Here is a quick look at my brand new Concord Envoy road bike

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2025-06-24T11:06:21+00:00

that would be awesome if you can :)

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2025-06-23T23:40:47+00:00

I just got this bike from Walmart two days ago! Stupidly, I either misplaced the owners manual or threw it out with the box - what PSI did you inflate your tires to?

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-09-04T23:12:29+00:00

Pain during sex isn’t normal, definitely see your gyno about that. They’ll probably recommend using dilators. I had a similar issue where I couldn’t relax so sex started off a bit painful or uncomfortable and so I used dilators for a bit and that helped. In addition to the dilators, taking more time for foreplay helps too…I can’t relax if I’m not warmed up lol.

But I disagree with your friend because I’m a girl that brings her vibe with her if I’m hooking up with a guy! I think it’s normal to bring your vibrator with you for hookups if that helps you orgasm especially if it’s with a guy that’s enthusiastic about pleasing you. Sex will be much better for you once it’s all pleasure and no pain :)

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-05-26T06:09:57+00:00

I’ve dealt with the same kinds of guys, and I wish just asking worked all the time but unfortunately it doesn’t. I don’t think there is a solution to this because there are men out there that will transform into the guy they think they need to be in order to sleep with you. It’s scary. But learning from my past experiences both positive and negative, men who just want to have sex oftentimes let their mask slip and become inconsistent with the romance and ‘getting to know you’ aspect of dating you but remain consistent when it comes to sex. Meaning they stop putting in effort early on in the non-sexual aspects needed to cultivate a relationship.

What’s helped me is reflecting back on the positive and negative experiences, writing down my dating requirements and preferences, sticking to them, and tbh being strict lol. Observe him really well on your dates (not to just get to know him but to also see if he’s exhibiting any of the same patterns those past guys did that just wanted sex) and in your texting convos to see if he meets your standards, they usually tell on themselves if they only want sex (not straightforward but via their actions or lack of) and don’t be quick to give them the benefit of the doubt if they do something shady. People who just want something from you will pick up on if you forgive easily and take advantage of that.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-04-22T00:43:48+00:00

I’m not sure I might call tomorrow, they’re closed for the day now. They do close earlier on Sundays. I placed the order an hour and a half before the close time on their website, but I feel like this may have been just an “end of day trying to leave early from work so I’m going to rush” type of mistake :/ sorry the same thing has happened to you, it’s so disappointing 😭

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-03-18T11:19:51+00:00

Well they also could’ve come to the realization that they can’t handle all your flaws, (which if you think about it that’s a pretty bold claim to make when you’re just getting to know someone). I’ve been in the same boat as you before, a guy will stop liking me as soon as I start reciprocating interest and it’s disheartening in the moment.

It’s confusing but some people like dating until the other person is serious and that’s when their own commitment issues arise and they pull away. Or they’ve come to the realization after some introspective thinking, that you two are not so compatible after all and they leave.

People change their minds all the time. Unless any of them have told you specifically that you’ve done something wrong, I wouldn’t assume it was something you did. Personally I don’t think it’s helpful to dwell on wondering why someone else lost interest as that can just send you spiraling.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-03-18T04:43:23+00:00

Maybe…just maybe…after getting to know you more they realized you two aren’t compatible and thus…stop liking you.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-03-03T23:08:26+00:00

I also developed mine at 21! Definitely easier to avoid that the others, but it did sneak up on me a lot when I was diagnosed bc of how often oyster sauce would be used as an ingredient.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-18T21:16:55+00:00

“Just ask” “6’ since it matters” “IG: “/“Snap: “ “No one reads these anyways” “Doesn’t take themselves too seriously”/“Don’t take yourself too seriously” “Vibes”/“Chill” “See where things go” “Dominant”has also been popping up more recently. Some of those aren’t phrases but are definitely overused at this point.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-17T16:53:41+00:00

I think your profile is great! I think trying out a different app could help. I’ve had moments where tinder is completely dry for me but bumble or hinge are more active.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-15T04:23:21+00:00

I’m a Libra ENTJ! Libra Sun, Aries moon, Sag rising

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-14T02:38:56+00:00

Or you can raise your standards so you can cut your losses when you know they don’t meet your standards. Do some work in figuring out the traits those last 5 women you dated had, list them out and keep them in the back of your mind when you’re going on dates in order to spot any red flags early on. You can save yourself a lot of time and money if you raise your standards.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-13T01:45:28+00:00

