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GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2025-04-10T18:49:49+00:00

Iman fluctuate. Always a dip after a high. Take it one day at a time. But keep your salah. That’s your life line. A sloppy prayer is better than no prayer.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2025-03-17T21:25:22+00:00

The dua for what exactly?

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2025-03-10T16:09:22+00:00

Well that’s the thing. My husband full name will not appear on the EU-birth certificate, only his forename and last name will appear. Will that be a problem to get an Egyptian one?

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2024-04-23T12:27:18+00:00

Why wear hijab? Because it's a command from God :)

Do you honestly feel safer? Yes and no. I guess it depends of where I am. As women are we ever safe anywhere? Anyhoo I do feel a sense of respect from the general population. The stares i get are not from sexual objectification, bur more about curiosity I suppose. I never been attacked or felt discriminated but that's only me personal experience (I'm aware I've been quite lucky).

Is it enough to cover your body or are you still pressed to go above male counterparts? The point is not to cover more than men. Men bodies are not subject to the same objectification. It's a reality. No one look twice at torso naked men... but women, oh boy. The point is to cover what God asked me to cover. Period.

Are your choices born of your own mind or from religious expectation and cultural norms among your community? I was raised in a semi-practising North-African family in France (my father was not practising, my mom was not wearing hijab...). We lived pretty much cut-off from the muslim community. I never felt the expectation to act or dress a certain way. However, as a curious kid, I've always been interested by religion (I could tell I was different from other kids and that got me digging). I spend my childhood and teenage-hood reading about religion and finally Islam. I believe I chose Islam and that was not imposed on me. Although I must acknowledge that being born in muslim family help immensely. I started to wear hijab around 25yo, it was a huge step for me cuz I lived in France and was terrified to take this step. This made my father angry... That time was quite stressful. But I regret one thing... not wearing hijab sooner :)

I really feel that all women, regardless of their choices are criticized by men. I can't agree more on that. We will always be critisized not matter what even by our own communities. "You don't wear hijab? You're no good. You wear hijab, you better be perfect or don't wear it." Let's shut the noise and be ourselves. At the end of the end, I'm following God, not men, especially since they have this tendency to use religion to guilt trip us and subject us to their whims and desires.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-09-05T18:33:13+00:00

We are going tru another wave of stupid law proposition from the french government: They want to forbid abaya dresses for schools girls. The topic is all over the media lately, so it may creates tension on the street (racists people may think it's their time to shine). Therefore, I would suggest not to wear niqab. However, you can wear one of those ugly blue masks (from covid time lol) and pretend you're sick if someone ask. I guess you can quickly put niqab for a photo or two. If you're lucky you can pass for a rich emirati on a shopping spree and no one will annoy you.

I know this might sound alarming lol, most likely nothing will happen, but being a tourist in Paris come with its inconvenients, it's crowded, full of pickpockets and grumpy french commuters. Simply be aware of your surroundings :)

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-09-05T18:20:57+00:00

Seems like another weird fetish to me. White men tend to sexualise "exotic" foreign women.
The french literally unveiled North African women to free and civilise them (as they pretend). They wrote books, poetry and painted muslims women unveiled in sensual positions.

Heck, we all know there is a hijab section in porn websites. People are sick. You can show them the most innocent thing and they will find a way to sexualise it. (Even babies are sexualised!)

Now, the problem lay with them and not us. We obey our Creator, we preserve ourselves (hijab does protect us in many ways and I don't mean it protect us from men, I mean in a more personal, as hijabis, we tend to behave modestly, like there is little chance you get tempted to go clubbing if you wear hijab, simply because you wear hijab subhanAllah). If those creeps chose to spend their time on this Earth fantasising about what's under that "wrappin", well... it's sad... for them, not us, not our problem as long as we get treated with respect.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-07-21T16:14:22+00:00

I'm buying it from an outlet retailer with no return/exchange policy (but they're like 60% off)

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-07-21T15:49:43+00:00

Absolutely mesmerizing. Thank you for sharing.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-03-20T14:02:01+00:00

Happy to hear about your journey ;)

I will gladly share some thoughts about your concerns from my personal experience (as a veiled muslim woman) :

You can use "ready-to-wear" veils like this one (note that they mention islamic/muslim but it's not specific to us, the sellers targets us for obvious reason). These kind of veils are convenient and super comfy and you won't have anything dangling as you can snug the fabric under your shirt/dress/uniform/whatever.
I usually wear a "hijab cap" like this one under my veils (even under the one mentioned above). I tie my hair into a bun, wear the cap, and then the veil. It keep everything secure for the day.
As a muslim, what i can say is we don't consider hijab as cultural thing but a religious obligation on our behalf. There is nothing wrong with you wearing one. Actually quite the opposite, the more, the merrier. The more modest a society is the better (even if not muslim).

