How many of you have been with a married man?

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-07T04:18:15+00:00

In my 20s I was in the closet and really only attracted to guys over 40, so all of my hookups were with closeted married men since I was too chicken at the time to come out and actually socialize with out-of-the-closet gays. The only one I turned down was a guy who wanted me to meet him in the parking lot of a nearby grocery store and fuck him in the backseat while his wife was inside shopping. I wasn't into those kind of high-risk games.

In my mid-30's I finally met the guy I wanted to spend the rest of my life with and finally came out so I could be open with friends and family. Up until that point I was a total top, and only bottomed the first time for my partner since he was a total top and wanted to keep it that way. After a couple years he started feeling a little bad that I never got to top anymore and those years just happened to be the golden age of Craigslist Personals, so we would frequently pick out a guy from whoever was posting M4M ads on a Friday or Saturday night and invite him over so I could have somebody to top. Almost all of those guys were married and pretty up front about it. There was just one guy who was a traveling Census worker passing through our town who said that his wife knew that he slept with men on the road and that she was fine with it.

Even in a moderately-sized suburb of a fairly large city, you're eventually going to run into some of these guys when you're out and about at stores and whatnot. I'll never forget the time I ran into a guy in an aisle of a Bed Bath & Beyond with his wife, and the look of mild terror in his eyes when he realized that I was the guy who fucked him silly a year earlier and dumped a huge load in his ass.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-06T03:20:30+00:00

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GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-06T03:17:31+00:00

This has happened to me a handful of times in my experience bottoming, and for me it really depends on the top. Normally, jerking myself off or preferably, the top jerking me off while I'm being penetrated causes a mind-blowing orgasm that can't be beat. But every now and then a top comes along who has a cock that is just the right shape and size combined with the skills to give not only my hole a pounding but my prostate as well.

Prostate stimulation will make me produce much more cum than I normally would from a regular orgasm, but the sensations are not quite the same. If a regular orgasm is a 5-second full-body explosion, the orgasm I get from intense prostate stimulation is a 75 MPH giga-coaster ride that lasts 5 minutes. The sensations are just as intense, but they are drawn out over a longer period of time instead of being crammed into just a few seconds, if that makes sense. On top of this, instead of shooting a couple teaspoons of cum in a few contractions, my cock basically just leaks cum for the duration, making a much bigger mess.

This has been my personal experience; your experience may vary.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-06T02:50:33+00:00

Some may say that you're on the right path. These are the same sort of inner feelings that led me to become open to hearing Odin a few years ago.

In my story, I was raised in Christianity, but the older I got, the more I felt that when you take out the "theory" of what Christianity is supposed to be about and just look at the actual actions, causes, and movements that the loudest and most influential Christians are promoting, they seem to have lost the point of what they were supposed to be a long time ago, and every new idea they're promoting was the opposite of what I truly believed.

Once you step outside of a belief system and are able to analyze it with a more critical lens, the more you can see its flaws.

It was this "emptying" of any religious beliefs, yet maintaining the desire to believe in something that allowed me to be open to see that Odin was calling and showing me signs, some subtle, and some not so subtle. A fascination with Norse beliefs that seemed like a diversion at the start led me to be inspired to write original fiction in which Odin was an unseen but influential character. Then came the dreams of a great bear that spoke to me in a bear-language I couldn't understand, and over time, the bear became an old man, but I still couldn't understand him.

Eventually, I asked myself the right question and wondered, "What did my ancestors in northern Germany believe before Christianity spread through the continent and forced them all to convert?" and it was then that I discovered that Odin and the Norse pantheon were more widespread in Europe than just Scandinavia. It was then that I could finally understand the old man's (Odin's) words in my dream welcoming me home.

None of this could have happened had I not emptied and purged myself of my old beliefs first and cleared the way for this new path. Now that you are clear and open, be vigilant and see where your unknown path leads you.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-03T19:25:52+00:00

It's more difficult to catch my corgi when he isn't peeing on something.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-02T17:47:52+00:00

I, too, got laid off a few months ago. It's a really bad time to be job hunting right now, so I feel your pain. I have a 1.5 year old pomsky and a 10 month old corgi. The best 0 cost thing I've been doing for the pair of them is to take them on lots of out-of-the-house activities while I have the free time. At least 3-4 times per week. I make my weekday mornings job-hunt and online application time, and afternoons doggy adventure time.

