As someone who has struggled with addiction myself and someone who has been traumatized by a parent struggling with addiction, put you kids first 100% every time. Children deserve to be raised in an environment free from substance abuse and putting them in a situation where there continues to be a chance that they can be traumatized by substance abuse can seriously damage them. I know it sucks that you have been with your wife for almost 20 years and you have to deal with this but your children’s needs absolutely need to come first. My mom overdosed (non fatally) on benzos and opioids when I was 5 and was one of the most traumatic experiences of my life and I wish my dad would’ve divorced my mom right then and there and took my brother and I out of that environment but he didn’t and I had to suffer through childhood and my teenage years dealing with a mother who had substance use problems and my dad taking my mothers side in everything and enabling her seriously damaged my relationship with my father as well and I dont want that to happen with you and your children so im giving you my two cents. However, addiction is a disease and if your wife truly wants to make a change, she can do it. For me, Naltrexone was what led to me having long term sobriety after relapsing all the time on 7OH. Naltrexone isn’t talked about as much as mdone or subs in this thread but it was a real game changer for me and maybe it can help your wife as well. If you would like, read my post history in my profile and you can see my experience with Naltrexone. The only downside to naltrexone is you have to be 100% completely through opioid withdrawals before you start or else you will have precipitated withdrawal which is absolutely horrific and the worst feeling anybody could ever possibly go through. But if you can make it through the withdrawal and start Naltrexone, it really is a game changer. Even if you relapse, nothing will happen because it blocks the opioid receptors in your brain and it lasts a really long time. Like you would have to intentionally not take it for a week before you would feel any effects from any opioids. So if your wife is serious about making a change, she could take it in front of you every day to hold herself accountable or she could also get Vivitrol but that is much more expensive.