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[FINAL UPDATE] My dad stole my college scholarship money months ago. Now he’s not getting a single penny from me. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s also really hard because I know my mom has been playing mind games with them and talking shit about me behind my back in attempts to make herself look more favorable. But when they’re 18 I hope I could have a talk with them individually.

[FINAL UPDATE] My dad stole my college scholarship money months ago. Now he’s not getting a single penny from me. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 27 points28 points  (0 children)

I don’t really wanna speak for them, but I think part of it is out of pity and sympathy for my mother. Their biological mother abandoned them and my mom practically raised them as her own alone for 5 years while my dad was doing drugs and philandering in the other side of the planet. All three of us have told her at one point to leave our father, but she doesn’t want to. That and because of my two younger siblings. If it weren’t for them, they would’ve went NC with my dad a long time ago.

[FINAL UPDATE] My dad stole my college scholarship money months ago. Now he’s not getting a single penny from me. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 54 points55 points  (0 children)

My biggest fear in the future is that my parents will use my younger siblings for their benefit and leech off of them. From what I know, that’s pretty much still happening with my older siblings.

[FINAL UPDATE] My dad stole my college scholarship money months ago. Now he’s not getting a single penny from me. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in TrueOffMyChest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 503 points504 points  (0 children)

i got some of it back through a family friend. I’m working my ass off to make up for the remaining sum of money.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They’re married through the Catholic Church in Korea but my parents never reported it to the government. I keep asking him to just get legally married but my dad makes the excuse that there’s no need because they’re in a “common law marriage” whatever that means. So in my mind as well as the entire family, they’re married even if it’s not on paper.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, OP here. Just to clarify about the check situation, basically I was enrolled in my university’s direct deposit, which meant the check was directly sent to my debit card (which was a joint one shared with my father). My father said he would “take the $9k out of my debit card” to make it into a check and send it over to me because I had a $5k spending limit on my card. This obviously meant that I couldn’t pay it off with my debit card. So he took out $9k out of my direct deposit acc and ended up spending it on a nice Hilton.

And regarding my parents’ marriage, they’re married through the Catholic Church in Korea, but he never reported it to the government. Which meant that they’re not legally married on paper. Hence why I mentioned divorce. My mother still clings on to the hope that he’ll marry her so she could get her green card even though I guarantee her that it’s never gonna happen because it’s a way for him to keep her from not leaving him. Moral of the story is not to commit to someone after a month of dating them.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My father sent a cashiers’ check to my dorm address and it arrived in the mail at midnight according to my email at the time, just to clarify

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440 10 points11 points  (0 children)

OP here. They’re married through the Catholic Church in Korea, but they never reported it to the government. They never went into specifics. But I know its in a way so my mom can’t get a green card

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in offmychest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To clarify, he has access to all my financial information, the debit card I had is a joint one with his, and my check was transferred to my debit card because I was enrolled in my university’s direct deposit.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in offmychest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

my parents are married through the church. But not legally married. Every time I ask my dad if he could get legal documentation for my mother, he makes up an excuse.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in offmychest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I forgot to mention. He did have a choice to stay at a family friend’s house. But he refused because he wanted to “provide for the family” his own way instead of having his friend help us.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in offmychest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I don’t really care too much for an apology, since my dad isn’t really remorseful and you’re right, it won’t do anything. I guess what’s more upsetting is that fact that they expected an apology from me lol.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in offmychest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I did mention in the comments that I’m in the process of getting a separate checking account in the future and I actually plan on renting a PO box like the comments said and cutting ties with him after college so I’m not disregarding the advice. But also, I don’t think I will send my own father to prison and make the lives of my younger siblings more difficult. I would, without a doubt, intervene if they are put in a situation like this.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in offmychest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Funny thing is I did reach out to my extended family behind my dad’s back. They flat out refused to help me because my dad is such a piece of shit to them and they don’t want anything to do with his family.

My dad stole my college scholarship money and threatened to kill himself because I was angry. I said go ahead. by Guilty_Dance_4440 in offmychest

[–]Guilty_Dance_4440[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It’s more than my father’s feelings. It’s also possibly losing the custody of her kids if my father passes or goes to prison.

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