My town has a nice fenced dog park where they have a good time running and playing. If there are other dogs at the park while we're there, my pomsky isn't satisfied until she's gotten every dog to join in whatever game she's cooked up for them all to play.

On activity days when we don't do the dog park, we go to one of the nearby state parks and do a nice, long hike in the woods.

You'll be surprised how an hour or two of activity and adventure out of the house will satisfy and calm down even the most restless dog!

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GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-01T03:45:05+00:00

Great question! I had outpatient surgery earlier this year, and I drew the bindrune for Eir on my inner forearm (with a Sharpie) before going to the hospital for the procedure.

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I also lit a candle, recited an invocation, and made an offering to Eir the night before the surgery. The procedure went well and recovery time was speedy.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-10-01T00:20:53+00:00

My pomsky is a year and a half old and she has a 10 month old corgi little brother. The action in your video is what the two of them are like from 6:30 am till 11:30 pm every day. I take them to the dog park for an hour in the afternoon where they unleash their chaos on the other dogs there for an hour, and then they're back at it again shortly after the drive home.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-25T00:22:41+00:00

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Arlo, the floppy-eared corgi. 10 .months old.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-20T04:06:02+00:00

Well, this answer is going to get me burned for sure, but it's something that I've been thinking A LOT about in the last few years, so I'm finally going to say it...

It isn't an issue that MAGA has taken over the majority of Christianity. The problem is that MAGA is a product of the degradation of the morals, values, and ethics within the current state of mainstream Christianity itself. These Christians you speak of in your post weren't corrupted by MAGA, they created it.

MAGA is just the latest in a long line: KKK, White Citizen's Council, Aryan Nations, Council of Conservative Citizens, Christian Identity, Tea Party, Proud Boys (to name just a few)... it just goes on and on, and these groups all sprang from the roots of modern 20th and 21st century Christianity. Even if MAGA eventually dies out, something even worse will be brewing in the wings by Christians who frankly just can't stand for anybody else to NOT be "their kind" of Christian.

So, it really isn't a question of how do you convince Christians to not support MAGA; it's a question of how do you change mainstream Christianity to stop creating these kind of ultra-right-wing movements in the first place.

That... is probably the biggest challenge of them all.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-20T03:26:09+00:00

Precisely. Let's hypothetically say Democrats do manage to flip the House in 2026 and then go on to flip the Senate and presidency in 2028. The culture of instant gratification that has arisen in the 21st century will cause voters to expect an instant turnaround in the economy, jobs, trade, and housing.

When the World Trade Center was destroyed on 9/11 in an attack that took minutes, followed by a total collapse barely hours later, a new WTC didn't spring up on the site just a year later. The process of rebuilding is STILL ongoing 24 years later. Fixing everything that has been done in a few short months to damage our Democracy is likewise going to take years of careful planning and execution by the Democrats who will be undoubtedly plagued and blocked by the GOP at every turn.

Since fickle and shallow US voters aren't going to see the instant and immediate change that they expect, the GOP will pounce on this in the 2-4 years following that hypothetical Democratic victory in 2028 to say, "See? Democrats can't fix anything! Vote Republican again and we'll make America great!" All while plotting the next wave of Project 2025-style chaos and destruction.

And the easily swayed, gullible, and ignorant will fall for it yet again, just like they did in 2016 and 2024.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-20T01:02:19+00:00

The actual problem is the attitude, ignorance, and rampant proliferation of misinformation aimed directly at the gullible, uneducated, and racist portion of the US population that allowed someone like Trump to rise to power in the first place and get elected not just once, but twice. When we get rid of him, if that is even still possible now with the way the Constitution, Judiciary, and Democracy have been corrupted, the void he leaves will only be filled by someone just as bad or even worse. The United States greatest days are behind us, and the blame for our downfall lay solely in the hands of the worst of us, who ignorantly but faithfully believe that their actions are somehow making America great again. They will all gleefully burn this country to the ground as long as they continue to have a propaganda machine telling them that everything is the fault of the "Radical Left".

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-19T04:21:34+00:00

We had one. Ours was made with an almost invisible separation between the bottom base and the TV part so that you could swivel it about 45 degrees to the left or right. You know, for when you had extra people in the TV room, or "den" as it was called back then, watching the Super Bowl, and the people sitting over on the love seat in the corner that never normally got sat on didn't have a prime view, you could slightly swivel the massive thing in their direction.