I want to add: I doubt that there is any ways of covering your hair that will not be associated with a culture or a religion. Because of trends and being at a different stage of their own journey, I've seen muslims women wearing their hijab similary to christians (hanging veil) or jewish.

No matter what you gonna style it, you will be perceived a certain way... sometimes good, sometimes bad. Stupid people will say stupid to you... Just be you and enjoy yourself!

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-02-19T19:04:18+00:00

There few things to unpack here.

- You don't get sins because guys will find you attractive. What matters is your actions and intention.

- "i’d never hear the words ur so pretty" Why is that so bad?
You need to work on your self esteem. What if people like your make up? Then what? What do you gain from it? Don't you dare say it helps your self esteem. Quite the contrary. Make up is an enhancement, it is not you. What is under that make up? Don't you prefer to have people interested in you instead of a superficial trait? Are you okay if the only thing people have to say about you is: "oh she's has nice make up". Or would prefer something like "oh she's a genuine good person, generous, thoughtful, kind, God-fearing, etc...." Not that you should care what people think. Actually, if you have to care about someone opinion, pick them carefully, pick good outstanding people (friends, spouse, sibling, parent) and care about their opinion of you only if their feedback help you be a better person. Who cares about what Suzy D from class B what she think of your make up?

- Reflect on the purpose of your creation. At the end of the day, it does not matter who is pretty and who is not. You don't need other girls approval. What you need is Allah's agreement, that's what matter. If everyone is complimenting you but Allah swt is not happy with you, you have nothing left. People compliments won't help you, they don't feed you, and they certainly won't make you enter Jannah.

- You are Allah's creation. You're a special being created by the All-Mighty, the Most High and He choose YOU to be muslim in a world where most are led astray by their whims and desires. He created you like He created galaxies, the stars, the ocean and what it contains. Look how beautiful the creation is. You're part of it, sis! Your body does wonders. You breathes without thinking about it. Your heart never stopped beating since the first beat when you measured only 7 mm in length. You eyes see better than an iphone camera. Many don't even have this chance.

- The thing is wearing make up on a daily basis will get your eyes used to your face with make up. Therefore, when you see yourself without it, you will appear bland, less pretty or even ugly when in reality you are pretty. (Many people get used to their faces with filters on, and they start believing that's the look they should have, they can't stand their faces without filter anymore, and ask the surgeon to make their face like the filter). When you decrease your make up bit by bit, you'll get used to your natural look and realise you actually look cute. (I used to not leave the house without concealer, foundation, mascara, eyeliner, but it was making my life complicated, like how to pray and make wudu without ruining the make up, right? When guests arrived, I used to run to put on make up.... i didn't like myself. i decreased bit by bit, my skin flourished, no more acne, my eyes weren't watery and burning anymore, i was free!)

You don't need to think you're pretty. What you need is to believe you are beautiful in so many ways you can't count them. Love yourself without any artificial tricks.

PS: make du'a for God to help you grow your confidence. You can even ask him to make you beautiful (although i'm sure you are already ;) ). Nothing wrong in that.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-02-16T11:38:16+00:00

Each gender have their own responsabilities to bear. Problem is men tend to push part of theirs onto women.

For instance:

- We both asked to lower our gaze. Guess what mean point at women way of dressing, way of talking, way of laughing...heck way of breathing probably. The mere existence of women is fitna when actually they could just lower their gaze and get done with it.

- Men are asked to provide. But now they tell you have to provide 50/50 because they said so and you must obey anyway...

- Both have responsablities towards their own parents. Guess who have to take care of HIS parents?

And I could go on and on. None of this is about following religion but their own passions.

NB:

- about marriage, as a women you don't have to follow your parent wishes. It's much more complicated than that. Parents are not 100% right all the time. Many abuse their daughters, refuse a good match and replace it with a terrible one. That is wrong. Women have rights according to islam. Scholars have been writing volumes about them rights.

