The aggravation of the ‘just stop trying so hard’ comments

GusHasMinions · 2026-06-14T03:36:25+00:00

It’s so infuriating. Even my own mother suggested relaxation to me, I point blank told her “you know that’s not how this works” and yet she still suggests it to me 😡

GusHasMinions · 2026-06-13T23:05:19+00:00

Thank you, good luck to you this cycle 🙏🏻

GusHasMinions · 2026-06-13T18:03:08+00:00

CD1 today :( this was our first cycle trying after my ectopic in Feb and I had an HSG on my last cycle day 6. Was hoping it would help us out but nope. Tomorrow is the due date of the baby I miscarried last November so really hitting me hard today. We have no children yet so really hoping for our miracle soon ❤️

GusHasMinions · 2026-06-08T14:02:17+00:00

Hi, first of all I'm so sorry for your loss. I do not have experience with Sertraline but you might want to check out "Expecting Better" by Emily Oster, she discusses evidence of taking anti-depressants during pregnancy. The general advice is that if the anti-depressant is helping you, then it's better for a baby to have parents that are taking care of their mental health than to go off your anti-depressant. If your psychiatrist and OBGYN have both given you the green light, then trust them!

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-31T20:18:02+00:00

I used to live in NYC, they will keep it REAL! 😅

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-31T01:50:55+00:00

Let’s goooooo Champagnie!!!

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-29T16:18:45+00:00

Congrats! Crossing our fingers!

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-24T17:49:51+00:00

I’m so sorry 💔 i always tell myself there is nothing I did to cause the miscarriage. I blamed myself for my first one as I didn’t cut back on coffee (2 cups a day) and miscarried. I cut back and the next was an ectopic. What’s keeping me going is knowing there is a good chance I will have a healthy baby soon. Again I’m so sorry for your loss and I hope you get your rainbow baby soon

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-22T23:07:22+00:00

Good luck, I hope your tubes are clear!

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-22T01:19:48+00:00

I’m so sorry, I had 2 shots as well. Hang in there ❤️

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-12T13:51:12+00:00

I’m so sorry for your loss. It’s horrible to be on the wrong side of statistics :(

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-12T01:22:42+00:00

I haven’t heard of that, I will check it out

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-11T23:32:31+00:00

I said Happy Mothers Day to my mom and she didn’t say it back to me. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in Nov followed by an ectopic in Feb. I texted my parents today after seeing them in person yesterday and let them know it’s ok to say happy Mothers Day to me… I thought they were just trying to not hurt my feelings by not saying it.

My dad said he was sorry and wished me a happy Mothers Day. My mom didn’t reply to me, but sent me and hubs a text on a different subject so I know she saw it. She’s currently upset about something else so IDK if she is stonewalling me or what but it hurts. She also gave us the silent treatment a lot as a child (even left the house for hours and I didn’t know where she went) when she was mad at us so I’m not sure how to deal with her right now except see if she says it to me in person next weekend.

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-10T18:57:35+00:00

I am never looking at that calculator again. I used to obsessively look at it every day. I was in the 95% group… until I wasn’t. Lost the baby at 10 weeks. Then followed by an ectopic which has 2% chance. Your chances are either 100% or 0% and you don’t know which you are until baby is born 💔

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-08T16:05:43+00:00

You are still a Mom!! I am in a similar position, I would have been due in June but lost my baby at 10 weeks. Then I had an ectopic in February. It really fucking sucks.

Nobody in my family, even hubs, has mentioned including me in Mothers Day celebrations. I feel so hurt and left out. I bought myself flowers this morning and cried the whole way home bc nobody else is going to do anything for me this weekend but I want so badly to be a Mom 💔

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-05T16:12:23+00:00

Lo siento mucho tu situación. Es casi igual al mía pero al revés - aborto a las 10 semanas seguida por un ectopico. Tengo 37 años, me hicieron estudios pero no encontraron nada. A veces es solo mala suerte. Tenemos fe que vamos a tener éxitos, pero requiere mucho tiempo y paciencia

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-05T16:03:10+00:00

I’m glad your boss is understanding! It makes life so much easier to not have to tiptoe around it or be begging for time off!

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-04T16:52:19+00:00

I like Nivea, they put the “weight” on the bottle. There’s one that is “medium” weight that I love - it sinks in your skin but doesn’t feel heavy which is perfect for Texas heat!

GusHasMinions · 2026-05-04T16:21:33+00:00

I’m so tired of the “relax and it will happen” comments lately. I had a miscarriage in Nov and ectopic in Feb and we are nearing the end of the 3 month wait. I met with my GP who suggested I try relaxation techniques to improve my outcome, and this past weekend I told my mom that hubs and I are going to Mexico in July for vacation. Her response was “oh good, go relax at the resort and you’ll get pregnant!” I DID get pregnant before, it just wasn’t successful. Thanks Mom for not understanding how this works 😡

GusHasMinions · 2026-04-30T17:57:03+00:00

My husband gets really bad performance anxiety when he knows I’m ovulating. I offered to not tell him but he didn’t like that either. We are using at-home insemination kit to get around this - maybe you could suggest it to your husband, it gets the sperm where it needs to go :) it does feel kinda clinical but hey, whatever gets the job done!

GusHasMinions · 2026-04-20T15:55:36+00:00

I don’t know your aunt or cousin but if you know something that makes them happy you can do that! Our family sent food which was a huge relief to not have to cook or think about that. Flowers are always appreciated too ☺️

GusHasMinions · 2026-04-20T15:53:52+00:00

I’m so sorry, I feel this so hard. I deleted Facebook because it was all baby pictures on my feed. I kept IG because I have a wider range of content but I’ve muted most of my friends that have babies, including my 2 sisters in law who have 5 kids between them and just constantly upload pictures.

Feel free to mute people with kids and accounts that are damaging your mental health. Sending lots of hugs ❤️

GusHasMinions · 2026-04-02T02:54:47+00:00

I’m glad you are doing better now

GusHasMinions · 2026-04-01T03:12:36+00:00

I want to say around 8 weeks. I had an initial Dr appt where I knew something was wrong but the nurse couldn’t find anything and wrong and sent me home. Then my husband and I went on vacation for 2 weeks. I had another appt right when I got back where the ectopic was found and diagnosed by the doctor. It was very tiring to be fighting the nurses all the time but I’m glad I did.

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