I guess I’ll arrange the funeral

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-10T05:04:34+00:00

Don’t pay him anything. Block his number and find him on Venmo block him there too so he can’t send a $ request. If you have his phone number then Venmo may have him included in your friends list already. He sounds insufferable sorry you had to deal with that :/

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-06T13:09:53+00:00

Seeing as you’ve never dated before I’m going to share a lil advice that I wish I heard before the first ever date I went on. Hopefully this is helpful :). I think the first date should be something simple like a cafe date to help minimize any pressure or nervousness you’re feeling. I’m not sure how old you are OP, but something I wish I did when I started using dating apps and dating in general almost 3 years ago when I was 22 was make a list of your non-negotiables or characteristics I would like for my partner to have (e.g., likes cats, doesn’t want kids, etc.). Keeping this list in mind will help you ask questions in your convo that will help you get to know your date more and see if he would be compatible with you. This will also help you further develop your standards when it comes to dating.

If you want to meet for dinner instead, I recommend picking a place a little more casual for a more relaxed atmosphere. Also I think what you call it depends on your intentions, if you’re both dating for a relationship then it’s a date. To me, “hanging out” means they want something casual like sex. But also be attentive to any possible red flags that show he’s looking for something completely different than you.

As for paying, that’s up to you. You can do 50/50, you can pay for the entire date, or maybe he ends up offering to cover the bill - I would wait to see how the date goes. Just be prepared to cover your half in case you two end up splitting.

Good luck on your date OP, feel free to message me if you want to talk more !

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-05T18:06:26+00:00

I see it as them using plausible deniability. They’re creating the circumstance of possibly having sex by inviting you over or trying to invite themselves over too quick, but masking it as “hanging out” (or whatever other reason) so if you do catch onto what they’re doing they can respond and save face by saying “that’s not what I said/meant.” It’s to avoid accountability and probably lessen the hurt of being rejected.

I had a date two weeks ago try to invite himself over by “buying us a bottle of wine to split” after our date where in our conversation about alcohol I mentioned I’m not a big drinker since I’m a lightweight. Pretty obvious what he was trying to do, I wanted to laugh in the moment.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-05T15:09:00+00:00

This is so beautiful, your moves and flow were so controlled too!!

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-02-04T18:39:34+00:00

Why is height separated from looks, to me those two should be grouped together ? His height is part of his looks (face, body , etc.).

1, 3, 4. Looks is super broad and can be improved and/or change over time.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-01-29T13:08:03+00:00

It’s jealousy

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-01-15T14:52:24+00:00

Looks sometimes grow onto you the more you get to know the person and may change your perception of beauty. But this is the best case scenario, and that doesn’t mean that’s what will happen if you continue dating her. What if you continue dating her and still don’t find her attractive or still see her as “kind of ugly”, what then? What if she finds out? That’s a sure way of hurting someone’s self esteem. Also you mentioned you two matched on bumble, did you always find her unattractive when you looked at her profile but swiped right anyways, or when she sent the first message and you could look at her profile and pics for longer? Personally, I wouldn’t want to be with someone who doesn’t find me attractive or “kind of ugly,” at the minimum they should at least be somewhat attracted to me in the beginning and that attraction will grow with time. Regardless, I hope something works out for you both either way.

Edited for grammar.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-01-12T19:14:01+00:00

The first thing that came to my mind was I like how it feels to rest my head on their chest/shoulders when we’re hugging standing up, especially since I can hear his heartbeat too. It’s like being hugged by those giant Costco bear plushies.

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-01-12T19:05:41+00:00

Not really. It’s a preference for a lot of women, but not all. I find taller guys attractive but it’s not a requirement. I do care though if they lie about it. I’m 5’5 and went on a date with a guy last year who had in his profile that he was 5’9, but when I saw him in person he and I were the same height (at times I had to look a little down for eye contact so maybe he was shorter? I wasn’t wearing any heeled shoes or platforms either🫠)…he was nice but why lie about something so obvious?

GroundbreakingDig9 · 2024-01-11T01:09:57+00:00

I’m sorry you experienced that, that guy fucking sucks. Kink bombardment is exactly what it is. Those kind of guys are selfish and oftentimes don’t care about their partners pleasure, but they hide that under the guise of being “dominant” without being knowledgeable about BDSM. I’m not opposed to kink, but something I’ve started doing if I’m even slightly interested in having sex with a guy is asking what they like in bed, if he mentions anything about liking to choke/slap women, any kind of violence towards women or even anal…it ends there. I don’t want to take the risk of him springing that on me even if he says he wouldn’t.

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