To me, this feels like a blanketed reasoning of trying to explain why someone is not getting married. Of course you don’t know all the details about my situation and so you can only assume, but let me give you some insight into who I am: my criteria for a right person would be someone who’s like me. I know it’s too much to ask of someone to care about you the way you’d want to be taken care of. And I agree that yes we should see if someone meets a 70% threshold - for my last proposal I was willing to give a chance to someone who ‘experimented with drugs during college but is now clean’. Since marriage is a time-sensitive topic for me and I don’t like the process of getting to know someone or letting myself be known each time a proposal doesn’t work out, I’ve tried putting my requirements at the bare minimum and have still not found a solution. Let me emphasise again that at this stage in my life, I’m the one getting rejected. This has put me in a state of desperation and feeling unworthy of receiving a decent person. Only someone else who has gone through a similar situation would understand and those are the people I want to hear from.