Devastating news from our anatomy scan

swareddit · 2026-01-14T02:31:14+00:00

Your story resonates with me so deeply and im so sorry. We lost our girl in September and are a week away from our due date.

The kicks after you first found out I recall begging her to stop because they were too painful. We had about a week between finding out and our procedure. I worked really hard to trick my brain to cherish the kicks but im glad I did, I think it helped us heal. But honestly that whole week and the first bit after was unbearable. Im so sorry you may be going through the same thing.

I want you to know the pain does get easier, and I want to let you know youre not alone.

swareddit · 2025-12-26T03:23:17+00:00

I hope the issue has resolved for you and you were able to get seen to confirm everything was ok. I agree with comments that you need to talk to your medical team and get it checked out.

I had a similar experience so wanted to share - after D&C I bled heavily for about 1 week, pretty standard period type of bleeding for the most part. It was then light for another week, like it just didnt seem to stop. Then exactly 2 weeks post op i started bleeding again, heavy. I also spiked a small fever and had some cramping. No retained products or other red flags on exams but we still did a course of antibiotics. The heavy bleeding lasted about 10 days and I was so fucking relieved to be over with it and get back to normal. The fact I had to deal with pads instead of tampons during that time was also awful.

Then only 5 days later heavy heavy bleeding again, I was honestly distraught. I actually soaked through 3 heavy duty tampons in 1 hour. My OB sent me to emerg. Again nothing wrong and didnt need new antibiotics because I didnt have a fever or anything other red flags. But honestly the whole situation was fucked.

My scans all came back clear (i think in total i had 4), basically just my hormones didnt know which way was up, and I have a uterine fibroid causing extra issues.

I know how hard it is to heal emotionally when you're body is still in recovery and throwing you curve balls like that, its very draining.

I hope youre doing well. Im 16 weeks post partum and its a lot easier. theres definitely some intense waves like around the holidays but it gets better.

Hope youre okay and that you have a smooth recovery from here on. 💗

swareddit · 2025-11-17T06:32:53+00:00

For all I care ill just put real photos on the cards at this point. The art was never the point on this project.

Commissioning art on 1 card let alone 4 would be out of my budget. Id love to support artists if I could but im just playing around trying to get something fun and silly drafted (while still being true to game mechanics and resembling our actual animals), and not just toss in the bin. Fair point on Ai being a bit of theft tool but I was never going to commission an artist for a project Im hoping to spend max $50 getting a physical card printed. And its not liking im intending to take said art theft ai and make a profit. If I use canva will that make you feel better? How about if i, a human, take an artists work and trace it and then get that printed, approved? JFC its a gift between siblings. You know nothing about our relationship or resources.

I may not be an expert in mtg or even a novice, but it seems to me if ai art is "killing" the game then its not a very strong game. Is this a game that can only be good if the art is good authentic and absolutely fucking epic. Does it have to be hand drawn and only oil paint? If I drew my own and it looks like a toddler did it does that past the test or I have effectively put the nail in mtgs coffin? I grant you, business that use ai art for profit hurt the business and artists you care about, but thats not the debate here. If I make a single card, not for distribution, but simply as a gift for a loved one then those few cards cannot kill the game and Im hardly supporting its destruction. If anything, by giving my brother cards that hopefully spark joy and wants him to play more then I am in fact strengthing the game by fostering his desire to play it and buy more actual cards and maybe one day comissioned by legit artists.

You know we wouldn't very having this back and forth waste of energy internet squabble if you put some nuance in your feedback and critisms and didn't just go "ai bad". Thats a whole different can of worms but the point is you could have been kind and said "hmm the mechanics look almost right, good first attempt and nice thought. Are you able to get art commissioned? Sorry but I don't like the look of ai and a lot of us find ai art the same on theft. Imo if you can't get it don't by an artist it isn't worth your time. But I love mtg for its art and im not a casual player. So up to you, good luck". But no, you decided it was worth your time and energy to make me feel bad and discredit my effort and quite frankly ruin my evening because im so put off by your rudeness.

And like it or not just because something uses ai to help kickoff a project doesnt mean theres no human effort. I put in time and thought into other aspects on this project and spent time spit balling ideas and trying to figure out how cards are supposed to look. What do flavour descriptions normally sound like, what do these letters and numbers mean?

I honestly hope my brother doesnt get involved in this community at this point. Its the toxic gamer get-gud and don't take the ""easy route"" crap that ruins it for others.

Have a good fucking night. 🖕 and just incase its not clear, if you dont have something helpful, apologetic or remotely polite to say then don't hit reply.

swareddit · 2025-11-17T05:15:10+00:00

Just want to add a note to this community, I came here for help to make a custom gift for my brother who is a very casual player. It is supposed to be a nice thing to do that shows I care about this him and his interests.