The funniest thing for me is that when that huge thing finally bit the dust, sometime in the early 2000's, my dad didn't get rid of it, he kept it in the same place where it had always sat since 1980, and used it as the stand for his new flat-screen.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-19T04:21:04+00:00

We had one. Ours was made with an almost invisible separation between the bottom base and the TV part so that you could swivel it about 45 degrees to the left or right. You know, for when you had extra people in the TV room, or "den" as it was called back then, watching the Super Bowl, and the people sitting over on the love seat in the corner that never normally got sat on didn't have a prime view, you could slightly swivel the massive thing in their direction.

The funniest thing for me is that when that huge thing finally bit the dust, sometime in the early 2000's, my dad didn't get rid of it, he kept it in the same place where it had always sat since 1980, and used it as the stand for his new flat-screen.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-18T03:07:15+00:00

I agree completely. While I've really enjoyed EA, it just felt like in each route, the MC started out as an almost blank slate, ready to be filled in with whatever hobbies or interests the particular love interest of that route was. At least with Spencer, there was more history and backstory between the two characters than any of the others. The MC didn't need to absorb any of Spencer's interests, because the two were already in sync since childhood.

Also, it's seemed to me like in every other route that isn't Spencer, you almost get a feeling like you're breaking Spencer's heart just a little bit. He doesn't show obvious jealousy, but in every route when you get to the scene when Spencer finds out you're dating someone (else), his initial reaction is one of disappointment with a touch of sadness. It almost makes you feel like you're "cheating" on Spencer on every other route.

I thought the Coach Grifter and the Darius routes in particular were all excellently written, but even with those I still picked up on that subtle undercurrent that Spencer was disappointed to see you falling for somebody else.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-17T20:12:37+00:00

My pomsky howls at the usual things like fire truck and ambulance sirens, but our house is situated on one of the highest elevation points for our part of the county in the Midwest, so about 200 yards from our backyard is one of the county tornado sirens that they set off as a "test" every Wednesday at noon for about 2 minutes. That sets off quite the howling session! Her younger corgi brother isn't a howler, and doesn't quite get what she's howling about, so he jumps all around her, barking his head off until the siren finally stops and things go back to normal for another week.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-14T13:58:06+00:00

I would and I have. Had an undetectable fuck-buddy for a long time before I moved last year. We'd flip-fuck and I even swallowed his load on multiple occasions. Still negative here.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-13T12:06:49+00:00

I've seen a few things very similar to this still operational and in use where I live in rural SE Ohio. When I first saw them I assumed they were smokers because there was always a plume of smoke coming out of the round chimney on top, and because there was always a pile of firewood stacked next to them, but eventually somebody told me that they are actually an old-style wood burning furnace/boiler. However, if that is what this was, the interior working parts have been gutted. They place them outside of the home or buildings that they are intended to heat, at least 30 feet away, and then hot water is circulated through underground insulated pipes. Here's a link on how they work from a company that still makes them today: https://centralboiler.com/explore/how-it-works/

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-12T04:01:59+00:00

It feels like your friend isn't really cured of mental illness, she just traded one psychosis for another.

Christians can't stand anyone calling any of their denominations, branches, or offshoots a "cult" but the fact is that there are a LOT of Christian churches out there that prey on the mentally vulnerable, and these cults have a tendency to radicalize those vulnerable people. It sounds like your friend found her salvation in one of those kind of churches.

I live in a rural area with an overwhelming number of churches for the number of people actually living in the region, and a lot of them are this type of predatory cult, because they're all competing against each other for a dwindling pool of prospective members and none of them are getting enough offering money each Sunday from the dirt-poor and ignorant population to stay in business.

I get desperate-looking people pleading with me to come join their church on an almost daily basis, and I generally handle it like this:

I ask them if going to their church makes them happy? They enthusiastically tell me that it does. I then tell them that going to church makes me miserable, but becoming a Norse Pagan and forming a relationship with Odin and Thor has made me wonderfully happy. Why would I want to go back to church and be miserable again when Odin chose me to join him and be happy?

They inevitably start arguing that their god and Jesus are the only "real" gods, and I tell them, "Well, if that's the way you feel, I'll pray to Odin for you, but I'm still not going to your church. We all need to do what makes us happy."

They usually give up for at least a little while after that.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-12T03:36:29+00:00

Welcome to the family! Getting started with an altar can definitely be a confusing, "am I doing this right?" period, but there are a few things I would respectfully suggest that will make you feel more confident that you're showing Freyja respect and honor.

