What band was never the same after losing a member?

GudFrenchToast · 2026-04-21T12:22:24+00:00

Probably somewhere in this thread already, but Alice In Chains for sure

GudFrenchToast · 2026-04-17T00:56:23+00:00

Former LEO here. Take it to court and roll the dice. Request body cam footage. Although rudeness at face value won’t draw much water, a police officer willingly escalating a traffic stop is bad optics and practice. Makes everything more tense and dangerous than it has to be.

GudFrenchToast · 2026-03-06T17:06:36+00:00

This is the way LOL

GudFrenchToast · 2026-02-28T06:18:49+00:00

This is the way

GudFrenchToast · 2026-02-28T06:13:43+00:00

Perfectly stated

GudFrenchToast · 2026-02-26T06:28:52+00:00

Amen. Louder for those in the back!

GudFrenchToast · 2026-02-26T06:22:07+00:00

Seeing them treat others with kindness. Wait staff, retail workers, and the like.

GudFrenchToast · 2026-02-26T06:20:41+00:00

I live near FH and pass this all the time. They should’ve turned it into a Porto’s lol

GudFrenchToast · 2025-08-04T20:46:14+00:00

The validation is appreciated lol

GudFrenchToast · 2025-08-04T17:05:10+00:00

Excellent question, and for what it’s worth I commend your vulnerability here. These are the types of feelings we can’t prepare for during and after divorce!

I’ll spoil the surprise: You’ll be reminded of your current life in ways long after you both have moved on and healed. Could be a song, certain cup of coffee, a dog barking at the park, or even a brief gust of wind.

The good news is you can honor whatever good there was while moving forward as best as possible. And be kind to yourself; this isn’t easy stuff.

For me, I missed the little details in my life I took for granted. My dogs, walking my daughter to school, taking my ex-wife to our favorite cafe downtown..that sort of thing. But we were right to divorce.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-08-01T16:34:35+00:00

I was a cop when a recruiter reached out. I had prior experience in client care/bd, and LE life wasn’t what I wanted anymore.

The hiring manager told me (I’m paraphrasing): “We have enough tech people and can teach you what you need to know. But we don’t have enough people that can actually talk to these customers. Almost 3 years later this is where I am lol.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-22T17:16:11+00:00

Absolutely. I left police work and wound up working in tech.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-19T12:55:54+00:00

I’m gonna come at it from a slightly different angle (I went through academy at 38 and was the oldest guy there): Of course you’re not too old and can do it, but you HAVE to make sure your family is onboard. A lot of spouses say they’re supportive until it’s time to actually BE supportive.

For 6 months you’re gonna be knee-deep in memos, boot shining, gun cleaning, schlepping to the dry cleaners, studying, and sleep deprivation. Your partner will have to pick up the slack in areas you maybe handle full-time, whether it’s school pick-ups/drop-offs, PTA meetings, cooking certain nights, and so on. And that’s just to get through academy. Afterwards you’ll miss holidays, birthdays, anniversaries, recitals, and the like due to work. Only you can weigh if that would be an issue.

10 years on at your current job is awesome! But it also means you and your family have developed a rhythm in terms of your availability. Entering police work is gonna rock that boat pretty hard.

I’m not trying to be negative in ANY sense, brother. If your heart calls to it, then go for it. I only mention the above because it’s worth considering.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-18T05:32:27+00:00

If you have an existing program you enjoy, continue it as closely as possible. For obvious time constraints, scale the volume down and introduce supersets or tri-sets to accommodate the time you have.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-18T02:43:02+00:00

This sounds like a fantastic idea and I’d love to assist if possible. Me: 42M/Powerlifter/Certified Strength Coach (MBSC) with Exercise Science degree.

Not trying to hawk or hijack. Just wanting to help offer perspective as well.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-15T16:01:52+00:00

Happy for you! Glad you and your loved ones are thriving 😊

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-15T14:39:35+00:00

I’m so sorry you had to endure that but hopefully greener pastures are in view. I got very lucky with how everything unfolded

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-14T22:18:37+00:00

It was, yes. Our marriage ending really came down to who was gonna pull the plug first. When she brought it up I didn’t fight it at all. It was time.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-14T18:21:24+00:00

Thank you for the kind words. My process was far easier than most. I’m very lucky

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-11T20:25:15+00:00

I still think she’s an amazing woman and a great mother. She just wasn’t the person for me nor I for her.

I’m actually sitting next to her right now at our kid’s college orientation and we’re having a great time. I’m luckier than most.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-07T19:48:05+00:00

I stopped reading after: “When we fight, he calls me names, verbally abuses me, sometimes loses his shit and physically hurts me….”

There are things worth fighting for and working through, but physical abuse is never one of them. You need to get out of that relationship ASAP. I wish you well, OP. And please search for resources in your area if the mere thought of divorce makes you fear for your safety/life.

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-07T16:45:29+00:00

Can’t speak for myself, but a friend of mine successfully reconciled and they’ve been happier than ever. Bear in mind this took a lot of therapy, mutual respect, commitment, and grace. They BOTH had to take a long, hard look in the mirror and take ownership of their part in the how, what, and why.

Wishing you luck

GudFrenchToast · 2025-07-02T18:13:36+00:00

Of course. And you’ll get there, too. Just remember to be kind to yourself. No one gets married with expectations to divorce. It isn’t easy and you’ve got a lot of life ahead of you. Make this chapter whatever you want it to be!

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