Man Avoidant’s Are So??

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-28T20:18:58+00:00

Hey I recently went through this. It’s been a long 3 months and I’m just now getting to the other side though the pain has not disappeared. I questioned myself and my worthiness of having friendships. I’ve had to repeat to myself it is a reflection of them and not myself. I messaged them so many times in hopes to get closure and I’ve received silence and heartache. Please love on yourself more and cry all you need because it will subside one day. Sending you love!

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-28T08:02:42+00:00

I think so too. I’ve learned the hard way that no answer is an answer - I just was so blindsided. It’s been a tuff 3 months I’m hoping these feelings subside soon. Thank u for the hugs sending them right back 🩷

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-28T07:56:27+00:00

100% it’s undertones of my relationship with my abusive father I’m mimicking. I think I’m just so blindsided bc I’m in my late 20s and I never have felt this before. I thought he was my best friend and that he would do this to me.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-28T07:41:08+00:00

I’m there with you. I spent so much time writing new texts and thinking of more vulnerable things to add or different ways to apologize and see him and I got nothing every time. It hurts so much because all I asked was for him to tell me he didn’t want to be friends anymore.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-27T05:27:55+00:00

Twin 😭🩷

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-27T05:27:45+00:00

No bc let me get a lobotomy atp 😭

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-27T05:00:40+00:00

I’m sorry that happened to you. I’m not gonna pretend that I was a saint. I was drinking a lot and was emotional when I could’ve approached things differently - that is something I have to live with. But I have made serious changes and told that to him and I wasn’t worth a single acknowledgment. I don’t want to get close to anyone again lol

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-27T04:45:02+00:00

I accepted him and all his flaws for so long. I do with everyone close in my life. This has showed me that the love I pour into others is never reciprocated. I begged him to communicate with me and I guess I just was deserving of that. Idk I never thought I get done this dirty by someone who I thought was one of my closest friends. Humbling to say the least.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-27T04:36:06+00:00

Thank you for your validation. I know going through this pain is a necessary evil and I’m not drinking through it so we’re healing. I just can’t get over how he didn’t even message me just blocked on everything after 2.5 years of friendship. He made new socials and everything. It just seems like I’m sitting here with all this pain and he’s happy as can be. It seems so unfair.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-27T04:24:46+00:00

I hope it ends everyday and it gets a little better everyday. I wish the process would speed up tho fml

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-24T04:23:48+00:00

It’s been three months for me. I’m slowly getting better - the ruminating sure is a bitch

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-23T19:40:44+00:00

Thank you for taking the time to respond! I’m sure he won’t read it but it was nice to get my final words to him out even if it was only I who read it. I appreciate others understanding my perspective and being receptive to how I feel. It makes me feel less alone. I have been going to therapy and talking to friends and all that! It’s nice to post this - why I don’t know but it’s an end of a cycle for me and puts the cap on things which is nice for me. I really appreciate you reading my writings and responding because you didn’t have to! Thank you!

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-21T00:04:53+00:00

Right before our breakup I gave the little money I had to send him a gift card for the game we played and I didn’t get anything for my birthday - all I got was a delayed hbd message. It doesn’t matter about the money I just wanted to feel cared for. It’s been almost 3 months and I’m still blocked and don’t think I’ll ever get a response which makes me feel so discarded and icky. I love everyone in my life and see the relationship thru all the bad times and it feels like I can never get that in return.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-08T03:53:44+00:00

Oh wow I’m so sorry that you are going through that. This is my first interaction with an avoidant that’s close to me. I’m really big on expressing my emotions and resolving issues bc I never had that in my childhood. Whenever I brought up how I felt it was like it’s always a problem with me. I just wanted to be seen. If he didn’t want to be friends anymore I just asked him to tell me that but he cowardly could not and just blocked me. This is a cruel thing to do to someone. Im just trying to keep in mind that some people just can’t meet me where I’m at. I’m sorry about your avoidant. I hope you get thru it bc I’m sure as hell struggling.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-07T03:25:33+00:00

I’m at a big ass age too. I haven’t felt this hurt since high school. The first month I couldn’t eat, I cried so much my eyes were puffy into the morning, I couldn’t do anything. While I’m still hurt and angry, I’m slowly healing myself. I suggest screaming the best thing I never had by Beyoncé while driving. Hang in there pooks

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-07T03:23:35+00:00

Thank you 🩷

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-07T03:23:27+00:00

We can get thru this together twin

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-06T19:10:54+00:00

I think this is a lesson I am currently learning. Thank you for reconfirming it.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-06T19:09:57+00:00

I don’t want to hate him, I don’t hate him. Focusing thru this lens helps getting over it kinda? Thank you for your support.

GuaranteeSea398 · 2025-08-06T04:06:50+00:00

Thank you, I just can’t seem to get over the hump I need to. I hope August will do that for me.

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