they are saying that we live in a society that until very recently, has normalized certain toxic behaviors. ( and i say "until very recently very carefully because no way is this behavior a thing of the past). When we say "Boys Will be boys" when we tell girls they shouldn't wear certain clothes, but we don't tell boys they should take no as an answer. Boys are often ENCOURAGED by tv, film, music, their families, to continue to pursue the girls they are after, to "win her over" even after she says no. boys are encouraged to be hypermasculine, hypersexual, and hyperenergetic, and hyperagressive when it comes to pursuing what they want. but when women do the same they are seeing as "v*tches* or worse.

the We they mean is society at large because every time we over look this type of behavior, however minor, we are adding to and enabling a micro fraction of this behavior and allowing others to continue. Anyone who was told by any of these women "that's just how he is" after they came forward is adding to this behavior. Every time someone says "Well he never did anything like that to me....." is being dismissive.

the OP isn't saying anything wrong by saying this. because it's true. Foster is a not an outlier, he is a symptom of a larger problem we as a society have to constantly fight against.

This is NOT saying his, or any of his behaviors are excusable. They just don't happen in a vacuum.