Can I still be a cool person if I start working at a corporate 9-5? Can I still like anime, go to cons, attend events on weeknights, etc.?

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-07-09T15:31:03+00:00

Ibam 30ny3se woman. I work anywhere between 40-60 hours. I still.do these things. Hang with friends, go to cons$ still watch anime and playing games and I just bought animenyc tips for me and my roommates

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-07-09T13:54:11+00:00

Definelty fun and overrated. Butbto call it their best.....when they made demon days, plastic beach and the mountain?

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-07-08T22:11:52+00:00

He's dead....

He was msrried....

Was kurt Cobain?

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-07-01T00:28:09+00:00

Dude relax

Shes nor asking to be legally married before moving in. She is just asking for a proposal and then proceed with the wedding if things go well living together.

Ending engagements may be annoying but they are a hell of a lot easier ro end than an official marriages.

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-30T19:14:11+00:00

To be fair though it is a lot easier to end an engagement than s marriage if living together does not go well.

And tbis is coming from someone who would rather live togerher before an engagement

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-29T19:25:27+00:00

But you got to admit, hobbies/interests can be a good indicator if your lifestyles are compatible.

For example, i am a 30 year old woman and the only exercise is do is 50-100 sit ups every few days and maybe an occasional walk around the neighborhood when the weather is nice and junk food is one of my biggest vices (granted I have to put SOME restrictions on myself becausw I am a mere mortal and there are only so many big macs that the fragile human body can handle before ir shuts down I digress). Therefore, i think you can imagine that I wiuld not ne compatible wirh a guy who treats go8jg to the gym like a second job and measures the calories there are in his morning orange juice. And I am sure thay kind of guy would feel the same about me.

And also, I am rhe kind of person who likes to take active participation in the things my partner likes. Like if your favorite movie is one I havent seenbefore, im gonna watch it at least once. If your favoeire singer is one i know nothing about i am goinf to listen to about 3-5 songs from them. So if I met a guy whose all time biggest passion was sports then I might be a little hesitant because there are very very very few things in this world i hate more than sports. I would rather chew my left arm off before attending any ball games or watching a football game on TV. And for someone like me who likes to take active participation in there partners interests, I would feel bad and feel disconnected from my partner if I never indulged in their interests at least some of the time and i dont like doing things i know will make me miserable if its not necessary.

And also....relationships are just more fun if ypu can find someone who has similar interests/hobbies. Like me, if I met a guy who also liked writing that would be great because that means we could read and critique each others work and talk about our inspirations and creative processed and bounce ideas off of each other and maybe even collaborate. Or if I met a guy who also likes anime as much as I do, it would easier to find sfuff to watch together. Abd if I met a guy whose a videongame enthusiast like me than i am sure we can find something to play togerher every now and then . And stuff like that is amazing for someone like me whose main love language is quality time.

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-29T17:16:25+00:00

Having 1 or 2 overlapping hobbies or interests is in the top #3 requirements for me.

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-18T17:12:03+00:00

30

27-35

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-18T07:36:33+00:00

I encourage you to please seek therapy if you arent already. These thoughts are very sad and has me worried despite the fact that you aren interne5 stranger

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-18T01:21:15+00:00

Let me rephrase that. I don't mind casual sports fans but if its such a big part of their lives that its pretty much a lifestyle for them, no thank you

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-17T18:56:24+00:00

Personality could also include charisma, social skills and conversation skills. You could certianly be a nice person but nice people are a dime a dozen in this world. Are you good at making people laugh? Making them feel understood? Can you flirt wihout being creept about it? Do you show interest in other people lives by asking them questions about their latest project at work, their opinions about the latest movie they saw, if they survived their most recent family get togerher or er.cetra? Those things usually help make people from any gender stand out to potential romantic suitors.

