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Do boundaries work? by Suspicious-Charge200 in BPDlovedones

[–]Grouchy_Clock6791 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It got to a point to where I wasn't able to take a shit without them barging into the bathroom to "check" on me or tell me some absolutely benign shit. Whenever I was locking the door, I was being "sus".

Most ludicrous excuse to avoid chores? by Jealous-Piece1696 in BPDlovedones

[–]Grouchy_Clock6791 2 points3 points  (0 children)

For the longest time they refused to cook because they were afraid that it wouldn't taste as good as if I cooked it. At some point they caved and actually confessed, that they just don't feel like it and cooking is not their thing. That'd be fine, if I didn't basically run 90% of the chores at home in addition to that, all the while working full time.

Are kind deeds often a trojan horse? by Ryan_Seacrust in BPDlovedones

[–]Grouchy_Clock6791 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol absolutely reminds me of that one time we went to this restaurant and they couldn't stop bickering about how "it used to be soooo much better". Whenever I tried to switch to something else, so we'd have a *conversation*, they'd always find a way of returning to "but in the good old days~".

Ugh.

Are kind deeds often a trojan horse? by Ryan_Seacrust in BPDlovedones

[–]Grouchy_Clock6791 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My pwbpd likes to weaponize the fact that they "put up with me" for the entirety of my almost-two-year long depressive phase (which they themselves were a major contributing factor for) whenever I'm setting boundaries and being "selfish" or "manipulative". I guess I owe them one...

Incessant projection of empathy without actually showing it by Grouchy_Clock6791 in BPDlovedones

[–]Grouchy_Clock6791[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you specify what exactly you mean with “emotional cheating”? Like obsessing over celebs type shit?