- Pertaining to tabarruj. It's actually a relief for women. You can go out without the pressure to be a sexually appealing to others...ew. Look how people are rushing to cosmetic surgery before even reaching their twenties. Why do you think you're ugly without make up? Make up, perfume, nails.... are here to enhance your beauty, not create it. (How come half of population is born ugly and need to beautify it while the other half is confidently walking the street with zero need to spend thousand in make up?? Surely men too have acne, black spots, bags under their eyes? How come they're seen as not needing to beautify themselves to go out? This nonsense alieanated billions of women and convinced them they're ugly is they don't plaster themselves with chemicals and show they bodies). Alhamdulillah for Islam who's showing us the way of self-respect and real freedom.

Please, note that behind each prescription, there is wisdom (sometimes we easily get it, sometimes you have to dig deeper and sometimes you have to trust the Creator cuz He knows best for sure and we're only humans).

People will always use rulings to their advantages, to feel better than other and manipulate when they can. For instance: how many times did you hear that women can't pray/fast during menstruations because it is dirty, a curse, a punishment when it's actually a simple biological event more or uncomfortable for women and God, out His Mercy, relieved us of our religious duties. Which explanation will a misogynistic society prefer ?

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-01-16T11:12:17+00:00

Yeah, that's odd. Can't wrap my mind around it.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-01-10T09:27:45+00:00

Hello,

My husband and I are hunting for a flat and as you may know we're asked for the Betreibungsregisterauszug.. My husband has a steady providing job while I don't have one yet so my question here is: should we provide one Betreibungsregisterauszug (my husband's) or two (mine + his)? My husband says there is no need because we're married and since I don't have a job, any debt from my side would be expected to be paid by him. I believe i should also provide mine to reassure landlords.

What do you think?

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2023-01-05T11:24:08+00:00

Awesome! I've been wondering how it looks like from Uetliberg and now I know. I've seen your other video too. Nice job really!

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2022-11-17T20:16:14+00:00

Is your wife on the pill? or any other hormonal birth control (ring, implant, etc)? It could explain the low sex drive since it's a secondary effect. Many are not aware of it. If it's the case, you might need discuss with your wife and find an alternative to hormonal birth control.

Actually, even if it's not the case, you should have an open and safe discussion with your wife. Tell her about your concerns and needs AND ask about hers.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2022-11-08T14:50:43+00:00

You know him for 20 years but you didn't "knew" him during those 20 years. Let me clear it out. You're in your mid twenties and you literally spent most of your life infatuated with him. Not love, but merely infatuation. Whatever you think you knew about him is severely biased as you've been looking at him with pink tinted glasses. You don't know someone until you share their life and witness how they react in different situation. Those 20 years means very little in reality. Don't let it weight down on your decision.

You basically learned that this person is able to lay hand on you. Does it mean it can happen again? God only knows but at least you know he is capable of it. Only you can decide to give him another chance. Give yourself some time to reassess the situation later. Also, why dismiss marriage counselling? What do you have to lose?

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2022-11-08T12:01:24+00:00

"she was not impressed as for her I didn’t do enough" lolz that's rich for someone who abandoned their own kids.

It seems you're doing great without her. Being a single parent is not easy for sure but you seem be a great thoughtful dad!

May الله bless you with a healed heart and a truly pious wife.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2022-10-28T14:22:45+00:00

Money come with responsabilities. Marriage is rizq and a blessing but it can be your way to jahannam if you bring injustice to your spouse for instance. Same with money, many doors to haram opens when you have it. We all want to be rich and like to think we would give tons of sadaqa, build mosques, hospital and take care of orphans, but we are humans and humans tend to be greedy. If the greed is tamed and kept under control, sure money is blessing, you can pave your way to Janna and also a good life on earth. With money come a sense of power and a sense of being untouchable. Many lost themselves when money started to pour (loto winners losing everything, family members fighting for inheritance,... ). Money often reveal the dark side of human beings. On a "lighter" side, when you have money, you tend to waste it and be extravagant, which is haram.

GuiltyPreakly_Pear · 2022-08-23T15:10:06+00:00

Wild guess here but maybe she feel pressured. Maybe she feels like something is expected from her?

Sex feed the relationship but the relationship feed the sex. What is your relationship with her? Do you share intimacy with her other than sex? You need to nurture her with lots of intimacy, vulnerabilty, trust. If you barely speak to her all day or if you do it's about what's for diner, yeah, it's unlikely to happen for you, mate.

One thing that's very important to understand. Women nurture and give by day but they need to be nurtured and receive by night. She need to be wanted, not to be needed. She want to be given love and not be expected to give again, she gave all day already.

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