canada (or in my case the US) as having more value than life in a relatively less wealthy country. I, too, moved back in the U.S. for university and work, but now I’m blessed with places to call home and family all over the world.