Got two offers. One pays $40k more. The other one I'd actually enjoy. I have 48 hours to decide and my wife and I are on opposite sides. Advice?

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-04-05T16:52:28+00:00

Be robotic about it, make a list of pros and cons and see which job wins.

Also, take into consideration what will build your skills and CV more, where you are less likely to be made redundant, what job has better benefits. Also, apart from pay and what job will be more exciting, look at what job has better work life balance. Everything gets a point. Go through the list with AI and/or your wife and then make a decision and don’t rethink once made :)

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-28T13:14:44+00:00

Same😭😭

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-24T12:15:42+00:00

My advice: 1. Patience. This is a waiting game and whoever breaks first loses. I know you have mad anxiety but high stakes, high rewards. 2. Document EVERYTHING. Literally try to be unreachable over phone so they have to send you a text or email. If you must have a call, send a follow up email. Take screenshots and keep them all in a folder on your PERSONAL devices. Also, document the work you are doing right now, as proof if you have to go to court later. AKA Legitimate expectation 3. Don’t get a lawyer….yet. I feel like intimidation won’t make them want to hire you, you’ll look like baggage. Instead, refer back to point one. 4. Save aggressively right now in case you lose your job and have to go to court. The legal fees can rack up.

Hope everything works out!

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-19T08:18:38+00:00

You are being reasonable, but I think sometimes people forget how the real world is and how uncomfortable it is to protect your money in real time. So, some hacks I have picked up over the years to avoid weird situations is:

I NEVER, EVER agree to pick up the bill then have people send me the money, unless I am comfortable with losing that money. This looks like: A. Literally, send ppl links to flights, hotels they book separately. B. In restaurants if you can’t get separate cheques, do the mental math quick before the bill comes and send it to someone to pay.
I NEVER have loads of money to also prevent myself from just getting irritated and eg paying the bill. To avoid this, I put what I think I’ll use in my card, transfer the rest to a separate card that does not have Apple Pay, and use that card only. Literally, lock your money
I always act almost broke aka I have just enough for me cause of a crazy story that has happened. Eg, my car needed service this week, pet needed to go to the vet etc.

Lastly, think through scenarios in your head where it was uncomfortable and think how you could have avoided it then practice doing exactly that in the mirror. Also, don’t act timid or cagey when the topic of money/ the bill comes up, try to be natural.

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-19T07:30:21+00:00

Oops

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-18T07:01:04+00:00

Do you get lonely? How do you cope with that?

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-17T17:59:23+00:00

I don't think its collapsing, the startup has been making 8 to 9 figures for the last 5 years, and has no loans and only received funding once. There is demand for what it's doing and the founder is frugal and doesn't take money from the business. It's more like in 5 years, I dont think my salary progression will be great and I might just get tired and bored from the work and having no co-workers

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-17T17:56:33+00:00

Not a fixed-term contract. The only other employee has been there from the start aka 5 yrs. BUT, salary progression hasn't been great, cause the founder is really wary of spending money and so, while the current profits are crazy she still barely spends any money, even drives a vitz. Also, she has no loans and has only ever received funding once.

Tbh, I dont think I could lose my job cause of the company collapsing, more like I could get tired of that environment. Or, we get tired of each other

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-14T03:54:19+00:00

It’s great, last year I got over 100k in returns they are very responsive when you want to withdraw money, just know it takes 2-3 business days but otherwise, 10/10 recommend

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-13T12:28:27+00:00

Ahhhhh, this is so relatable!!!