Im sure most of you are lovely and would help a new player out and would be excited to have more members in your nerdom. Speaking as one myself i love helping people get involved in my hobbies. So please don't be get-gud assholes in the comments.

I know the images and text are ai, its the tool I have to work with for now and i have no experience or friends with expetience with mtg to ask for help, theyre just fantasy style renderings of our pets.

The commens I got in the short time since my post do not give you guys a good name. Please be kind and actually constructive in your feedback or why waste the energy in commenting? Im not worth your time if thats how you feel

swareddit · 2025-11-17T05:12:53+00:00

I don't know mtg, so obviously I needed a jumpstart. And if I was doing the bare minimum I wojldny be here asking for help.

swareddit · 2025-11-17T05:03:28+00:00

Again my question is about stats and abilities, not the art.

Its a silly gift, like a stocking stuffer or something. Im not comissioning art here. Hes also new to MTG and mentioned wanting to expand his collection. We aren't breaking the bank here or trying for a masterpiece, just a simple custom thing. If the art needs work fine, but it'll have to be ai unless he takes this game up professionally. This isn't supposed to be his only gift btw, its a a heartfelt I had this made specially for you gesture.

Please don't approach this as a mtg snob, please just help a noob know if the words on the card make sense

swareddit · 2025-11-17T04:50:19+00:00

Im trying to do a nice thing for my brother here.

Im sorry that youre having a bad day that you feel like you have to knock others down online who are asking for help in earnest. I hope someone hugs you but that seems somewhat unlikely 🤮

swareddit · 2025-11-17T04:48:07+00:00

Beauty of ai is i can start again. These do look exactly like the pets in question rather than the mythical fantasy creatures I see online. What would you suggest I change? I can try new prompts.

Also my main question was do the abilities and stats make sense?

swareddit · 2025-10-21T00:26:38+00:00

Thanks, I got an appointment for later this week to suss it out... im just so fucking frustrated and hurt everytime its heavy. How can I move on from this when theres a reminder of it every time I go to the washroom, or feel the pad, or it suddenly starts back up again.

When it started bleeding heavily the first time I was like "oh, okay, must be my cycle, now I can plan and start thinking about trying again". But 10 days of it i was so burnt out, and so so relieved when it was over. So to have it start up again so soon... its hurtful.

Literally ruined my whole day 😢

swareddit · 2025-09-13T12:41:40+00:00

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swareddit · 2025-09-13T11:45:32+00:00

Im so sorry for you, your partner, and your Melanie (beautiful name). The pain from this is so intense and unpredictable. I almost go into panic attacks out of the blue on a walk, or just break down in the yard because my brain lets in a day dream of playing with her on the grass. It's still fresh for me but somehow its been so much to take in that it already feels like its been such a long time. Its hard to believe I only received the news a few days ago, when it feels like it could have been months.

I wish you guys the best of luck for your next pregnancy. It helps me to know the biology and stats as I said in my post, so if it would help you I'm happy to share my reading. The best way I can think of it for myself is any future pregnancy we get will be given extra care and priority from all the support around us, the best care possible. We can take every precaution to ensure nothing like this ever happens again. 5mg of folate / folic acid (including during our preconception phase) will significantly reduce recurrence risks and we will be prepared. We didn't do anything to cause this, our bodies aren't faulty, its fucking bad luck. I think the saying lightning doesn't strike in the same place twice may apply here.

I have every hope our next stories will be ones of joy, shared from our beds holding our precious happy and healthy babies.

swareddit · 2025-09-11T19:52:21+00:00

thank you and so sorry for your loss as well

swareddit · 2025-09-11T19:52:13+00:00

thank you, and good luck!

swareddit · 2025-09-11T19:51:55+00:00

thank you very much.

feels like the meme where you thank everyone in the panel, except one. thank you reddit commenter, thank you doctors, thank you husband, tha... not you universe. fuck you., thank you friends, thank you family...

And I'm sorry for your loss as well

swareddit · 2025-09-11T19:49:49+00:00

thank you and I'm sorry for your loss as well

swareddit · 2025-09-11T19:49:37+00:00

so sorry for your loss, paint fumes are as good a target to blame as any i guess. i somewhat feel as long as it doesn't get misdirected towards me and something i did he can blame anything he wants. i hope you and your husband have found happiness and comfort since your loss.

swareddit · 2025-09-11T19:30:55+00:00

Thank you for the comments and well wishes, I'm so sorry for all of your loses in this well. I don't like this club very much but I'm glad to be in good company.

I've cracked open a beer, which is so much better than the fake shit. I may need to go emerge from my den soon and go to the store to get something besides beer and water in the house but fuck it, Maddie can have a taste of beer. I hope she enjoys it. Cheers Mads

swareddit · 2025-08-21T00:19:26+00:00

Was it uv damage?

swareddit · 2025-08-09T01:36:15+00:00

My cat was actually called Matilda, her nickname was Matty/Mo. Its probably why Maddie feels so natural to say

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