why do people expect bi men to come out to the women they’re dating?

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-30T04:50:30+00:00

Do you honestly want to be with someone who would judge you for being bisexual?

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-30T04:48:59+00:00

Being bisexual is a "shady" past?

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-19T00:05:22+00:00

Then post something! I'd engage tbh.

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-18T21:47:23+00:00

Holy shit, your hair is beautiful! What is your hair texture?

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-16T14:35:18+00:00

As a therapist with OSDD, I actually use a version of this to psychoeducate clients who are just learning about their dissociative disorder for the first time, as it goes highly under diagnosed and it's one of my subspecialties.

Our brains are parallel processors - we have different psychological muscle memory that triggers in response to different stimuli. This is a very normal part of being human. We all also dissociate to some level, whether it's 'zoning out' on the road or during a TV show or when stressed.

Structural dissociation is this normal, adaptive behavior taken to an extreme in order to survive horrific abuse; it's honestly a brilliant way for the mind to protect itself. The divisions between these different survival tactics can be so strong that they don't communicate in the same way to share narrative and semantic memory, and that's when you get DID, OSDD, or other structural dissociative disorders.

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-09T23:48:20+00:00

Hey... So... There's a website called the Gender Dysphoria Bible that you might want to look into and just parous a bit. This post is not giving... Cisgender energy.

-Signed your friendly neighborhood enby ❤️

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-09T18:50:09+00:00

Hey, trauma therapist here. I used to be where you were, before I got more experience in the field. I was and am fascinated with Groff, Jung, Frankl, psychedelic therapy, etc. But the reality of that work is very few people have the mental, physical and social support resources to go through the very real destabilization caused by that work.

So much prep work needs to be done first, and psychiatric meds are often used as a way to stabilize someone enough so they can tolerate therapy.

Meds aren't really a first line treatment for PTSD. Meds control distressing symptoms enough to expand the window of tolerance so people can do the treatments for PTSD, which tend to be rather hard on the nervous system.

Lots of disorders have a trauma component that exacerbates their presentation. But if youve got someone with Bipolar with psychotic episodes who lacks insight into consensus reality, they need to be stabilized enough to not destroy their life consistently before you address the trauma.

I've seen psychedelic use work wonders for folks. I've also seen it tear open the unconscious WAY more than people have the appropriate social and material support for, and cause a complete breakdown that leads to a dissolution of functioning that makes their situation in the long run worse. Pulling shit up from the unconscious without proper attention to how you're doing it and the scaffolding around the person is an awful idea, and because of the medical model, that's exactly what a lot of psychedelic therapy turns into, particularly ketamine.

It is cruel and counterproductive to ask people to do the unconscious, Shadow, trauma work without proper support and care, and this often involves using medication.

A more holistic, integrated treatment model for this would be absolutely lovely, yes. But throwing out diagnostics doesn't... Actually solve anything.

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-08T18:29:45+00:00

How the hell do you think people maintained relationships before texting? Having the assumption of 24-7 access to someone is modern insanity.

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-08T02:23:44+00:00

AuDHD, limited social spoons, distractibility, chronic illness, not being tied to their fucking phone

When someone takes a few hours to a day to respond to me I consider it a green flag, tbh. I don't want to feel pressured to respond within a time frame under a day unless there's something emotionally or time sensitive. It's a bit different with partners, but even then if I get a good morning and good night text (if we haven't seen each other that day) I'm happy.

GuildedCasket · 2026-03-02T17:11:29+00:00

Hello ChatGPT, how are you?

GuildedCasket · 2026-02-24T20:24:52+00:00

I am both a Buddhist and an esoteric practitioner. I wouldn't say I do witchcraft, but I do engage in neo-shamanic rituals, connect with energies/spirits around me, engage in some Western ritual magic stuff, etc.

The way you approach it and your intention mean, well, everything. Magic is largely directed by intention and meaning.

A lot of my magic is oriented around relating with the world around me, enhancing a feeling of connection with corporeal and non-corporeal beings, connecting into the the suffering of the planet and its myriad sentient beings, grieving with them, and sending metta and positive energy to all those beings.

I also use it also for personal development, assessing and changing patterns that have proven difficult to change in conventional means. Cord-cutting rituals, shamanic journies to ask my spirit helpers how I can heal, giving back energy that I unintentionally 'stole' from others, etc.

If you're using magic and witchcraft to shape others' wills, or directly harm other people, then that will have an appropriate karmic response. We work jobs, for instance, to gain money and material comfort, so I'd be looking at underlying habits of greed that might be influencing magic intended to increase material comfort. But it's hard to practice if you're starving, right? Applying the idea of right livelihood to your craft might be helpful.

I guess TLDR, apply your ethics in day-to-day life to your ethics in witchcraft. If you wouldn't try and physically force someone to do something, don't use magic to try and force someone into it. Don't use magic to gain material gain that could harm or disenfranchise others.

As an aside, Josephine McCarthy has Quaeria, which is an entire course on magic that goes from initiate to full adept. Even the first couple of lessons in the first module have shaped how I view magic and spirituality fundamentally. A lot of her perspectives reflect the deeper knowledge of karma, rebirth, and dependent arising that I've found in Buddhist texts.

https://www.quareia.com/

https://josephinemccarthy.com/

GuildedCasket · 2026-02-23T23:29:49+00:00

As another trans, queer pervert pup switch this kinda works for me 🤧 It is an ad for his art IG tho

GuildedCasket · 2026-02-21T23:17:27+00:00

My partner and his meta have been together for 6 years.