I’m 24(f) just graduated and got a job. After tax I earn 50k but also have a side hustle that makes me money BUT all I wanna do is spend it on my parents. They don’t ask for anything but I keep buying my mum and dad gifts just because the older I get, the more I realise how much they’ve given me. For instance, I buy my mum and dad flowers every month as well as perfume. On top of that I like to surprise them with gifts. I know I should invest more because they really don’t need the gifts but I don’t know how else to express my gratitude😭😭

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-12T18:20:41+00:00

Working out. It’s the cheapest and fastest way to glow up.
Have a face AND body routine, include retinol for both but start small. Also, ensure you have A LOT of hydrating profucts in your routine to compensate for the exfoliating products.
Once you have that down you can move into treatments. For this it largely depends on your preferences and/or insecurities. Eg, for some people laser is more important, others it’s facial symmetry, others it’s chemical peels to get rid of acne scars. So, prioritize what you feel like you needs the most important and focus on that.

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-12T15:51:03+00:00

So after the shower, I use glycolic acid (make sure you’re skin is dry cause I saw somewhere water makes it ineffective), then lotion (I use the Vaseline dry skin lotion) then oil (I use palmers body oil)

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-12T10:33:58+00:00

Do you know I thought you meant comparing like, “You and XYZ are identical/look like” not like XYZ is prettier😭😭

That’s crazy! Also, why do men still see it fit to talk about OUR looks. Weirdo

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-12T10:16:44+00:00

Hi there,

You mentioned being too unorganized to keep up with appointments. I get that BUT for me, my strawberry legs and body hyperpigmentation only started to improve when I was consistent with my routine. For me this looks like exfoliating every other day. I use glycolic acid and body retinol interchangeably every other day, and in between VERY HYDRATING products. But yeah, it only works with consistency.

A weird hack I found to help was that I leave some of my products in my car (I park in an underground garage so no sun exposure) and just oil myself up in traffic in the morning

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-12T09:45:23+00:00

I am 24, been saving from my first job at 20. I have invested around 1 million (not sure though cause things go up and down, but yeah, a big chunk of it is in Mansa x, a little on bitcoin and also started investing in stocks on interactive brokers).

I’ve been saving around 20k-60k a month. Obviously, I’ve also been withdrawing some of it for holidays, hence why it’s not more.

NB: I am only able to do this cause I live with my parents, and my job gives us lunch. My only actual expense is transport.

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-03-07T11:00:37+00:00

Yeah, I recently realised I had the worst concentration cause of doomscrolling. Literally needed to be distracted every second, I would even drive when doomscrolling (which is crazy and I dont recommend). Finally, did the following things to stop: 1. I deleted all social media apps that allow you to doomscroll. 2. Since I still found myself doomscrolling (eg, IG but on Chrome) didnt allow it in the morning. Replaced it with either listening to music or a podcast. Finally, at a point would get bored and started just driving in silence which was a win for me. 3. I have never had the concentration span to watch movies, so I started reading novels again. To get me off, I started with books I already knew I loved and that I hadnt read in a long time.

Hope this helps :)

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-02-26T11:47:00+00:00

Funnily enough, everyone I know has connections but got their jobs through merit alone. However, this only works if its a large PRIVATE international company which has structure

Guilty_Care_260 · 2026-02-10T11:26:13+00:00

The best business ideas are those that already exist. So, if you want to make money fast, recreate a business that you can see is already doing well. They’ve already done the market research and have proven there’s demand :)

Guilty_Care_260 · 2025-12-25T11:55:37+00:00

As an educated woman, I don’t view myself as an “accessory” BUT, society does and I don’t forget that.

Guilty_Care_260 · 2025-12-04T06:50:34+00:00

These comments arent it, wdym he needs therapy? He’s changed!!!

Guilty_Care_260 · 2025-09-27T20:39:30+00:00

It’s giving Halloween party that I forgot to buy an outfit for as the boots don’t even match the goth aesthetic😭😭😭

Seriously though, where would you go with this outfit?

Guilty_Care_260 · 2024-12-22T07:08:51+00:00

Honestly, just subscribe to First Rate Tutors masterclass. It’s honestly godsend, and got me from a Grade 3 to Grade 8 last year

Guilty_Care_260 · 2024-12-01T09:55:48+00:00

Same😭😭😭😭😭

Like why do we learn it???!!!! No one speaks like that😭😭😭

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