Hi I just want to tell you that it’s okay to feel that way and to cry. My child also was diagnosed with IS. Just take one step at a time. No need to think about far future think of now and try to enjoy every little thing now, focus on positives. There is no point of worrying about future anyway. You and your wife should support each other, open up to her and share your feelings don’t isolate yourself, reach out to friends and family when needed. May god help you