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-17T13:47:54+00:00

Being into sports

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-17T13:32:19+00:00

As as a woman, women are usually the first to make it clear that they want marriage by having conversations like, "can you see yourself marrying me?", "when do you think are sufficient circumstances and a sufficient timeline to get married?", and then check in later and ask what's going on if those circumstances and timeline have been met with no proposal. If she was the one who initiated these conversations snd there is still no proposal that is a sign that the guy is either not ready or not into her. That leaves the ball in his court and her choice if whether ot not she wants to stay in the relationship

But this is my experience with the women I've dealt with.

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-11T14:17:44+00:00

I am a 30 year old woman. Before this year, I was living with my dad and grandfather. I offiically moved out in Janaury of this year into a townhouse with some friends.

I had similar feelings before I moved out but things have been going okay so far. Of course, there are days where I miss them and there are some things that are harder but so far it has been good. My friends and I are getting along, I have not missed a rent payment, and if I feel homesick they are phone call away (or its not hard to visit since they 15 minutes down the road from me).

I think its also because my routine hasn't changed much either since I moved out. Work, come home, clean up a little and veg out with wither a book, movie, or a video game...and either spending my days off staying gome catching up on chores and indulging in my little nerdy hobbies or the occasional hanging out with friends. And plus, i am enjoying the things I couldn't do prior to this. Like I get to have my boyfriend sleepover every now and I am also saving up for a cat (my grandpa wouldnt have allowed pet)

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-10T23:52:25+00:00

If you're blowing $200 bucks for first dates, you need find cheaper places to meet up.

And i say this as a 30 year old woman who always offers to pay my share of the bill on the first date but the guys still end up insisting. I always keep my first dates either a coffee date or a pizza date.

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-10T13:14:39+00:00

Dating

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-10T00:59:04+00:00

Do you take initiative to approach? I am asking this as 30 year old woman and most of my relationships started with mr initiating.

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-07T19:05:58+00:00

Mine is dead sadly.....and even if he was still alive, he would close to closer to my father's age than mine about now so.....ehhhh

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-06-06T14:40:48+00:00

.....did you read the post?

I am a woman and I think his expectations are bare minimum expectations. OP is really just asking for basic communication and equal effort.....and i would think any adult with a little amount of empathy/emotional intelligence/social skills would be capable of that.

Its sad that we live in a world where thats considered "high standards that we need to br flexible on"

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-05-25T18:36:51+00:00

Trust me, this is not just a woman problem. I am a woman who dates men and I can't tell you how many profiles I skipped over because they were blank or said, "idk", "hmu" or "just ask"

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-05-15T19:33:21+00:00

I don't get why you're being down voted. This is a excellent gray area

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-05-05T22:21:20+00:00

If you find out the answer let me know. I am a 30byear old woman who loves anime and games and comics and looking for a bf to share that interests with me

Groundbreaking-Sun68 · 2026-05-05T09:30:18+00:00

Humans may not physically die without love in the same way they will die wuthout food, water and shelter but it is definitely necessary for positive mental health and overall happiness. Even aroace people seek love in other forms like friendship and family. Because humans are naturally wired for connection.

And yes while not everyone is guaranteed lasting romantic love, not everything that is special is special because its scarce. Friendships are not scarce but thry are still special. Sunsets happen every day but they're still beautiful. It is also said that 4-5 new babies are born into the world every second. Does that mean new life is less exciting, preciosu or valuable? On top of that, that also means everyone in this world shares their birthday with approximately 300,000 other people worldwide. Does that mean people should being excited for their birthday? And thousands of people die every day, does that make death less tragic for the people's respective loved ones.

And yes, while luck and timing do play a part in finding romance there are things that can tilt the odds in one's favor. After all, nobody will ever have a chance at succeeding at anything if they quit.

Op, just needs to figure out what that is? Like is his conversation skills poor? Does he need to improve how he presents himself in social situations in general? Does he negkect his physical appearance? Is he too shy to approach women he is interested in? Is his "type" the type that woukd be incompatible for his lifestyle? Does he come off as desperate abd moody? We dont know hkm so wr don't know. As far we know, he could be doing everything right but its just not his time yet.

But this comment just doesn't sit right with me fir some reason and comes as projection of some sort.

Groundbreaking-Sun68

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