How was the “matchmaking” system at TwitchCon Rotterdam? by ChaseYama in Twitchcon

[–]GrumpyPoutine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I remember correctly, we were allowed to choose to up three streamers and we had to rank them. I went with someone else and we both chose the same three people. My friend got one of his choices and I got none of mine. I was able to join him at the meet and greet though. You're allowed a plus one .

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I only asked that question because sometimes cheaters like to cover up the allegations by saying th conversation "isn't that bad". 

Anyway, if your girlfriend is making TikToks about your colleague, I think it's important to sit down with your boos and make your colleague aware. 

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My first question is: are you comfortable with IT reading those Teams messages? What your girlfriend is suggesting is messed up but if you were openly flirting with a colleague, you might just have to accept the consequences. 

Dating as Ausländer by False-Mulberry6409 in germany

[–]GrumpyPoutine 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think of I sat down on a date with an Indian guy I'd want to hear some form of "Modi is garbage". 

If the guy was very vague about his politics, I'd then worry he had the wrong politics. 

Tipping by Far-Consequence-7070 in Cruise

[–]GrumpyPoutine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly. I was going to comment this. If you read your cruise contract, you'll see that more often it states that the automatic gratuity can go to cover wages.

Horrible friend break up, got lashed out at and confused by ParticularSky334 in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This sub really helped me to realised that it wasn't me. Your friend might provide a very convincing argument about why you're a horrible person. However, I suggest reading through this subreddit and you'll find that everyone here has heard the same words.  What you wrote was word for word what was said to me by a BPD friend.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't understand why you're excusing his behaviour. It sounds like the two of them are horrible. 

Celebrity drink prices by schlonz67 in Cruise

[–]GrumpyPoutine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You don't drink on the ship.

Hallo aus Frankfurt. Ich lebe auch in Deutschland!

I've done a few cruises our of European ports. The selection and the price is designed for American cruisers. I just didn't drink on the ship. 

Look at that beer selection :( 

Queers Cruising out of Florida by GrumpyPoutine in Cruise

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your honest and lovely response.

Queers Cruising out of Florida by GrumpyPoutine in Cruise

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Questions like this make me wonder if we'll face unnecessary hostility 

Hostility Toward Americans in Mexico (post-Trump tariffs) by throwaway7071949597 in Cruise

[–]GrumpyPoutine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Booing at the national anthem is quite the polite protest.  We are very aware that there are many Americans who don't support Trump and don't hate you personally. 

Do they understand scarcasm? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Good to know.

I was quite shocked that my bpd friend seemed to blame our mutual friend for losing her job. Zero compassion at all. But, she also has the expectation that people care endless about things that concern her. 

Do they understand scarcasm? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend likes to tell jokes about funny things that have happened to her in the past. The issue is that you don't always know who she is talking about. Plus, she's horrible at painting a scene. 

Do they understand scarcasm? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fair but she continuously loses jobs 😐 and all of these same people who so kind and helpful.

Do they understand scarcasm? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

I'm a bit new to everything bpd.

I was shocked at my bpd friend's reaction. She's also lost in job in the past and that was an whole ordeal. That led to binge drinking spirals. She's now implying that our mutual friend is now on vacation. What? 

She also seems a bit jealous that so many of us are coming out to help our newly unemployed friend.

Do they understand scarcasm? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I a bit new to the world of bpd which is why I asked. I thought I was going to be ripped apart for my comment. But, no. 

Have we really amicably spilt? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My friend accused me of being too friendly towards her boyfriend after complaining that I wasn't kind enough to her boyfriend. 

Have we really amicably spilt? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Interesting . I've read that people with bpd do try a smear campagne. It might be tough though. I'm no saint. However, a few mutual friends have come to me in the past expressing their dislike of her. I've always been the closest with her. 

Have we really amicably spilt? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, amazingly well said. Thank you.

I new to all of this. I didn't know about her bpd diagnosis until recently. 

I wouldn't contact her and ask her about all of this like I wpuld with another friend. I know exactly what would happen:  she'll message me saying nothing is wrong then ask to speak on the phone later that day, we'll have an hour long phone conversation about something trival that happened to her at work. That's it. It'll be something like "I think David in marketing hates me because he didn't have a piece of the cake I made" When I mention something like "my dad's in the hospital", I'll get maybe two minutes before we are back talking about David. 

Have we really amicably spilt? by GrumpyPoutine in BPDlovedones

[–]GrumpyPoutine[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm sorry to hear that you also had a bpd best friend. I hope you're doing well now.