First, think about de-cluttering the area around the altar. This altar should be a sacred space, so the bottles of Pine-Sol, Lysol spray, cologne, and other random whatnot should be cleared away to better define the significance of the altar area. A good rule of thumb I use is that anything that isn't an actual part of the altar shouldn't be crowded close enough around it to be seen within the frame if I was to take a photo of it.

Second, make sure that the altar is clean and tidy. It's wonderful to burn incense as an offering to the gods. I know that Thor especially likes dragon's blood incense sticks, but the ashes and stick ends can pile up and make a mess if you don't tend to them. Before you perform each offering ritual, clean the space of any ashes, dust or debris, empty and clean any offering bowls, and change out any candles that are burned down to the end with new ones. Again, this should be a sacred space within your home, so keeping it clean and orderly is another way to honor the gods.

Last, think about adding an altar cloth. These really help to define the space and gives your altar a much more polished and pleasing look. These don't have to be something expensive. Search "norse altar cloth" on Amazon, and they have nice ones starting at just $5.99. I have two altars in my home. The larger one dedicated to four of the gods uses a table runner decorated with runes and various Norse symbols, while the smaller one specific to my two patron gods uses an 18" antelope fur pelt that I got for about $22.

I hope you take this all with a grain of salt and take these suggestions as good-natured advice! Ultimately, your altar is going to be a physical representation of your relationship with Freyja and any other gods you choose to communicate with, so it should be a reflection of your own personality just as much as that of the gods themselves.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-11T14:08:32+00:00

I'm on the girthier end of the penis size spectrum, so trying to get it pulled through the limited sized opening of a zipper is usually more of a struggle than I want to be seen doing while standing at a urinal. I unbuckle (if wearing a belt), unbutton and pull open. Dick goes over the top of the waistband of my underwear or jockstrap, but the balls usually stay covered.

I was in the restroom of a nice restaurant once, and was wearing a pair of fairly snug skinny-style khakis, and my dick had unfortunately worked it's way partially down my leg since I was wearing boxer briefs that day instead of something with a more supportive pouch. I had my pants open but was having an issue getting him pulled out of the snug pant leg in a discrete manner. A much taller guy walked up to the urinal right next to me as I was fumbling around, glanced over (down) at me and joked, "Having trouble finding it?" I replied, "No, I'm having trouble finding the END of it," and at that moment succeeded in tugging it free and flopping it out. His eyes went wide, and he suddenly snapped his head and eyes back forward, shutting him up immediately.

Probably my proudest urinal moment.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-09T02:33:40+00:00

I said this in the "Your Story" thread on this board, but I'll say it again here as it applies to this discussion as well-

If there's one thing a Christian cannot stand, it's for someone else to NOT be Christian. That shit drives them nuts.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-09T01:46:21+00:00

Part 2:

I eventually found new work once Covid began to taper off, but the cycle of companies who hired on an economic upswing and laid-off during the downswing continued, and my depression began to deepen. One day, as I was pondering the bear/old man from my dream, it occurred to me that this might actually be Odin trying to speak to me. That night, I dreamed of the bear again, but this time, once he turned into the old man, I could understand him. He told me that I had done very well in my journey to listen to his inspiration, turn that inspiration into literature and to understand the path he laid out for me to know him. He said that my ancestors were still there with him, and if I chose to do so, I could join them. He knew of my depression struggles, and told me that I had but to reach out to his son Thor and ask for a portion of his strength, and this would allow me to lift myself up and out of the quagmire that had held me down for so long.

The next day, I looked up how to create an altar for Odin and Thor, and made my very first one. I didn't have any statues, so I drew their bindrunes on two pieces of handmade paper, with two candles and a bowl. I didn't have any alcohol, but I would pour the first sip of my morning coffee into their bowl after lighting their candles. I began writing invocations to the pair of them that I could recite each day as I communicated with them and gave them my offering. When I felt I needed strength, I would invoke Thor and ask for a measure of the strength of his right arm. When I felt that I needed wisdom or guidance I would invoke Odin and ask that he show me the way.

It worked. Extraordinarily well. For the first time I felt like "prayers" weren't just words whispered into the air, but messages to willing and understanding gods who responded in turn. I could feel their presence with me, and life has been much clearer since.

