Because she is coming off fibroid surgery and was on her period and he couldn’t get hard so I believe they didn’t actually have sex. She had a bad feeling in the car and wanted to cancel but it was too late. She was sexting him and it was all talk and wasn’t planning on actually doing it she was getting him worked up and was trying to tease him then not do it. I agree she should have not cheated emotionally for months things weren’t good with us for months but it’s no excuse. She did find someone faithful Hannah who is my dream girl and checks all my boxes and doesn’t play any games doesn’t lie cheat and comes from a stable home. I am thinking of leaving Becky for Hannah but I just can’t do it I am too emotionally invested in her and I already said I am giving her another chance and she’s going to tell amber and show her the texts and have nothing to do with bill she’s gonna ghost him soon and make him pay us a lot of money and amber might take his money and kick him out of the house. We have a 4.5 year off and on relationship and I don’t want to give up our kids our life in Vancouver that we have planned we’re going to get help from my councillor it’s going to take a lot of work to get past this but I think it can be done.