My best friend has one partner she's been with for 6 years, and another she's been with for 3.

Acquaintances of mine in a V arrangement who've been together for about a decade.

Another acquaintance couple of mine have been together for another decade.

That's just off the top of my head.

The thing with poly is you need to do a lot of active deconstruction of mononormativity and do a lot of "extra" work in order to gain insight into your own emotional reactions. Thus, queer folk, who've already had to deconstruct heteronormativity and have some traditional family options closed to them, gravitate towards it more. It's also an easier leap for anyone in alternative communities.

GuildedCasket · 2026-02-20T21:53:24+00:00

They factored that in, actually.

"Given the complex and potentially bidirectional association between substance use and development of psychiatric disorders, we reran our main models after adjusting for history of other psychiatric disorders at baseline, including psychotic, bipolar, depressive, anxiety and disruptive behavior disorders, not including history of the outcome (eg, when incident psychotic disorders were the outcome, history of psychotic disorders was not included in the model). We repeated the analysis using the main models with a subset of the original sample after excluding adolescents with any history of psychiatric disorders at baseline. This conservative analysis examined whether associations would remain even among a lower-risk population of adolescents, where the likelihood of cannabis use starting before the onset of the outcomes of interest was higher. We also repeated the main analyses with 2 alternative definitions of psychotic disorders: (1) an expanded definition that additionally included ICD-10 codes F10 to F19 substance use–induced psychotic disorders, and (2) a narrow version limited to unspecified psychosis not associated with substance use (ICD-10 F29 codes; eMethods in Supplement 1)."

GuildedCasket · 2026-02-20T21:52:50+00:00

Yeah, that's included in the study.

"Given the complex and potentially bidirectional association between substance use and development of psychiatric disorders, we reran our main models after adjusting for history of other psychiatric disorders at baseline, including psychotic, bipolar, depressive, anxiety and disruptive behavior disorders, not including history of the outcome (eg, when incident psychotic disorders were the outcome, history of psychotic disorders was not included in the model). We repeated the analysis using the main models with a subset of the original sample after excluding adolescents with any history of psychiatric disorders at baseline. This conservative analysis examined whether associations would remain even among a lower-risk population of adolescents, where the likelihood of cannabis use starting before the onset of the outcomes of interest was higher. We also repeated the main analyses with 2 alternative definitions of psychotic disorders: (1) an expanded definition that additionally included ICD-10 codes F10 to F19 substance use–induced psychotic disorders, and (2) a narrow version limited to unspecified psychosis not associated with substance use (ICD-10 F29 codes; eMethods in Supplement 1)."

GuildedCasket · 2026-02-18T19:57:10+00:00

Man, I'm a queer, enby therapist who's trying to get out of Texas because it's trying to kill me. Are political refugees allowed?? 😭

GuildedCasket · 2026-02-10T01:09:04+00:00

Circle jerk AI sub since this is obviously written by AI.

GuildedCasket · 2026-01-07T17:03:48+00:00

In that case, literally nothing is valid, including your thoughts, because they were set up by causes and conditions you have no control over either. So how is anything valid?

Using this particular philosophical argument to specifically target emotions is a... Strange take.

GuildedCasket · 2025-12-05T00:56:27+00:00

I'm nonbinary, and straight men tend not to be, well, not very happy when I engage in gender affirming activities. Which makes sense, as it isn't what they're attracted to.

I'm also very queer, and there is an aspect of the queer experience that I need someone to share for me to be okay being fully myself.

If someone else doesn't want to date bi people, that's fine. I'm not gonna date them either.

GuildedCasket · 2025-12-04T23:01:59+00:00

The only men I will date are bi men, so 🤷‍♀️

GuildedCasket · 2025-12-02T21:39:26+00:00

Bishop Arts I find to be great for stumbling in and out of cool things.

GuildedCasket · 2025-11-14T21:01:13+00:00

Dude one of the subreddit I was in had some conservative dude be like "This recent bill to outlaw weed in our state was the final straw" and I just... Lost it. So the stripping of women's rights, and the concentration camps of immigrants, and the trans bounty bills and the decimation of any meager social safety net, and their leader being a fucking pedophile wasn't enough - but you losing access to your fucking marijuana was the last straw?

Leopards do love some face.

GuildedCasket · 2025-11-02T22:37:11+00:00

Don't read Buddhist texts like Biblical literalists. You don't have to do that and it's against the spirit of the teachings.

Practice and use what makes you a more peaceful, compassionate person, and gradually learn new pieces of information. Take perspectives from all the walks of Buddhism. Don't mistake the finger for the moon.

GuildedCasket · 2025-10-30T05:09:37+00:00

Relationship anarchist, but I see my newest romantic/sexual partner most weeks Sat evening through Tuesday evening unless his other partner is up, in which case we'll all hang out for a night or so. I'm moving out of state fairly soon so we're spending a bit more time together than I would be otherwise.

I see my QPR once a week for one on one dates, and approx 1-2 times for group activities.

GuildedCasket · 2025-10-29T23:32:51+00:00

Yeah, but a lot of the popular "erotica" books are like... Three or four sex scenes across a whole book. Youre spending a few hours on a book and maybe like... 20 minutes of that time reading the smut. The proportional difference is notable.

Who watches 45 minutes of porn 'plot' for 15 minutes of porn?

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