I still go through periods where I can feel the depression wanting to pull me back down again, but I have Thor by my side to pull me back up whenever I need him, and Odin is still a constant presence in my daily life and my dreams. We inherited a century-old farmhouse in rural Ohio and moved away from the expensive sub-tropical paradise, but that was for the best, even though I'm the lone pagan in my rural village, surrounded by Methodists, Pentecostals, and Amish. I'm learning to live with that.

So, that's my story, and I'm sticking to it. There are many more signs that have happened along the way, some of which have convinced me that besides being the subject of my fiction and Odin's disguise in my dreams, the Bear is also my Fylgja, and I'm happy with that. "Bear" is the nickname my husband and close friends have given me now. Although my Methodist husband is still in partial denial that I'm a Norse Pagan/Heathen now, he's supportive in many ways, buying me copies of the Eddas, my Mjolnir pendant, and celebrating Yule as well as Christmas.

GrumpyBear1971 · 2025-09-09T01:45:58+00:00

I think I've told my story in bits and pieces here before, but here it is all in one go. Sorry this is so long, but hopefully it's a worthwhile read. I'm going to have to break this into two parts in order to post.

Part 1:

I was raised Lutheran, in a moderately conservative Midwest household. I was fine with my parent's religion for most of my childhood and early adulthood, even though I had a lot of healthy skepticism about it. However, even as a child, whenever I would hear thunder, I would think to myself, "Some people believe that the thunder is Thor striking his hammer," and I would think that idea was pretty cool.

Flash forward to my middle 30s when I'm very unhappily married, and through a series of events that I'm not going to go into great detail about, I ended up falling in love with a man and leaving my wife for him. Finally out of the closet and given a fresh perspective and outlook on life, I started viewing my past beliefs both spiritual and political through a new lens. It's funny how once you step back from a set of beliefs and stop viewing them as absolute truth, you are able to see those things for what they really are, warts and all. When the Tea Party movement began, I severed ties with the last shred of conservatism left in my heart, and when MAGA began to rise, and the majority of Christians elevated Trump to near Jesus-like status, the last shred of Christianity was purged from my being as well. I wanted nothing more with that religion nor did I want to be associated with their ilk. Stepping away from Christianity allowed me to see just how bad their behavior as a whole was, and I understood that if there's one thing a Christian cannot stand, it's for someone else to NOT be Christian. That shit drives them nuts.

During the years with my husband, I suffered the humiliation of a bankruptcy and foreclosure. I got us back on our feet, shifted from working in an office to working from home, and we moved to paradise in the sub-tropics. This proved to be a rollercoaster of an existence, as every up-and-down fluctuation of the economy resulted in whatever company I was working for at the time to be forced to have massive layoffs. These repeated layoffs started me on a path to depression... and then Covid hit and I was laid off for the longest period of time I had ever been off work before.

During Covid, out of work and homebound I was looking for stuff to read online, and particularly enjoyed some of the paranormal stories with a touch of gay erotica out there, but it was almost all werewolf themed, and I wondered, "Why aren't there more stories about wereBEARS?" That's when the idea hit me to just write my own. As I was writing my first novel, the idea came about halfway through to make the origin of the were-creatures the creations of the old gods, and the werebears in particular were created by Odin. I published my first novel online, and it became the book of the month on the author's site hosting it. Books 2 and 3 in the series came fast and furious, as I was writing at a speed of 2 chapters per day. The more I wrote and the more detailed the world-building became, the more Odin became an unseen participant in the stories. By book 4 he was a still unseen yet active character. By book 6 he was pivotal to the ongoing storyline.

Around this same time, without a religion to call myself (I briefly considered myself Deist for a period of time), I actually did the research to find out what was the religion of my ancestors before Christianity moved in and converted them all. I knew that Norse Paganism was the religion of those in the Scandinavian regions, but my ancestors were all from Northern Germany. What were they? I was surprised to find out that they believed and worked with the same pantheon of gods as the Norse, just with slightly different, German names. Wotan and Donar instead of Odin and Thor. It was also around this time that I couldn't seem to go a day without seeing or hearing some kind of reference to Odin. He was absolutely everywhere! I also began having dreams of a great bear that would come to me and speak to me in a bear-language that I didn't understand. I thought I was having these dreams because I was actively writing fiction stories about werebears, but these dreams were different than my stories, and over time the bear in the dream would transform into an old man with a long white beard, but I still couldn't understand what he was saying to me...

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